Here is my story!

[Laura2919]

We met back in 2005 when I was 18 and he was 16. I fell in love with him almost immediately but I wouldnt ever tell him that! Even now he thinks I hated him!

We were happy for 2 yrs and then I caught him emailing another girl and I ended it. It happened another 2 times and stupid me. He was young I was young and I left it at that.

In August 08 I found out I was pregnant and carrying twins and it all changed we were happy, no more texting, emailing other girls and we were ready to be a family.

In January 09 I had the twins early and we got over it together, we were a family and although it started off rocky we got there and we were blissfully happy.

I havent ever really felt a part of his family but it all came to a head on mothers day when we went round there only to find a wedding we had been invited to was an evening invitation and his sister all day, So I was slightly annoyed but I let it go because its not his families fault although it would of been nice to have been told before it got blurted out!!
Then!!!!! His mum had booked to go to the wardorf for tea and cakes and asked me to go the week before and I said I would try and find a babysitter. anyway when I asked his sister she said it was her mum and dad going, that ruled a babysitter out for me and told her I couldnt go because I didnt have someone to watch the girls.
On sunday I found out that it was a girly day and that Mark's dad werent going!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was sooo soooo sooo angry and I couldnt wait to leave.

When we left it started talking and by the time we got home (3 roads away) I was practically a whole road in front lol!.

The monday I ended things with him, I told him I understood that he could put his kids before me but I didnt expect his family to be before me aswel. along with all the other things he does! He never said I will have a word with mum he just kept on about how I am silly and I should know better at 23 and blah blah blah!!!

Since then we have argued constantly him telling me I have an attitude problem and me telling him he is a filthy twat and referring to his past!!!!

Now, I think we are completely done and I feel a bit lighter. able to move on.

Although he annoys me I love him and I will share a bond with him but I think I cant forgive him choosing his family and some things I said he would never forgive, As much as I love him I want to smack him in the head because I really cant forgive.

Thanks for reading ladies xx

 

[xJG30]

 

[Linz88]

i dont think you should expect him to put his family in front of you, if it was his cousins id understand but its his immediate family && its not really a big deal.. its not his fault there being that way with you.. i think you should try sort things out.. cause imagine if he did choose you over his family.. who would he have no that you ended it.. family should ALWAYS come first!

 

[Laura2919]

I dont think you understood what I meant.
I expect him to do right by his family which is me and his kids. He chose to ignore how I felt and you think thats not a big deal?? Your supposed to be in a relationship and thats what love is supposed to be all about. I told him I didnt feel a part of his family and he chose to ignore that rather than to tell his family how I felt.
I never ever sided with my parents when it came to him because lets face it my parents will be there no matter what like his would be but when you have a family its that family that you put first. You do what you feel is right for them and he chose to ignore how unhappy I felt to save his families feelings, causing this huge row rather than to just tell them to make me feel more welcome. Its been 5 yrs!! You would think they would make an effort

 

[expecting09]

I see what you mean, your meant to be his immediate family now Sometimes it's hard with inlaws but if theres other things contributing to you splitting up I understand xx

 

[tinkabells]

Im sorry to hear this, but i agree, your his no1 now you and your girls and he doesnt listen to you, its wrong, hope your ok and see your only down the rd from me, hugs to you all xxx

 

[Laura2919]

Im sorry to hear this, but i agree, your his no1 now you and your girls and he doesnt listen to you, its wrong, hope your ok and see your only down the rd from me, hugs to you all xxx

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Yep its horrible. I think we are on speaking terms now and we are both taking the girls to the park later on today. Maybe we can move on or maybe we can work it through who knows. I was to take one day at a time and no rushing. No one knows what life has in store and maybe we are all a bit hasty sometimes but you never know.
I am just trying to do what is right for Chloe and Jaycee. Thanks ladies x

 

[Hollys_Twinny]

hope u can sort things out! It seams to me that his sister is the 1 with the problem not the rest of them x