Hi!

[stardust599]

Thought I'd introduce myself.

I'm a mummy of two beautiful kiddies.

I've finally done it, I asked my OH to leave and he's done the right thing and gone. In my head we were over a long time ago and the relationshhip was now good for me, kids or ex-OH.

He can't behave sensibly, obviously he's hurting but has gone on about me being a shit Mum, he'll go to a solicitor etc. etc.

I have made him homeless but I couldn't do it anymore, last night he was shouting and swearing as usual and threw my laptop across the room, during arguments has lunges for me and has gritted teeth and says horrible things. His mother has had a go at me for making him homeless but what else could I do, he can't stay around the kids like that. Now him and his Mum are demanding money off me that was paid for the deposit for our house a year ago and our holiday (going in 7 weeks, hoping Mum can come with me and DD will be heartbroken if we can't go)

Can't be bothered with the hassle and heartache. He is a great Dad and has always done 50/50 with them so I'm hoping he sorts himself out and and can have the kids over at his. I know if he comes over here he will spend the whole time throwing abuse at me and making life difficult! Last time he claimed to be suicidal etc. and I just can't do that anymore

 

[Meezerowner]

Good for you for taking a stand! He shouldn't be around you or the children if he is losing his temper like that.

It might get harder before it gets better as you prob have to sort out loads of stuff with money and stuff. But you have made a 1st step.

 

[teal]

Sounds like you've done the right thing xx

 

[lovejoy]

You did the right thing.

His just having a hard time coping with the break u, losing his girlfriend,kids and home, that's where his anger comes from.
If his a good dad he should be allowed to see his kids,but I think you need to remove yourself from that situation for now. Having visits at your house with you there is just pouring salt on a wound. Maybe you can drop the kids at his mums house or even your mums.

The situation needs time to calm down. It's hard but don't give in to his abuse etc. as for the family holiday the right thing to do would be to give him the money back or cancel it all together, deposit for a new house no way in hell.

 

[MummyJade]

You def did the right thing....
My ex went I ended it, I had him and his mother demanding back our daughters cot, cos his mother had bought it, She also paid my deposit of 500 so before that could get thrown in my face I had him sign a piece of paper to say he was to pay his mum the child allowance untill the sum of 500 had been paid... (dates all written down)... Weather he paid her of not I have no idea... But that wasnt my problem as he wasnt paying for his child...

Holiday again you could sort out a payment plan as there is no way he can demand it fully back... My solicitor told me because nothing was in writing and it was a gift I didnt have to pay anything back, but I didnt want to be owing them anything...

It does get harder before it gets better, but you will notice your attitude and spirit pick up straight away, its just the crap you have to deal with while hes mad... (purely cos you've stood up for yourself) x

 

[babycrazy1706]

Well done for taking that huge step. They have no right asking for deposit money back as your children need that home, make sure you claim child support cos he may think he doesn't have to pay if you 'owe' him money.

Big hugs. Xx

 

[moomin_troll]

Hi, like I said on ur other post, u haven't made him homeless, he's done that himself the child.
Welcome to the group lol

 

[Natsku]

 

[ellebelle]

You did the right thing!
You must feel proud of yourself. Stay strong!