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how can i help my friend?

Kiree

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hi girls i was hoping for some advice..

my friend has just found out she is pregnant, and the father basically wants nothing to do with her. so far she has come up against a lot of opposition from other friends and family about the pregnancy also.

i was wondering if you have any tips on how i can help her/ what advice to give her. were getting together tomorrow to have a good talk, but from what shes already said, i know she wants this baby. i think shes scared bcos people are being so unsupportive of her so i really want to support her without trying to tell her what to do or how to feel. i just want her to know how rewarding being a mum is, but at the same time i dont want to undermine the fact that its tough. so with that in mind does anyone have any suggestions? thanks guys xx
 
Best thing to do is just be there for her. Listen to her. And tell her no matter what she decides you will be there for her. Shes prob had more than enough advise from diffrent sources. Just answer any questions she may have
 
You sound like a great friend and all you can do is support her & be there for her like you all ready are. Sorry didn't have any advice but thought I'd let you know i thought you were doing a grand job.
 
I found myself in a similar situation, lost all my friends, I'm shunned by most of my family, sperm donor did a moonlight flit overnight with no warning and not heared from him since I was a few weeks pregnant, I had a terrible pregnancy with constant sickness and being in and out of hospital but I did have the support of my parents. It will be hard, but just tell her that when she holds her baby and looks at him or her for the first time she'll realise that all of the cr*p was worth it. I would'nt change my little boy for all the friends, family and men in the world, He IS my world now, and if it means I'm alone then so be it.
She is lucky to have a friend stick by her, just be there for her, support her on her low days and keep reminding her of that beautiful lo she'll have in what will be no time. Hope that helps a little.
 
Hey, hope your friends ok i think its quite scary finding out your pregnant first and then having to cope with fob dramas.My babys father is no where to be seen refuses to speak to me etc. Im bringing up my baby alone but im lucky i have a supportive mum and friends.Maybe she could go to a pregnancy counsellor? Its no doubt a very difficult time for her and it may help to talk to someone, i went to one and found it very helpful they gave me info on all the help out there for a young single mother and made it seem not so scary by telling me about all the places i could find support. I think those who are unsupportive will come around and at the end of the day all you need is the support of that one person and you can get through it, its hard but i know it will be worth it and it sounds like shes willing to brave the storm so im sure she will be ok. Good luck :hugs:
 

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