Hello, i'm new here, can anyone help?x

[MrsOvey]

Hello All,

I know the answers are probably in here somewhere, but i'm very new to all this, so reading through i'm getting very confused with the shortened words! lol

My husband have been trying for a baby for 3 years, i had very irregular periods, very over weight, and have since lost 8 stone. We didn't go to he doctors as i didn't want them to tell me the reason i couldn't get pregnant was due to me being over weight. I am still over weight and refuse to accept that that is the only reason we can't conceive as a lot of my friends have been larger than me and managed it.

Anyway, we went to the doctors had our first set of tests done, and it came back that i had low progesterone. His analysis was normal (he's already had 3 children). Doctors have advised that he has sent our referral off to Pembury Hospital. How long do you think i'll have to wait, is there a standard waiting time? And what happens next? Will we have more tests, scans or anything?

It's all making me so sad and i'm becoming obsessed, especially when friends fall pregnant without trying.

Thanks for reading xx

 

[nikkz89]

just wanted to say not sure on waiting times at your hospital but at mine you have to be seen within 18 weeks however it was about 4 weeks with me, you will probably have a hsg with is to check your fallopian tubes, also you might have a scan to check for pcos (cysts on ovarys) i have pcos and it causes irregular periods, weight gain, excessive hair etc, i no what you mean about doctors putting everything down to weight i had to get my bmi below 30 it was 31!! i didnt think i was overweight yet doctors seemed to think i needed to lose a few pounds (cheeky gits lol) anyhow i understand how hard it is to want a baby ive been trying 6 years and still not happened but keeping my hopes up
good luck xxx

 

[MrsOvey]

Thank you for your reply, everything is all incredibly frustrating, a friend of mine has been trying to help, she fell pregnant without help on the end, she is also larger than me! I have been told the hospital i'm being referred to will help at BMI 36 so that's good for me

My doctor told me i should hear within 8 weeks, i'm trying to put it out of my head, but i just want to know. I know there are a lot of others in the same situation as me which is slight relief Have you been to see the specialist?

xx

 

[zanDark]

I'm not sure about the waiting period, but they will probably ask you to have more testing. Like blood tests and HSG etc. Even if they don't, I think you should insist on getting every single test you possibly can since it will help pinpoint the problem!

Had my first doctor sent us for all the tests, we wouldn't have been TTC for 3 years! he kept pumping me with all this medication and two IUI's when I was perfectly fine and would have conceived if OH had received proper treatment

As for being overweight, I have a friend who's veeeeeery overweight with PCOS and got pregnant twice with no problems don't beat yourself up for having some extra weight and well done for losing so much!!!

I wish you all the best!!

 

[MrsOvey]

Thanks zanDark, being overweight always seems to be given as a reason for not getting pregnant! It's silly really and i won't accept it. I don't know anybody who has been to where i am going for tests etc. Will they give me the tests if i ask for them? Will my husband be re tested too do you think?

I have 2 lots of blood tests and he's had an SA. I have had scans in the past, years ago hinting i had slight pco's but nothing was ever mentioned again.

I think i'm just impatient and want to know everything yesterday. Reading through all the posts on here i feel like i haven't been trying hard enough, just left it down to good old mother nature, didn't think about charts or temperatures or kits or anything! Now feel like when i go see the specialist they'll say i haven't tried properly xx

 

[optimistic13]

Hello All,

I know the answers are probably in here somewhere, but i'm very new to all this, so reading through i'm getting very confused with the shortened words! lol

My husband have been trying for a baby for 3 years, i had very irregular periods, very over weight, and have since lost 8 stone. We didn't go to he doctors as i didn't want them to tell me the reason i couldn't get pregnant was due to me being over weight. I am still over weight and refuse to accept that that is the only reason we can't conceive as a lot of my friends have been larger than me and managed it.

Anyway, we went to the doctors had our first set of tests done, and it came back that i had low progesterone. His analysis was normal (he's already had 3 children). Doctors have advised that he has sent our referral off to Pembury Hospital. How long do you think i'll have to wait, is there a standard waiting time? And what happens next? Will we have more tests, scans or anything?

It's all making me so sad and i'm becoming obsessed, especially when friends fall pregnant without trying.

Thanks for reading xx

Hi there, your not on own hun.
It's tough.
We are all in the same boat.
You feel like you have to jump through so many hoops.
I'm frustrated that its not just my bmi but us both the protocol is based on.
We both need bmi of 29.9 and below for iui/ivf.
For clomid bmi 30 and below.
We have been trying for 3yrs also.
I was diagnosed with Pcos and was given metformin for treatment, this helped me lose 2.5st but I've still got 2 too go. It's really hard, I completely understand where you are..
My friends drop babies out like no problem, it makes me feel a little bit of a failure..
Immensly supportive hubby... Whom I adore..
I have the hcg test coming up...
I wish you lots and lots of luck..
Best wishes with weight loss..
Keep at it : )

 

[zanDark]

I never charted or took my temp or anything like that! Don't beat yourself up about it all you can do in my opinion is make sure that you get every test you possibly can!! Even if you have to pay for them out of pocket! That's much more important than charting.

