Which hospitals go for forceps first? When Mog got stuck, the hospital were so focused on giving me a natural birth that I laboured unproductively for another two hours just to see if I could somehow push her out?!? They were determined to get her out with a ventouse, we went through two caps and thirty minutes of yanking before they used the forceps to get her out the last little bit. There are forceps and forceps. My OH leapt across me to try and stop them using the forceps (as I was very against them) but they were only using them to do the last little bit, it's when they use them very deep in the birth canal that you can sometimes have birth injuries.
I have to say that the only bit of my labour I really regret was pushing unproductively for so long, the ventouse/forceps bit was fine, I couldn't even have told you where my enormous epesiotomy was, and Mog had no forceps bruises or cone head or ventouse marks. Her only problem was that she had aspirated meconium during the two hours of pointless pushing so had to have IV antibiotics. I really would advise you all to try and be as flexible as possible in your attitude towards intervention. I was perfectly calm throughout the instrumental stage of my delivery, and confident that the medical professionals were doing the best thing to deliver my baby safely.