help me please

[xjade_edenx]

hiya, one of my closest friends is pregnant she is the same age as me and as you can tell i already have a baby, but she won't tell her mum she is roughly about three months now, she hasn't beento the doctors or any thing and i am starting to get impatient with her even though its nothing to do with me, part of me feels like going to hers and making her tel her mum whilst obvously giving her support , she would never have an abortion which i totally agree with that , her boyfriends a dick and treats her like crap about this whole being pregnant and carrying his child, but im not sure how to help or even is she wants me to.... what can i do to show my support but doing whats best for her without making her feel like im pushing her to tell her mum?
thanks

 

[AppleBlossom]

If she wants to keep her baby she HAS to go to the doctors. They both need antenatal care, blood and urine tests etc to make sure there are no problems. I think she should sort that out first, then tell her mum. She can't keep it a secret forever and it would be so much better if she told her sooner rather than later x

 

[nikky0907]

Did you share your experiences with her?

Explain to her that she must go to the doctor, hers and her child wellbeing are at stake. Also to pursuade her more you can tell her how beautiful it is to see your child on scans and she's missing out on it.
After she sorts it out she needs to tell her mom. Honestly, such thing can't go unoticed and the sooner she tells her, the less upset her mom will be.

 

[kellysays2u]

She needs to be getting antenatal care. Offer to her you being there while she tells her. Tell her how you told your mom. Or if you could at least get her to go to an appt maybe she can get a scan and then she can just give her mom that to tell her... Or another thing if your willing to help is she could tell her mom whats going on over the phone while she is at your house so that if her mom does get angry maybe she could stay there with you and you could support her till she can go home and face her mom.

 

[xjade_edenx]

Did you share your experiences with her?


I told her what my mum was like when she found out which made it better for her i think she was more confident. I went round her house and was the supportive friend ,i tod her what she was missing out on and that her mum may not be that up set because her sisters can't have kids, and in the end she told her mum and i was rite she was not up set just disapointed as any parent would be, she went to the doctors with her mum today and every thing is fine she has her booking appt with the midwife on monday.
thank god for me lol....... that was a joke he he

 

[aidensxmomma]

It's good that your friend has everything figured out now. I wish her a happy and healthy nine months (or a little less