Help! I think I had a miscarriage last night!

[Essence]

I had gone to the doctor only two days ago to get a blood test to confirm pregnancy even though my expected period had shown, but was so very light it was more of a spotting than anything (Usually I have heavy periods.. have never had a light one before). The spotting started on Friday.. today is Thursday. The test came back showing I had elevated HCG and we were going to do three more tests over the next week to make sure it was going up like it should. She said the levels were elevated, but not enough for her to 100% confirm that I was pregnant (I think she was worried I may have a miscarriage).

So, last night I was laying in the back of our car when my husband was working on it when I got this bad cramp. I never thought anything of it, and thought it was just my body readjusting to what was going on inside of me.

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We got home a few hours later and I went to change my tampon (I was using them for the very light spotting) and I had thick clot-like blood. I removed the tampon, and it was completely covered in this thick mucous-y dark blood. It had only been about three hours since I last changed it, so this came as a shock.

I started thinking as I laid down for bed that I may have ad a miscarriage because I was getting some bad cramping. I finally fell asleep to wake up to blood between my upper thighs. My tampon was once again covered in the same thing. I had lower abdominal cramps and a slight lower back ache. I have no urge to eat anything, and my breasts are no longer as super-sensitive and tender as they have been.

I would have only been at the 4ish week point..and my pregnancy was not 100% confirmed yet until I do three more blood tests over the next week . . . . . What do I do?!?!?!!

 

[cleckner04]

Oh I'm so sorry. I can't be much help so I just wanted to send your way. Good luck with all this. I hope you get the answers your looking for.

 

[colsy]

Can you phone your doctor again and speak to her? I definitely think you should see somebody, whether it's your usual doctor or an emergency hospital doctor. I wish you lots of luck and hope that you get some answers soon. I know how hard it is just not knowing.

 

[Essence]

Being as early in the preg as I was do I still go see the doctor? I know there s nothing she can do to reverse it, but.. is it an emergency? Do they need to do tests?

 

[Cariad_bach]

Im sorry hun ive no answers, i just wanted to send hugs xxx

 

[Essence]

Thank you every one... I have a doctors appointment in three hours ..they fit me in when I asked to speak to the doctor. I feel horrible.

Anyone who has had a miscarriage.. did you let family members know? I dont even care right now about keeping our TTC a secret.. I just feel so horrible and having such bad cramps. Last time I stood up, I had blood stain my pants. I can't help but cry.

 

[srm0421]

I have had 4 MC in total, and those are the ones I know about. I let my family know but only because they knew I was pregnant. One was 2 days after I got a positive HPT, two were unknown to me until I had the MC and the last one was a missed MC and I had to have a D&C. It is a tough choice to make, on one hand you want them to know because it was your child and you want that baby known about, on the other hand it is hard to get so many hugs and some people might say cruel things not knowing that they are cruel which will hurt you further. I hope what ever you decide to do it works out good. So sorry to hear your news.

 

[ClaireyF]

im so sorry huni. when i mc i told family because we were going on holiday with them the following week. i hope you get the support you need xxx

 

[Essence]

I can't stop crying right now. The only person in my family who knows we were TTC was my older sister. She can be.. not so sensitive at times and I am a very sensitive person so when she says things like "God will decide when the timeis right", and I am not a very religious person, I can't help but feel like she is just dismissing me and my feelings. She can come off as cold a lot of times and I really hesitated to let her know. I couldn't tell her over the phone, so I left her message online to let her know what happened and that I am going to the doctor. Pregnancy came easy for her both times, and she has never had a miscarriage so I dont know how she is going to react.

I don't know what my husband will want, but I think what he decided (Whether or not people should know) I will support it as I am on the fence. We wanted it to be a surprise this Christmas when we told them we were pregnant.. but.. now I just don't know anything.

It all happened too fast. I ... guess I wish it never happened (of course) but I understand that it is my body flushing out a fetus that probably wouldn't have developed correctly and things like that so I understand. I.. or.. we.. just wanted this to be good so badly.