Especially an HSG! It's very very important to see if everything is clear! I don't know what blood tests you've had done, but getting your hormones and thyroid checked out is a must! As well as the ca125 blood test which is a way to tell if you have endo.

It's better to take your time and get as many tests as you can to pinpoint the problem, than to have unnecessary medications and treatments that can be hard on your body! We spent months getting tested just to find out that the only test we had done in the beginning (SA) was the only one we needed! But the doctor kept saying everything was OK and we should just keep having IUIs until it worked

OH had SA done as well as blood tests for hormones and an an ultrasound of his bits!

I felt like an idiot for letting 2+ years go by and not knowing that all these tests were so important...but I'm not a doctor!! Doctors should make sure everything is checked out before pumping us with clomid and other things!

You should definitely let your doctor know that you want everything checked out first and he should be able to guide you from there! Keep thinking positive...that you're well on your way to being pregnant and you're taking all the steps you can to get there

 

[jules87]

OP I haven't been at this quite as long as you, but I was feeling just as frustrated with it all yesterday. I don't have advise really (I'm new here too.).. Just here to offer a and some

 

[MrsOvey]

Thanks ladies, it's good to talk to people who know what I'm going through. It's not easy to talk to friends who don't have any problems at all.

Hopefully when i get my appointment through they'll be able to go through what's next. My biggest worry is that they'll tell me i have a load more weight to lose! It just puts it all back even longer. I think im going to have to make a list of the tests that are available and ask them.

The tests I've had are 2 blood tests and swabs. He hasn't sent me for any scans as my blood test came back as low progesterone he says I'm most likely not ovulating so sending me to Pembury Hospital for help. My husband has had his SA done and doc said it was fine but started rambling about % and wotnot and i switched off before he started due to him telling me about my result.

Isn't endo uncomfortable and painful as i don't have any symptoms of that although i do get excessive facial hair so think i might be pcos, but a previous doctor said there was nothing they could do. I had blood tests done at my previous docs too and she said my LH was fine so told me to keep trying. Which i did for another 2 years and here i am now.

Good luck to you all on your journeys xx.

 

[optimistic13]

Thanks ladies, it's good to talk to people who know what I'm going through. It's not easy to talk to friends who don't have any problems at all.

Hopefully when i get my appointment through they'll be able to go through what's next. My biggest worry is that they'll tell me i have a load more weight to lose! It just puts it all back even longer. I
think im going to have to make a list of the tests that are available and ask them.

The tests I've had are 2 blood tests and swabs. He hasn't sent me for any scans as my blood test came back as low progesterone he says I'm most likely not ovulating so sending me to Pembury Hospital for help. My husband has had his SA done and doc said it was fine but started rambling about % and wotnot and i switched off before he started due to him telling me about my result.

Isn't endo uncomfortable and painful as i don't have any symptoms of that although i do get excessive facial hair so think i might be pcos, but a previous doctor said there was nothing they could do. I had blood tests done at my previous docs too and she said my LH was fine so told me to keep trying. Which i did for another 2 years and here i am now.

Good luck to you all on your journeys xx.

I think it really helps to talk to other people in the same boat, friends/ family can empathise but don't understand fully..
It sounds like Pcos..
Diagnosis is hard, it can take a long time.
It's hard finding a good gp and gynae : /
Easier said than done I know but ask for another opinion,
Over emphasize your symptoms if need be.
Proven fact of Pcos is carrying extra weight ,extra hard to lose weight as cysts feed on the fat.
I was put on metformin as my lh was off, my insulin isn't regulated properly, I've had success with metformin, losing weight, keeping weight off.
Does your oh have a normal bmi..?
My oh been told he needs to be 29.9 and under also.. : (
Not easy ....
Keep smiling : )

 

[MrsOvey]

Thanks hon, hopefully they'll scan me when i get my appointment through as a next step, they got to rule everything out i suppose?

Husband BMi is 26, so he's fine, the problems are all with me

Guess i just need to wait and see what happens, but i will ask them to scan me, for definite cos if it is going to help then it's worth trying.

If they won't help me with anything due to my weight, i've got about 5 stone to lose! What a nightmare xx

 

[optimistic13]

Thanks hon, hopefully they'll scan me when i get my appointment through as a next step, they got to rule everything out i suppose?

Husband BMi is 26, so he's fine, the problems are all with me

Guess i just need to wait and see what happens, but i will ask them to scan me, for definite cos if it is going to help then it's worth trying.

If they won't help me with anything due to my weight, i've got about 5 stone to lose! What a nightmare xx

Sorry taken so long for me to answer : )
I know its so hard, you are trying your best thats all you can do..
Feel like you have jump through so many hoops, its hard and frustrating.
People don't understand how tough it is to do somethin that us supposed to be the most natural thing in the world...
My bmi was 39 I've got it down to 32 its tough, that's taken 2yrs, my bmi has to be 29 for iui/ivf, exactly as you said its just getting longer and longer, I'm scared itl take another 2yrs to get down to that goal..
I understand your pain...
Just wanted u to know your not alone hunni ...
Keep smiling ..
Keep up the hard work ...
Good luck with your next apt ..
: )))