Help! Need Advice IMMEDIATELY!

[Katherine1213]

Hi everyone, My names Katherine and I`m 19 years old. Just last thursday, I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant, and was given a week to think about my decision on what I want to do with this baby. When I found out I was pregnant, I was extremely excited! But the problem is my mom isn`t. Tomorrow is when I tell my decision to my mother, and I know it won't turn out well.
I just need any advice from teen moms, how the experience is and what to expect...as well I need someone I could talk to- this is extremely hard, because once I tell my mom...she told me she will no longer be in my life.

My boyfriend is still in the picture, he is older than me and has a secure job now, and is getting another one. So we are fine finically, as well my father passed away and Every month since my dad passed away I was given an amount of money up until I was 18- my mom is threatening not to give it to me..but it was written out in my name. I am just overwhelmed right now with my mom- I can't get through to her that this decision that I am making may be hard, but its worth it.

PLEASE HELP!

 

[ClairAye]

My mum wanted me to get rid of my baby, she was not happy! She came around with in a few weeks though, it is a huge shock to her as well! Just give her time

Oh and I'm Clair, I'm 18 and my son Jason is 7 months old today

 

[Katherine1213]

How is it raising a child at 18 years old? My mom won't turn around, i can see it

 

[ClairAye]

I'm guessing the same as any age tbh, has it's tough times but I love it and wouldn't change it for anything. I was 17 for the first 5 months of his life, I thought the same but my mum didn't take long, then it took my dad until I was 25-27 weeks to come around

 

[Chezzz]

it was my OH's mum who didnt want me to keep our baby, but of course i did!
she is sooooo excited now its unbelieveable!

also my best friend found out she was pregnant recently (shes 20) so older than me.. her mum begged her for the A word.. my best friend said no. (she lives with her boyfriend and they both work, baby was planned) and now her mums cominng around to it..

your mum might surprise you when she gets used to the idea.. OH's dad has finaly only just come around now.. but he has done & everyones really excited now!
cant help about your mum because mine was fine with it.. but like i say, just give her time, honestly she'll get better xxx

 

[Katherine1213]

Well thank you. That helps a lot. Tomorrow is my first ultrasound, and I am planning on bringing it to my mom so she can see, that there is life in my body. My mom just thinks that this`ll ruin my life, and I won't be able to reach my dreams. But, this is life in my body..and if it means that I have to take a few years to reach my goals..so be it! As you said, your friend has a job, I'm planning on getting one too. My boyfriend is a certified acupuncturist and is making a good amount of money, and insists that if my mom decides that i can no longer live under her roof, that he would get an apartment for us and we can start new with this baby !

I`ll know more tomorrow after the ultrasound how far along I am, they have just guessed that I'm 6-7 weeks or 9-10 weeks. but they`ll be sure tomorrow. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL UPDATED!

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Being a parent at any age is difficult. It takes your entire attention and commitment. I was 17 when my now husband and I planned our first child after a missed miscarriage at almost 13 weeks. It's been a long journey... I've had my moments of extreme weakness where I've just completely broken down and cried. We've had out disagreements on parenting and discipline. In the end, it's worth it. In the end, the tears and stresses, the pain and sometimes even loss of loved ones and friends, is overcome with the complete love you feel for your child. The love you already feel. In the end, I wouldn't change a single day.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

I'm Lisa by the way. 20 years old with a 2.5 year old, and number two on the way.

 

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[lizmageeful]

Although my parents were dissappointed at first, they quickly came around to the fact that I wasnt giving our baby up. My OH's parents actually kicked him out of the house when they found out I was pregnant, and were very stubborn in their unwillingness to feel anything for our child. We got engaged yesterday because of some issues we know we are going to face in the very near future regarding his enlistment in the military, but when his parents heard we were planning on getting married before the baby, they started accepting it a bit more. Every parent takes it differently though, and they usually come around in their own time. have a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[missmiylove]

It's unbelievable to me how parents who claim to love their children will disown them for getting pregnant.
I'm pregnant with my first... & judging by the way I already feel about my unborn baby I think the love you feel for your child overshadows the hardwork & stress of having a baby.Being a parent is not easy for anyone who actually takes care of their child but I think it's so worth it because you get this little perfect bundle of life. It's such a gift-that's why I can't understand why so many people are told to get an abortion like that little life inside of you is nothing.

Goodluck.. the great thing is that you have a boyfriend who's there and willing to support you and the baby. I hope you keep your little baby!

 

[miabeth]

I haven't been in this situation, but I'd still like to comment if that's okay!

I think there's a big possibly she'd come around, like a lot of the girls said their parents did. And if you think about it, that's okay. Deciding to have a child is something that affects a lifetime, so if your mom is mad for a few weeks, even a few months, it's not THAT huge. You could get through it. Especially with the support of the FOB, and even more if his family is accepting!

After my mother found out I was sexually active, she told me if I ever got pregnant she'd make be have an A. I would NEVER allow that, and it def took me back her saying that, because she was a teen mom herself. I suspect she was too far along, and that's why she didn't get one for herself. (I have a distant memory of her mentioning being three months before finding out)
She probably would be mad at first, but I'd know she'd get over it eventually.

 

[Katherine1213]

Well thank you! Its just so extremely hard when you don't have your own mothers support, in something that is such a miracle. you know? its hard, and my mom was prepared yesterday to kick me out and live with my boyfriend. But is giving me 5 more days to think things through.

 

[Katherine1213]

lol sorry, posted in the wrong one

 

[jozylynn896]

Did you tell her yet? I know how you feel :/
I'm so scared to tell OHs family. But my mom was overjoyed and so was the rest of my familly!

 

[Laurhilou]

Hi im Laura and 27 weeks pregnant with a little boy.. My mum didn't want me to keep it at first, but now she is totally excited and keeps buying things. it took her a week to accept it, and then about 2 more weeks to actually start to enjoy my pregnancy with her. when i went round on a tuesday id look at her iphone history and she would have googled "8 week embryo" "how big is a baby at 12 weeks" and shit like that... She loves it now. Stick to ur guns, its ur life, ur decision....

 

[jozylynn896]

Hi, just wondering how things are going?xx

 

[MamaButler]

Well thank you. That helps a lot. Tomorrow is my first ultrasound, and I am planning on bringing it to my mom so she can see, that there is life in my body. My mom just thinks that this`ll ruin my life, and I won't be able to reach my dreams. But, this is life in my body..and if it means that I have to take a few years to reach my goals..so be it! As you said, your friend has a job, I'm planning on getting one too. My boyfriend is a certified acupuncturist and is making a good amount of money, and insists that if my mom decides that i can no longer live under her roof, that he would get an apartment for us and we can start new with this baby !

I`ll know more tomorrow after the ultrasound how far along I am, they have just guessed that I'm 6-7 weeks or 9-10 weeks. but they`ll be sure tomorrow. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL UPDATED!

My mom had me at the age of 16- I'm so grateful that she did . I can't say that it was always easy for her, but she was an amazing mom. Keep your head up and do what is right for you . If your heart is telling you that you won't feel right if you don't have this little miracle than stick to your guns . Congratulations! Being a mom (I have a 2.5 y/o) is the most amazing gift!