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[dannycollins1]

hey, I am 19 years old and I am a single parent to a beautiful 15week old daughter called Mia grace. I split up with the father of my child when i as about 4 months pregnant because i felt he didnt love me. i had a horrific birth with my daughter..She was 5 weeks premature and ended up spending a week in intensive care. The father was not present at the birth, he was down the pub. he did not come and visit out daughter which really angerd me. Also he didnt turn up to sign the birth certificate with me as he was "in bed". he had done nothing for my daughter. He constantly hurts me and puts me down by calling me a bad mum and saying i neglect her if my mum has her overnight which was only once. i cannot put up with it much longer. We agree days in which he can see her and he agrees, 2/3days later he will say "Cant see her today can we change?". i dont know what to do..Any help please?

Sorry for the long rant..

 

[Laura2919]

Hiya,

I am Laura and a single mummy to twins Chloe and Jaycee. I split with their dad 7 weeks ago and I am getting on with my life..

I am waiting to move into my own place and I cant wait..

He doesnt sound like he is being good at all to Mia... I hope your ok

 

[dannycollins1]

yeah im ok its just getting me down big time. I feel like im loosing my mind. he goes out all the time. Im struggling bringing up my daughter on my own with money and stuff and he went and spent like £700 on a new camera the other month. Its getting me down and im really starting to worry about myself naw x

 

[Laura2919]

Do you know what I say?? I say he is the only one who is going to answer your daughters questions and he is the only one who will suffer.

Chloe and Jaycee's dad has been out practically every night, he has even moved on with someone else but I dont care because I have my girls and I love them to death. He is just a worthless bloke who gave it all up because he didnt accept what I had to say!

I deserve better and one day I will find better but I actually for now am just enjoying life. I have my daughters, I am going to have a new house and although money is tight we have each other, I am going out with my mates and having a laugh..

You need to do things too. Get a family member to have the baby and you go out with friends. or meet up with them for lunch or something..

 

[Pricey]

She was 5 weeks early, not 5 months. You say that you felt "I didn't love you", you actually got that wrong, I loved you very much.


And I'm a good Dad when I get the chance to see her, and you have not let me in 2 weeks. I've never called you a bad mum, just stated that you never have before left her on her own while she was ill. I was not at the pub, I was sat up in bed all night waiting for a phone call which I got 4 hours after she was born. I've never changed the days, I was unable to have her one Saturday because I was taking photo's,(because I don't spend that much to do nothing with it) but instead of moving the day to Friday or Sunday, you make me wait another week?? Please don't bad mouth about me on the internet.

Nice to see that you're "in love" with you're new boyfriend too. But remember, I'm her Dad OK? Hope I see her soon. x

 

[Laura2919]

She was 5 weeks early, not 5 months. You say that you felt "I didn't love you", you actually got that wrong, I loved you very much.


And I'm a good Dad when I get the chance to see her, and you have not let me in 2 weeks. I've never called you a bad mum, just stated that you never have before left her on her own while she was ill. I was not at the pub, I was sat up in bed all night waiting for a phone call which I got 4 hours after she was born. I've never changed the days, I was unable to have her one Saturday because I was taking photo's,(because I don't spend that much to do nothing with it) but instead of moving the day to Friday or Sunday, you make me wait another week?? Please don't bad mouth about me on the internet.

Nice to see that you're "in love" with you're new boyfriend too. But remember, I'm her Dad OK? Hope I see her soon. x

Its nice to see you fight for your child! Keep it up and what I said above wont happen. Your daughter wont ask you why you didnt care or see her..

I hope you two can make this work for your child. whether or not you are in a relationship or not she is who counts most

 

[polo_princess]

Come on guys, keep your private life private, you two need to sort your issues out behind closed doors, not on a public forum

 

[Wobbles]

4 hours later ...oh man

I think if both parents work together with communications there would be a less bitter atmosphere between you which will effect your daughter that you share no-matter what ... it needs to be mentally accepted that you both brought this lil girl into the world. Don't confuse a don't give a hoot attitude with little life changes ..."I'm sorry something come up could we please make it x or x day" may happen now and then, it could even work to you "just been invited to xyz could you have her tomorrow night" nothing wrong with either.

Things are clearly emotional between you ...if you guys stop picking at things life will be so much easier for all of you. Keep your daughter as the priority and remember your responsible for doing whats right for her when she can't speak out (not whats right for you).

You say you didn't feel he loved you but have to say I remember nothing but this lad crying out for your love and telling the world so ...maybe theres something deep down and you didn't know how to accept that love? It happens. Never know what could happen if you did

Although as Polo says airing your dirty laundry on the public forum isn't great maybe its helping you guys communicate in an oddly way?

x

 

[scottishgal89]

She was 5 weeks early, not 5 months. You say that you felt "I didn't love you", you actually got that wrong, I loved you very much.


And I'm a good Dad when I get the chance to see her, and you have not let me in 2 weeks. I've never called you a bad mum, just stated that you never have before left her on her own while she was ill. I was not at the pub, I was sat up in bed all night waiting for a phone call which I got 4 hours after she was born. I've never changed the days, I was unable to have her one Saturday because I was taking photo's,(because I don't spend that much to do nothing with it) but instead of moving the day to Friday or Sunday, you make me wait another week?? Please don't bad mouth about me on the internet.

Nice to see that you're "in love" with you're new boyfriend too. But remember, I'm her Dad OK? Hope I see her soon. x

i hope you get to see your little girl soon, you seem genuine and like you really want to see her, a lot of dads arent interested at all.
im impressed at what you wrote to be honest
i hope you can both work something out!

 

[lou_w34]

I hope you can both work this out