Honest answers from teen mums plz :)

[AngelzTears]

Hey girls!

I'm due in a month now and I'm really worried I'm just going to fall apart once my baby gets here. Kind of that "my life is over" feeling. I'd like to know if anyone felt that way before their baby came and how you felt afterwards? All I hear "it's hard but you'll love being a mom", and I'm not sure if that's being told to me because it's true or if they're trying to keep me encouraged and lying a little. lol!

Also, did anyone get postpartum depression? Does your dr give you anything for that, should I ask for a prescription before I have the baby or do I have to wait til my 6 weeks checkup? When I tell anyone I'm pretty sure I'm going to get it they laugh and say "having a baby will keep you happy" or "mind over matter, you can make yourself not sad if you try hard enough".

Anyway, I guess I'm just basically wanting to know the ugly truth about being a young mom. What's good and what's bad? I'd appreciate any advice or share personal experiences

 

[jelix9408]

i wont lie. i was so excited to be a mom. but i did feel like my life would be over once i had Willow. even the days right before i had her ... and i knew at any moment i could pop .. a little part of me inside always felt like do what i could before Willow got here cause once she was here my life would be over.
and ill tell you once i had her. i felt like my life had just began.
i cant explain it but having her was the happiest day of my life.
even though i had a horrible delivery i would do it all over again just to have her in my life.
and to be honest i didnt love her as much then .. as i do now.
my love grows for her more and more each day.
and yeah its hard .. and at times you dont know what to do with yourself.
and you feel like your gonna jump off the edge of a cliff cause you dont know whats wrong with the baby and why its crying and why wont it stop. but once that night is over and the next day comes you dont feel like that anymore. you wonder why in the world you would ever think about something like that lol.
Willow is honestly the BEST thing to have ever happened to me .. AND the most precious gift i could ever receive. shes almost 9 months and i still cant believe how lucky i am .. to be that little girls mommy.

and the way i see it also is .. if everyone in this world would turn there backs on me .. i know .. that no matter what .. that there will always be ONE person in this world who would love me regardless of the things i do or say .. and that person is Willow.
no matter what happens .. someone will ALWAYS love me. and the best type of love you could ever ask for .. the love a mother and child shares.

 

[rockys-mumma]

Could have written that myself jelix!

 

[Luke's_mummy]

You asked about postnatal depression, I have it and although it's hard it is managable. I'm on venlaflaxine XL now and it's really helping, you will get given something if you develop it but if you think you have you don't need to wait till your 6 week check, you can just go see your gp at anytime much love and good luck xxxx

 

[jenny_wren]

i got severe pnd when emily was born
im still taking tablets for it now ...

it is difficult and it is lonely

but i wouldn't change it

xx​

 

[QuintinsMommy]

to be honest, your life as you know it is over, and sometimes I get upset but then I remember my life as a mom just started, and I look at him and feel so much love is unbelievable , I never ever thought I could love someone so much.
I thought I might get PND because I have a history of depression but I didn't I was really happy the 1st few weeks, now I'm back to normal but still happy.

 

[Natasha2605]

I never, ever thought my life would be over, I just seen it as a new dimension. Sure things take longer to do with two of us to get ready, a house to run etc but I've never for a second thought to think ''My life's over''. My little girl has made me so much happier and nothing has really changed except I had accepted a university place that my heart wasn't 100% on so having Summer has actually helped in that aspect, it's made me realise what I want and need in my life. As for PND, anybody can get it. I'm lucky not to. I'm sure you'll be fine xx

 

[Mariaa]

As a teenager, you drink, study, hang around with mates, cinema, parties etc...
its not reeaaallly a life is it? nothing really fullfilling, friends come and go, as do nights out, parties, etc...

once your LO is here, she/he will give you something to live for, to wake up for in the morning. You wont have a moment in the day where you dont worry or think about her, or see to her.

Your life wont be over when you give birth, it'll start. and youll never feel pointless again

 

[Lauraxamy]

It is slightly hard to adapt but to be honest your LO will make your life so much more worth while. I sometimes miss being able to take long baths whenever I want and without thinking 'Oh must hurry up just incase Laila wakes etc silly little things like that but I went out to a nightclub a few weeks ago and tbh I thought 'I can't believe I used to do this all the time and waste so much money' I just wanted to go home to my baby, some people probably think that's sad, but she's my life now and I enjoy every single second with her the good and the bad.

 

[AngelzTears]

Thanks girls this really made me feel loads better knowing how you all feel. I guess it will just take a while to adjust to, and learn all the little techniques.

