Hes so Bloody Cruel!

[LonelyAngelx]

Last night my daughter woke up screaming, she usually does this every so often, i have no idea what it is but i think shes started having nightmares last night my daughters dad stayed over to help out and he started getting Angry becuase she was throwing herself all over the place and wouldnt stay still .. he then hung her UPSIDE DOWN i stood there with my mouth open... i feel so bad for not saying anything i was shocked ... do you think thats cruel? hes never been like that before im kinda worried to leave her alone with him on weekends now incase it happens again :s i think he then realised she was crying cos she had a nightmare and could see in his face he was upset for doin it.. but i didnt speak up and have a go at him cos he likes to twist stuff around on me and make it my fault

 

[littlekitten8]

OMG hun that is totally unacceptable! I would sit him down and have it out with him. I'm not surprised you have doubts about leaving him alone with her!

 

[LonelyAngelx]

I Know.. i feel i cant say anything to him cos hes always right im always wrong so i just keep my mouth shut.. i know it was wrong of him to do that to her.. i feel quilty for not speaking up i know he loves his daughter... he tells me hes the love of his life i just dont get why he did that last night

 

[morm91]

well.. the best idea is to ask him what he though he would get out of swinging her upside down. I know that some docs say that if ur baby is collic that flipping them around clears up the gas and they will sleep better.. (maybe he heard this somewhere?)
If your really that worried you should go see someone about it. but to avoid getting ur BD angry try a civil conversation asking him what he was thkning. the moment he tries to turn things over and make it ur fault walk away. come back in a few minutes and tell him he has a choice to talk this out like civil people or that you will get social services involved.. If he doesnt take the matter seriously then then you know going on with the conversation is a waste of time. Hope this helps

 

[littlekitten8]

Dont feel guilty for not speaking up. Quite obviously you were shocked by what happened. But dont let him get away with it. You need to explain that his behaviour was unacceptable and that he could have seriously hurt her. Everyone loses it once in a while but to take it out on your daughter is not on in any situation

 

[kirst1805]

I'd have words.. and threaten to hang him upside down, see how he bloody likes it.

I don't care how upset he was after, there is no excuse for this and I'm not surprised you are having doubts about leaving her.

Kids have nightmares end of story, If he can't deal with it maybe he isn't ready to have her overnights etc.. Sorry for the rant hun..

xxx

 

[LonelyAngelx]

Its fine i completely agree with all of you... ill be having words dont worry x

 

[nickyXjayno]

Are you positive he didn't think she was having a tantrum or grizzling or something and hung her upside down to make her laugh/distract her?

 

[LonelyAngelx]

Thats the thing im not sure, maybe he was trying to distract her but from where i was standing it didnt look like it.. i was right next to him :/

 

[Laura2919]

Talk to him, just ask him why he did that and see what he says. Thats unacceptable to do that and he needs to know it

 

[MummyJade]

you need to find out why he done it, but dont say is it because you thought she was just playing up and you thought she would laugh, cos thats putting words in his mouth and he could just agree so you dont kick off...

if my fob done that he would of been out of house and i wouldn't even let him explain...
x

 

[babybambi2011]

i dont like leaving my daughter alone with my ex as everytime she cries or does something he doesnt like, he shouts at her! shes 3months old, crying is a babys way of telling us were not doing something! so i know how you feel, its a tuffy really