Hello, 18 and new.

[Sentiment]

Hi, Im 18 and 8 weeks. I kinda want to explain my situation, I met my Ex online, we were best friends for 4 or 5 years and he finally came and we took it to the next step, and he came down here with nothing, and me and my mom did everything in our power to get him somewhere to live and to get him set up but he decided to leave, and gave me the ultimatum of, I either go with him back to California, or he completely dumps me. And I almost went, but I would hurt my family, give up my college goals, and I would have to depend on complete strangers so, I stayed..and Im very happy about that decision.

Before he left, we did have sexual intercourse, with protection, so I really have no idea how this happened. Im a really timid person so that was my first time doing anything like that, first time kissing or holding hands or hugging.

I thought I could be expecting since the week after he left, but he always got so mad at me. His sister was supportive of me, but they both ended up blocking me on facebook. He told his sister I was crazy about lying about being pregnant. I tried to explain to him that not all periods are they same and mine was strange, but he just kept calling me a liar. He keeps calling me a dumb, crazy, bitch and he completely stopped talking to me all together, and I havent talked to him in 3 weeks because I dont think any woman should have to put up with that.

Im very sad that him and his sister abandoned me, and I dont think he will come back to Louisiana to be a father, since he lives in San Diego currently, and he told me even if I have he wants a paternity test, which really hurts my feelings because I gave him something really special, and its kinda like he threw it back in my face and called me a whole. But there are more important things than our drama, and I hope he makes the right decision.

I know my mom would be supportive, but my grandfather completely abandoned my mom when she got pregnant with me at 20, so Im kinda worried about that. He said some hurtful things to me like, ill never amount to anything when I got bad grades. But my mom defended me, so I think I can lean on my mom. My mom is pregnant too.

I think im going to get my nursing assistance degree, and go from there.

I hope its a little girl..the baby will be biracial. Im kinda excited.

I really need some peers to talk to.

 

[Sentiment]

Please, I really dont have anyone else

 

[rainbows_x]

Hey, welcome to Baby & Bump and congratulations.
Sorry you are having a rough time of it at the moment, just try and focus on your baby for the time being.
Have you told you mum yet, been to the doctors etc?

Best of luck to you x

 

[aob1013]

Welcome to Baby and Bump, everything will be ok x

 

[FayDanielle]

Hrey, first off welcome to BnB you've come to a good place for support.
Im Fay, 19 currently expecting a little girl. Im 28 weeks tomorow.


Your FOB sounds like an immature guy who doesnt want to face up to the responsibility of being a father, and Im afraid some guys are just like that.
But no matter what, good on you for keeping the baby and not taking the easy option.
I know of some fantastic single mums, Im sure you'll do fine! xx

 

[rjb]

welcome to Bnb.
there's a TON of really supportive girls here.
i'm 15, and 16 weeks pregnant.
no father in the picture for me.
it's scary what we all go through.
and we all need a lot of support.
girls here can give you soo much of that.
i really hope everything works out for you, and if you ever need to talk, you can PM me.

 

[AyaChan]

hey welcome to bnb

sorry to hear you having a bit of a tough time.
everyone here is lovely and supportive, im sure you'll make plenty of friends

congrats on your pregnancy.

im sash, 17 and have a 9 week old little girl xxx

 

[emmylou209]

welcome to BnB and congrats on your pregnancy.....
i'm Emma 25 weeks 2day

from the sounds of things you dont need him..... we are all here for you no matter the time someone is always on here....

keep your head up and big

xxxx

 

[RachelRae]

Hey, welcome! I'm Rachel, due with a boy in November.
I'm sorry about your FOB, but I promise it'll be okay.
Definately the first step is telling your mom, it'll make you feel soo much better.
This is the perfect place to come for support, & I'm glad you came here.
I'm also having a bi-racial baby, if you ever need someone to talk to, you can always pm me.

 

[Sentiment]

Thank you so much, I was afraid I was going to be ignored. ><

I havent been to the doctor, Im extremely afraid...my family is very mean if you dont reach their expectations.

 

[AyaChan]

you really need to go to the docs hun, so you can sort out all of your prenatal care

maybe take a friend with you?
or ask your mum? since you said she was supportive?

xx

 

[abbSTAR]

sorry to hear about what happend Hun
but you have come to the right place for support... The girls here on BnB are amazing we can all get through our ups and downs together no matter what if you ever need to talk you can pm me don't feel like your on your own I'm 15 with a baby boy due in September! Honestly tell your mum you'll feel better for it after, that's the only regret I have is waiting soooo long to tell her! Goodluck

everything will turn out ok, I promise
Welcome to BnB xx

 

[Desi's_lost]

Hey welcome to BnB! I'm Desi, 18 and due in Nov. with a little girl. If you have insurance, you dont have to worry that much about the doctors for another 2 weeks because they usually have you come in between 10-12 weeks for your first appointment. If you dont have insurance you need to get on that because it takes forever!! and its such a hassle. Anyway best of luck and congrats!

 

[Sentiment]

I dont really have any close friends like that, I was very quiet in high school

Ill tell my mom, I wouldve told earlier, but I was confused because I had a period in june, but my positives have gone from faint to strong, and I didnt get a period this month

 

[rjb]

I dont really have any close friends like that, I was very quiet in high school

Ill tell my mom, I wouldve told earlier, but I was confused because I had a period in june, but my positives have gone from faint to strong, and I didnt get a period this month

well we're here!
i don't have many friends either.
but girls here have been good friends to me.

 

[totallyashley]

Hello and welcome. I am Ashley and I am 17 (18 on Wednesday!!!) and I am due with a little girl in September. The girls on here are fantastic support and I am sure you will fit right in. I would speak to your Mum. If she had you young then I bet she will understand. Then you can go to the doctor. You need to sort that type of stuff out pretty quickly. Good luck hun x

 

[Tanara]

Welcome to BNB.

Im Tanara im 18 and 15 weeks tomorrow, this is my second.

My family was the same way, i wish you the best and i agree with the rest of the girls, tell your mom, you need to see a doctor.

 

[Sentiment]

Thank you so much everyone.

I was wondering how your parents reacted. Im really afraid. ><

and how did the fathers react, I think im gonna try to tell him again, I dont know why he thinks id lie about it.

 

[FayDanielle]

Ill tell you what, I waited till I was 15+5 days pregnant to tell my mum...and I SO wish I'd have done it sooner.

I was absolutely terrified of telling her, to the point I cried for around an hour and a half before I got round to sending her the text (I text her as I was so afraid to tell her any other way) but It was the biggest relief of my life when she knew.
She was more upset by the fact I hadnt told her sooner and not by text message than me actually being pregnant. Shes over the moon and has been supportive since the very second I told her.

Things will be so much easier for you, knowing you have the support you need around you x

 

[Eabha'sMum]

Hey, my name is Caoimhé...
I am almost 20, and 19wks.
Me and FOB split, but I have found a wonderful guy, who is more than excited about 'his' little girl... You are very welcome, and u will soon become addicted... we all do

fell free to PM me anytime you need to talk
xx