Hiya , here I am now

[taperjeangirl]

32 just been dumped by a partner of 8 years and I have a 2 yr old, and a 14 yr old

I'm devastated, I dont know how to function, I feel like this last week has been a total blur.

I've tried staying away from him and not contacting him and I seem fine then he goes and texts me and winds me up

Could really do with some advice on how to get rid of all this pent up anger, so that I can get through Christmas and not spoil it for the kids.

How do you carry on with access to the kids without punching him each time?

Just to add, he just "decided" last week that he doesnt love me anymore and its not the same as it used to be Perfect timing for Chritsmas eh!!!

 

[bobblebot]

Aw huni big hugs (((((((())))))))) I know it hurts right now but believe me it will get betterwith time. I'm on my own have 5 kids2,13, 14, 16and 17 and expecting 10weeks. My ex husband was a cheat,liar and emotional abuser and had a baby with someone else.......lovely guy....sad thing is I still love him but I know I deserve better.


Try keepbusy over xmas, go for long walks, visit friends, accept any invites and try not think of him, access arrangements are alway worst, bet thing is agree time have him knock on door and just have your 14 year ols answer and take little one with him/her. That way you won't have see him, explain to him reason for this as yu want as little face to face contactas possible so YOU an move on. It will show himyou are strong too which is good and will jolt him as initially when men leave they get off on being in control, having made decision to leave yet feeling like the ex wants them back.

You taking control back will help maje you feel stronger, if you're lonely over xmas there are plenty of sites you can chat on to keeo yourself busy. Things will get better, I get lonley at times but I wont let it get to me, Ive built up a great circle of friends,some married, some single, some divorced and they keep me going.

What doesn'tkill you makes you stronger hun...best wishes.xx

 

[littlekitten8]

Its hard. Just set yourself aside some time where you are allowed to be angry, away from the kids, and try not to think about him the rest of the time. As bobblebot said try to keep busy. Good luck with it all and we are here when you need to rant x