How did you cope with scans and antenatel appointments without yr ex

[louloubelle76]

Just wondering how you got through it, I know my mum will come with me all the time but how did you cope on your own?

My ex hasnt even acknowleged that im pregnant, ive invited him to my 1st scan nothing but nothing

How did you get through it?

 

[whoops]

I went to my appointments alone, but it was alright because most other women did as well, especially if their OH was working etc. With scans, my sister and my mum came to my first one and my mum came to the other two. I was so excited to see the baby that it barely registered that FOB wasn't around, tbh.

The worst thing was probably the antenatal classes, because most of them were filled with couples. You get through it because you have to, although it is tough, I can't lie.

 

[rosie272]

^^ WSS

Ante-natal class was pretty tough but you get through it

I went to most other checks and appointments on my own - although I had a 4D scan and there was about 6 of us there

You'll be fine, especially if your Mum is with you

 

[jessrabbit]

So far I have had friends with me, get a private gender scan in a couple of weeks followed by my 20 week scan shortly afterwards, going to those on my own as not sure I want to tell everyone the gender yet.

As for the antenatel classes I have decided not to go to them, because I dont want to see a room full of couples.

At the scans have been so caught up with what was on the scan I barely noticed my friends were even there and Whoops is right, most of the hospital and midwife appointments I have been to the women have either been on their own or with friends/mums etc. Men have to work and dont have the right to paid time off to go to these things like we do.

I tend to find its afterwards I get upset that FOB didnt come.

xx

 

[laurajane1982]

To be honest with you it hasnt bothered me in the slightest. My ex was a lying cheating scumbag so to be honest the thought of him being there would have ruined the whole experiance for me.

Im starting antenatal classes soon and my mum is coming with me, not bothered in the slightest about not being a couple there and i cant wait to start them.

You will be fine i promise, you will be so excited about meeting your baby and have so much to learn at the classes that you probably wont even give you ex a second thought, i didnt!! xx

 

[SophiasMummy]

I was by myself for all my appointments exept my 12 week scan, I didnt really mind that much I find it easier to remeber all the questions I wanted to ask while I was by myself x

Also all my antenatal classes most of the women came on there own x

 

[kirst1805]

I got through it very easily..
My mum went with me for scans but stayed in the waiting room most of the time. The only times she came in with me were.. at the start and I started bleeding and I was freaking out.. And when I had a 4D scan.. but only because she was paying..
And when I gave birth.

All midwife appointments I went on my own though and it didn't bother me at all.

xx

 

[Rhio92]

I did it alone fine... Even when me and FOB were together (he was too lazy to get off his stupid fat arse to drive me to the hospital, I had to spend about £7 on buses )
It was fine alone tbh. The scans are waaay to amazing to even think about the prick. And for antenatal, it's normal to go alone as most women do.
My first antenatal, FOB came, and he fainted when I had a blood test So I was better alone. (Just to add, when he fainted, the MW rolled her eyes and went 'bloody idiot' )

 

[teal]

I took my mum or my best friend to scans. I found being the waiting room with loads of couples quite upsetting. I agree that antenatal classes were the worst. I took my best friend with me (who was fab) but it was still hard xx

 

[louloubelle76]

thanks for your reply ladies.

Im finding it easier not being with him esp my bump is starting to show my mum reckons ive got twins but i reckon its fat lol

 

[xJG30]

I took my dad with me to all my appointments .. I wouldn't of coped without my family.

 

[Snowball]

It's not easy. I have been to loads of appointments on my own and had to stare at couples sitting cuddling and cooing of scan pics. You just have to remember though that in the long term it's HIM who's going to miss out, not you and not LO. We're not going to be the ones in years to come to look back and know that we missed it all by choice... they are and they are going to have to live with that

 

[toddlerandpip]

My husband walked out tonight. Just wanted to reassure you that during my first pg I did antenatal classes on my own as husband was at uni that night, had first scan on my own as is was last minute and he was at work, and all mw appointents were on my own. This pregnancy (I'm 17 weeks) I had 12 scan on my own as he was late and all mw appointments. Lots of fathers don't go, even when they are a couple.