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[klouise1993]

Ok so been up to my partners nans today and all she kept going on about is my miscarriage and all the people she knows who are pregnant, yeah i know it's good to talk about sometimes but it's everytime i see her and i know i should say something but being as she not my nan i feel uncomfortable saying something. Me and my partner both feel uncomfortable to say something I don't know what to do as i've just come back home and i feel as miserable as anything when i was there aswell i thought i was just going to break down in tears! has anyone got any advice please as i don't want to stop seeing her for partners sake but i also don't want to keep feeling like this and having to keep going over it again.

 

[ScorpioLoz]

Hi I can totally empathise with you on certain parts. My partner's nan had also taken it upon her in inundate me with newspaper articles on miscarriage, new proof of items contributing towards mc, foods to avoid, super foods, weight loss... Everything! And while she is only trying to educate me as I don't read the papers, it is hurtful. But like you, she's not my nan so I don't feel right in telling her "no".
My partner wouldn't say anything either for fear of upsetting her but at the same time it was upsetting me.

She did ease off after a few weeks but now I'm pregnant again, she again is giving me all these articles on a safe pregnancy. I just say thank you, put it down and 'pretend to forget' them. She will soon get the hint.

For you, it's either speak up in as gentle a manner as possible or live through it for a few weeks. Try not to answer her fully and she should soon get tired of getting a lack of response from you on that subject.

If she persists, just refuse to go round or tell her just once you'd like to not talk about baby related stuff. She might appreciate you telling her.

We mustn't forget that in their generation, a miscarriage was what it was. They didn't have scans to see if it had died, nor all the scientific knowledge of endo linings, cervix etc. also it shows she cares for you.

Hope it all goes ok x

 

[klouise1993]

Thank you so much for your advice, it's just a really awkward situation isn't it, miscarriages are horrible enough without being constantly reminded of it, I'll definitely try what you suggested thank you . Congratulations by the way on your rainbow baby hope everything goes great for you! xx