honestly think im going mad....!!!

[violet7]

Since finding out im pregnant (im now 12w1d) my OH left me...then come back...now left for good!! he keeps bringing new girlfriends to mutual friends houses and telling my friends who he sleeps with!! He is driving me crazy!!! then the next day he wants to try again....he has done nothing to help me at all and when i invited him to the scan he said he might be busy!! I mean shouldnt he be pleased that im even trying to have him involved???!!! also in the last 2 weeks my dog of 8 years died, need less to say I was very upset...an he blamed my horomones.... sorry for the rant but any advice would be very helpful because i feel like im slowly going mad!!! xx

 

[jessrabbit]

They love to blame the hormones dont they!

I know how you feel and its really tough. I'm trying to just leave the door open if he wants to come to things, so in the future he cant say I ever stopped him being involved.

The hardest thing is learning to accept that you cant make them be involved and just have to get on with it with support of friends and family.

Someone mentioned on here the other day that men find it hard to bond with the baby until its born. I'm hoping thats the case and that when our LOs come into the world he will want to be involved.

As for him being immature telling your friends etc who he has slept with so its gets back to you, obvioulsy its still raw and hurts you but dont rise to the bait and let him know that, if he knows its getting to you he will probably keep on.

Hopefully he will grow the F up once your LO is here.

Big hugs xx

 

[lekha]

hello violate7, dont think so much -ve in these days. You are the most luckiest in this world, having an honor to become a mother. so forget that selfish one who havent any ability to deserve you.

 

[violet7]

thanks for your kind words..think i was just having a bad morning i have decided to just leave the door open as u suggested an hav sent him a list of important dates if he turns up then great, if not at least i tried! everyone says he will change towards the end but will see!! xx

 

[jessrabbit]

Dont ya just love bad mornings and pregnancy hormones! keep us up to date, mine seems to go through stages, was really interested again last week and is now back to being distant. Still upsets me when he does this.

Jxxx

 

[new_to_ttc]

Best thing you can do is give him the dates, and then carry on with your life. Your baby needs you to be happy and healthy, if he doesnt turn up then he is the one missing out on those precious moments which he'll never get back. He sounds very selfish and very manupulating in telling your friends things knowing it'll get to you and upset you. As said, try and rise above it and dont let him get to you hun I hope he takes an interest at some stage xxx

 

[lovejoy]

Honey don't waste your time on him, he sound like my ex who is now claiming he might have bipolar to excuse he nasty behaviour. My ex don't ever think his to blame even being unsupportive through my pregnancy was my fault because of my hormones lol. His not worth your time and will miss out on the amazing little baby you're carrying. Don't hang on to him if it's not working, he doesn't deserve you, your to fab for him anyway.

 

[teal]

I agree about giving him the dates if you want him at scans etc. Very true that you can't make them be involved. By gving him the dates you're doing the best you can do and the rest is up to him xx