 

[ClaireyF]

i know how you feel, if you sister is dismissive of the whole thing then just ignore her. in my experience ppl who have never had a mc do not truely understand the anger, pain, hurt and frustration caused by a mc. even though you never met the little baby you still probably loved it more than anything! if you ever want to talk then you can PM me. take care of your self and give yourself time to grieve. xx

 

[JASMAK]

I am so sorry sweetie. I have had three, so I can totally relate to what you are saying. I am glad you are seeing your DR. Let us know how your appointment goes. As far as telling people, there is nothing wrong with telling people. You would tell people if your cat died, or someone you knew died...to me (and this is just my opinion on it, and I know other's may feel differently) but to me, there is no reason why you can't go ahead and tell those who you think would be a great support to you.

 

[Barneyboo]

 

[adzuki]

hugs!!!!!

Thinking of you!

A

 

[Lazy Leo]

Oh hun, I wish I could give you a hug. You sound the way I felt when it was happening to me. You want to know if it'll hurt, when it'll finish, why it happened, who to turn to and when the tears will stop.

I phoned my doctor when I started to spot and explained to the receptionist what was wrong. I couldn't believe it and it was worse when Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit (EPAU) wouldn't scan me because I wasn't yet 7 weeks. I demanded the hcg blood tests you are having and it wasn't good news for me. It took five weeks for my hcg to fall to zero and I got my period three or four days after that.

I was lucky not to have any pain, but the emotional hurt was beyond anything I have ever experienced, even family bereavement.

I cried for those whole five weeks solid, I even went into the spare room one night as I was crying while my husband was sleeping. He did waken and come in and hold me though.

I didn't tell anyone for about a week after it started, but it started to feel better when I told my mum. I then told a few close friends, and eventually I let my five or six closest friends know, and no-one knew we were ttc. I felt it was best that way as then they can't say something and unwittingly send you into floods of tears.

For me, I finally thought my tears stopped after, I coped with the date of my dating scan with a small cry but then I cried my eyes out when i would have been 12 weeks and telling people. But since then I've been fine, I hope you are too, we all deal with this differently. Everyone on here will support you whenever and however you need it.

I know that with my due date looming in new year I will be here looking for support. For me it was easier to tell people, you do what is right for you hun xxxx

 

[Essence]

Thanks everyone.

I went to the doctor and she confirmed it was a miscarriage. She says that nearly every woman who is TTC will possibly have a miscarriage in her life whether they know it or not.

So, that done she sent me to go get some blood work down.. and I passed out when they did it possibly because I am already losing so much blood with the mc, and it was 3:00 in the afternoon and I had yet to eat anything because I have no appetite. They put me in a wheel chair and made me stay for an hour alone in a small room staring at the wall. Then they pricked my finger to see if my blood sugar was good, which it was, made me have some juice and cookies, then I was allowed to leave.

I went to have a bath when I got home and when I got in it was freeing cold. For some reason the water heater wasn't full of hot water so I had to have a luke warm bath. Argh, I feel so horrible right now. No more crying- I have come to terms and know that I can TTC soon.. although the doctor said that until my HCG levels are back to normal (This depends on how quickly the miscarriage is over with) then I will not ovulate and she expects it may even take up to 9 weeks before a period shows up. That was horrible news.. talk about having to wait!!

 

[Sash13]

So sorry you have to deal with this. We told the family because they knew I was expecting - and they have been a tremendous support. Sometimes I wish they didn't know any of it so I could just grieve quietly & on my own ... but I know this is the best way.

You need to decide what will help you most in the long run - dealing on your own or leaning on them for support. Only you can decide that.

 

[dizzy65]

im sorry

 

[Wishfull]

Im so sorry to hear that you are in so much distress. I would go to your doctor if you havent already.

I i can give you any advice i would say please please dont use tampons. Its not good for you if you are having a miscarraige. Use pads so you can keep note of what you are passing.

so sorry darling.

xxxxxxxxx

 

[Lazy Leo]

Im so sorry to hear that you are in so much distress. I would go to your doctor if you havent already.

I i can give you any advice i would say please please dont use tampons. Its not good for you if you are having a miscarraige. Use pads so you can keep note of what you are passing.

so sorry darling.

xxxxxxxxx

Just reading this good advice Wishful and it's hit me that I haven't used tampns since my m/c in July. Don't know why, but i guess it must be one of the less obvious seide effects for me I suppose.

Try not to worry about the time it will take hun, the doctors have to tell you about all the possibilities. Think of it as recovery time for your body and mind.