Hey Everyone

[iyawo]

I hope everyone is doing well, A little about my situation,
I'm pregnant for the second time within the last year....i lost the first one. My boyfriend left about a month ago now. I'm pretty hurt and pissed. He didnt want the baby...number one in theory before it actualized and number 2 just plain didnt. He started treating me pretty badly in the past few months...neglecting me and getting rude and seeing all my concerns and attempts as needy and insecure. I love and hate him all at once and miss him. He is now trying to offer me lump sump once a year payments that are way lower than im obligated to recieve through child support. He is angry when i say i want it to be legally mediated. Nothing i have said is okay...ive tried to be amicable and he is angry angry angry. This is my first child and i feel guilty because i feel like im not sure what normal bonding is supposed to be but it seems so abstract! And im still shell shocked i guess from be left as well. To boot, i went to a reg. counsellor who is also clairavoyant who was bringing things up like she doesnt see this as a good time for me to be having a baby, would i consider adoptioin, its going to get really ugly between us, etc. Its hard keeping my spirits up right now... and I'm freakin lonely! Any support would be most welcome.....

 

[xJG30]

 

[MummyJade]

x

 

[TiredNurse27]

That counciller whose also a 'clairvoyant' would lose any so called registration over here for saying such shite. Don't take the lump sum either he needs to look after his child financially, if he didn't want to, he should have been more careful....not once but twice!!

 

[Rhio92]

That counciller whose also a 'clairvoyant' would lose any so called registration over here for saying such shite. Don't take the lump sum either he needs to look after his child financially, if he didn't want to, he should have been more careful....not once but twice!!

WSS! /\ She should not be telling you such shit!

 

[chistiana]

Who the hell does this counsellor thinks he is????? I am a psychologist and even if i did believe this shite i wouldnt utter it simply because this is an issue far FAR away from what he should be concerned with! Anyways, as tirednurse27 said, your ex (who excuse me for saying this doesnt sound such a great guy) should have been more careful. Get legal advice, lift your spirits up cause you're expecting a beautiful baby and if you have to get some space. This is the most important time of your life, LOOK AFTER YOURSELF!
lots of

 

[justlove]

Hi and welcome to the single parent forum.

Just can i say quickly as someone who does readings (clairvoyance what ever you like to call it i dont like the labels) , what she has said to you it totally and utterly wrong, never would a true reader ever say such things, also not the ways of the S.N.U. Also given that she is a counsellor this is totally wrong, she would be struck off for saying such things. IMO I really think you should find yourself another counsellor and please dont take anything she has said to heart!

You are going to be a great parent! x

 

[Groovychick]

 

[iyawo]

Thank you everyone... I am not taking his pathetic lump sum offer...its about half of what i will get. and the counsellor/clairavoyant i am considering not paying...it was over the phone.. what do you guys think? i feel slightly guilty because she took up her time, but i agree, i think it was extremely irresponsible and unhealthy the session in itself. I am sooo upset today. Why is it that friends under the guise of being supportive and helpful alot of the time end up being overbearing and imposing with their "advice"? One of my so called friends today told me that me and the father both made a mistake. I dont want to think of this baby as a mistake. I think of it as fate. Im really hormonal and sensative today and also because of this whole dumb ass situation, but i need to feel solid and backed up with the fact that im going through with it.

 

[chistiana]

I guess your so called friends might have been receiving ex phone calls. This is your choice, your baby and your baby. And this little angel chose you for its mummy so it is definitely not a mistake. I think you ll be a great mum simply because you are standing up for this LO even though so much is going on. We are here for you and i am sure in time you ll find a proper great guy to be a perfect daddy for your LO. Also, i would say dont you even think of paying that counsellor, she/he is lucky you're not suing! pm me if you re ever too low and need a chat.xxx