Hi everyone, I haven't been on this board for a long time but I was hoping to get either some hope or the solemn truth from you guys. My best friend, 35, is currently experiencing her third loss in a row (within 13 months). The first was apparently a BO, the second a miscarriage at 8 weeks (baby passed away at 5 weeks), and now, horrifically, a loss at 17 weeks. They suspect the baby died at 16 weeks. She is currently being induced in hospital and has to give birth and everything. It's so cruel to put her through this--labour and birth is hard enough as it is, and she was just starting to relax and believe that this pregnancy was actually happening. She was to be finding out the baby's gender in about 10 days.
My friend is in such a dark place she hasn't even been able to talk to me--her husband emailed me--so I do not have all the details. I have no experience with this type of loss but the Internet tells me miscarriage at 17 weeks is rare--about 1%.
She has a 3.5-year-old, so she is able to get pregnant and carry to term--she's done it once, at least.
I realize I'm asking a TTC forum, where many of you aren't yet mums, but I'm wondering if any of you have experienced repeated losses and/or a late miscarriage, (or know someone who has) and have gone on to have a baby? At this point, I'm not sure my friend could handle trying again (she has Anxiety and OCD and the stress is almost more than she can bear), but I was hoping to hear about some personal experiences (and outcomes). From what I understand, two MS is random, three is a pattern? I know someone who had one at 18 weeks and has since had three children, so I know a late MS doesn't necessarily mean anything, it's just quite uncommon.... My heart is breaking for my friend--and for anyone who has had to go through this. It's so unfair that some have such a horrendous time with this, especially when others have it so easy.
Sorry for the ramble... My mind is reeling and my heart is in my throat. I wish there was something I could actually DO for her. Take care everyone, and good luck with your TTC journeys.
My friend is in such a dark place she hasn't even been able to talk to me--her husband emailed me--so I do not have all the details. I have no experience with this type of loss but the Internet tells me miscarriage at 17 weeks is rare--about 1%.
She has a 3.5-year-old, so she is able to get pregnant and carry to term--she's done it once, at least.
I realize I'm asking a TTC forum, where many of you aren't yet mums, but I'm wondering if any of you have experienced repeated losses and/or a late miscarriage, (or know someone who has) and have gone on to have a baby? At this point, I'm not sure my friend could handle trying again (she has Anxiety and OCD and the stress is almost more than she can bear), but I was hoping to hear about some personal experiences (and outcomes). From what I understand, two MS is random, three is a pattern? I know someone who had one at 18 weeks and has since had three children, so I know a late MS doesn't necessarily mean anything, it's just quite uncommon.... My heart is breaking for my friend--and for anyone who has had to go through this. It's so unfair that some have such a horrendous time with this, especially when others have it so easy.
Sorry for the ramble... My mind is reeling and my heart is in my throat. I wish there was something I could actually DO for her. Take care everyone, and good luck with your TTC journeys.
