he's now adamant on coming to the birth but i dont feel comfortable

[tiasmummy]

im due to give birth next week and my baby father is adamant he wants to be there to cut the cord and see both me and our daughter in our most beautiful light (not) the problem is i REALLY do not want him there, hes in a new relationship and was abusive towards me throughout my whole pregnancy bt yet again hes trying to takee control and make me feel like i should do what he wants....hes trying to guilt trip me by saying im taking his bonding time away by shutting him out of the labour room (even though ive agreed to let him in straight after) i just dont know what to do, any advice ladies?

 

[resursval]

He was abusive, do you want such a man in your child's life? He has a new relationship, do you want a stranger to take care of your baby when the baby is with FOB?
If it was me I would do everything NOT to let FOB bond with the baby when he's such a shitehead!
Sorry if offended, just speaking my mind here

 

[lyns20]

stick to your guns and tell him he can come in straight after the baby is born as its about u feeling ur most comfortable during birth

 

[Mummy1995]

If you don't want him there then just don't have him there hun. My FOB won't be there even if he paid me a million pounds, i wouldn't feel comfortable and im not sharing my first moments with my daughter with an arse.

Just don't tell him when you go into labour hun so he doesnt have the chance to be there. Give him a text/call afterwards and let him knw baby is born and that he can come to see them. That is what I will be doing

most important thing is you are comfortable otherwise things may start to go wrong. Big hugs xxx

 

[teal]

Just ignore him. You're the one giving birth and you're not completely comfortable then he doesn't need to be there. He has no right to be there and when you're in hospital they won't allow him near you without your permission. You're extremely vulnerable when you're in labour and the last thing you need is an abusive ex throwing his weight around. xx