Hello Im new at TTC after a miscarriage..NEED SOME ADVICE!

Hi I'm new here to but I done have a son of my own and had a mc in September. I'm sorry for you loss I know how hard it is not something I'd wish on anyone. I see people who temp I don't really know how to do that I've never tried. I think it's just a waiting game really. So I'm gonna give u some input on what I do know. U asked about the words we use here's a list
Af- period
Bfp- positve test
Bfn- negitive test
Bbs- boobs
I can't think right now but I you have any questions feel free to ask me. I've been on other sights for 4 months so I think I pretty much no them all

 

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Early pregnancy loss is almost always caused by an issue with the fetus, such as a genetic abnormality. It is incredibly unlikely that any stress you were feeling at the time caused the miscarriage. It is much, MUCH more likely that the baby was never going to survive from the beginning. So as hard as it is, please try not to blame yourself.

Even with a regular 28 day cycle, you might not ovulate when your phone app says you're going to. The apps assume that women ovulate at the "normal" time (cycle day [CD] 14). You might be ovulating earlier or later than that. Charting is an easy way to track your personal ovulation and doesn't require insurance or any medical help. There are charting apps you can use (Fertility Friend was my favorite) that allow you to track your fertility signs, when you have sex, etc.

If you start charting, you will learn that there are common fertility signs experienced by most women around the time of ovulation. That includes egg white cervical mucus (EWCM), which is a vaginal discharge that's thin, stretchy (you can stretch it between your fingers), and the color and consistency of egg whites. Checking your cervical mucus (CM) daily is one way to see whether you're about to ovulate.

You can also use ovulation prediction kits (OPKs). You can buy OPKs near the pregnancy tests at any store (i.e. Walmart). They are about the same price as pregnancy tests and you use them pretty much the same way. OPKs test for a hormone in your urine called LH. Every woman gets a surge of LH before she ovulates, usually 1-2 days before ovulation. You usually start taking the OPKs on CD10 and continue on until you get a positive and/or stop getting positives. You can usually assume that you will ovulate 1-2 days after your first positive (however, that's not the case for everyone, as, for example, I ovulate 5-6 after my first positive OPK).

You can also keep track of your basal body temperature (BBT). A woman's BBT changes during the month based on her hormones. You take your BBT (using either a special BBT thermometer or a regular thermometer that reads to the tenth decibal) first thing every morning BEFORE getting out of bed and record it. If you use an app like Fertility Friend, it will automatically create a graph of your BBT, which is a very useful visual. Once you have ovulated, you will notice a rise in your BBT (usually 0.4 degrees or more). That is because the hormone progesterone increases dramatically after ovulation and progesterone causes our temperature to rise.

Ideally, your CM, BBT, and OPK results should all coincide--that is, you should see on a chart that you got fertile cervical mucus the same day you got a positive OPK and your temperature rose a day or two after that. At that point, you can be sure that you have ovulated. If you do that for a couple of months, you will start to notice patterns, such as if you ovulate consistently (some women don't) and if you ovulate at the same time every month. All of that information is also VERY helpful for a doctor to have, if you eventually go in for fertility treatments. Some doctors will have you start charting, if you aren't already.

If you've confirmed that you're ovulating regularly and timing sex right, then it could very well be an issue with your partner (which also sounds possible given how long it took him to conceive his first child). At least 30% of infertility cases are because of male infertility. It could be that your partner has a low sperm count or poor sperm morphology. That is something that a doctor can test using a sperm sample. At least for us, it was a relatively inexpensive procedure (maybe $100?).

Best of luck!

 

Hi and welcome.

I am so sorry for your loss. i know too well how that feels like. I agree with the other ladies. M/c is not your fault. Stress does not cause mc so my dr. Told me. I get pg very easily. I use the wondfo ovulation strips that I buy from ebay. They are very cheap. I use them a few days after I get my period until I get a positive then you get down to business lol. It works for me every time the first or second month. If you need a friend. I'm here

 

Oh, I'm so sorry for your loss.

And I agree with Topanga. There are some things you can do at home to help and she listed all the ones I would have put down. There's also a lubricant (or something similar) called PreSeed that is supposed to help you get pg easier because it's formulated to be as close to your own cervical mucus as it possibly can be. I've found it at our local Walmart in the pregnancy test section. I've never used it but I've heard it's helped some women.

One last thing, stress certainly isn't good for a pregnancy but it's in no way the cause for a miscarriage. I've had 8 m/c (miscarriage) total (plus two kids) and seen about 5 different doctors to help diagnose my fertility issues. Not one of them has said stress was the cause for my m/c and I've asked every single one of them because with my history, I can't help but be stressed in my first trimester.