Jelix your post is so sweet, made me want to cry! lol. And Mariaa you do have a good point, I guess life before baby wasn't really that important. Now I'll have more purpose =]

 

[08marchbean]

I had a really hard time for the first couple of months. i guess it depends on your situation. i had to give up alot to go through with my pregnancy and i do feel like my life has nowhere to go at the min. but i wouldnt change paige now. and that takes alot for me to say, as horrible as it sounds and even though i felt like i didnt want her ( which i sounds terrible but just being honest) i have adapted to my new life I have PND and am on citalopram and am starting seeing a cpn soon. just take one day at a time. and whatever happens it does get better. but you may jus fall strait into it and love every minute. hope it goes well for you

 

[bbyno1]

As a teenager, you drink, study, hang around with mates, cinema, parties etc...
its not reeaaallly a life is it? nothing really fullfilling, friends come and go, as do nights out, parties, etc...

once your LO is here, she/he will give you something to live for, to wake up for in the morning. You wont have a moment in the day where you dont worry or think about her, or see to her.

Your life wont be over when you give birth, it'll start. and youll never feel pointless again

Totally agree..
I think about what i used to spend my days doing before she was here and to be honest i feel like i wasted my life before i had her..the days might have been 'fun' but thats where it ended.Now i wake up to the most precious thing in my life and i cant wait to open my eyes to see her,get out of bed to see to her and spend each and every day with her.For me there isnt anything more fun and rewarding than that x

 

[Mellie1988]

My life begun when I had my children i've never been so happy in my life , wouldn't wanna change it for nights out and hangovers EVER.

x

 

[jelix9408]

Thanks girls this really made me feel loads better knowing how you all feel. I guess it will just take a while to adjust to, and learn all the little techniques.

Jelix your post is so sweet, made me want to cry! lol. And Mariaa you do have a good point, I guess life before baby wasn't really that important. Now I'll have more purpose =]

i know! reading back on it it almost made me cry! lmao.
but im completely honest.
youll understand everything i said .. once you hold that baby in your arms!
and if you EVER need someone to talk to .. message me!
im always there if someone needs a friend
i have an email .. facebook .. everything basically if you would like!

 

[sambam]

awww its a huge change in your lifestyle - but not a bad one ! its rewarding, and some days can be hard! don't panic !
i had PND after having bailey, and was put on anti d's for 3 months - which totally helped 100%, but with brogan, i feel so different, i don't have PND this time round !
just remember to take it as it comes, and if you need help, there is plenty of support out there. xx

 

[samone00]

good luck

 

[annawrigley]

it can be very tough, and everyone will tell you that but i dont think you realise to what extent until your baby is here. i had a really rough first few months and was miserable constantly but then things do start to slot into place and i cant imagine life without him now xx

 

[neady]

i was a party animal before i had ava-mae. i went out wednesday til sunday. aswell as studyin my alevels. some nights i was just gettin in having to get a 45min train home then hour bus to college and lookin back i never felt tired the way i do now.

i do kind of miss thinking right im off out for the night or im goin to go pictures or for a meal etc because everything evolves around ava. when i found out i was pregnant i thought how on earth im goin to cope not drinkin and goin out and bein stuck in for 9month. i wouldnt change ava for the world.
to me she has made my life soooo sooo much better, drink means nothing to me anymore, nights out are rare but more enjoyable, as i get back at a reasonable time and im not seriously ill next mornin.

it is hard adjusting once there here everywhere u go you have to make sure you have bottles joys blankets etc. ive walked half way to the shop some mornings with my pj's on as ive faffed about gettin ava ready forgot about myself.

you'll be totally fine hun.
x

 

[Dani&Layla_x]

I won't lie - I do sometimes miss those days where you stay in bed til 2pm, eat leftover pizza and then go and get drunk and stroll in at 3 in the morning, But the fun I had then will never for a second come even close to how I feel about Layla.

The immensity of the love you feel for your child is staggering, believe me. You will never regret your child.

It's the oddest feeling. The second you hold them that first time you suddenly realise you've been missing something your entire life and now you've found it.

You'll have your weepy days and you're days when you want to smash a window every now and then but that's normal. After all, you've been saving up 9 months worth of period hormones.

PND can be treated, don't worry. I was fortunate not to have it, and here in England (Don't know where you are...) we have to fill in a mini questionaire that screens for PND. If you're found to be a high risk or whatever they'll soon sort you out.

& Jelix... that made me cry!! Sooo true.
xxx