How did you leave?

[MissFox]

Hi
I'm probably joining you tonight. I'm going to have my talk with my husband about not being able to continue our relationship. I can't do it anymore for a number of reasons. I need to be happy again but he's been OK today but I just can't do it anymore. How did you guys end up leaving? Did you just talk or was there a fight before hand? Any advise would be much appreciate. I can't stop crying today because I know its' done but I am afraid of leaving. I'm afraid of actually doing it but I don't want my daughter to grow up seeing me so unhappy all the time.
Thanks.

 

[J_Odhran]

Sorry you are going through this hun, I would just be honest with him.. You deserve to be happy xx

 

[darsilver1]

Sorry you going through this...I first made sure all my stuff was packed and I had everything in order such as where I planned to live at etc...I then told OH I wanted to end relationship and why and then I simply left....Havent looked back since...At that point, I had already told him multiple times why I was unhappy and what I needed...he simply didnt listen or care...so the conversation wasnt long nor was I argumentative...he didnt beg for me to stay because he knew I made my mind up....sending you

 

[MissFox]

Well I told him last night. He asked why (he always asks why and why until I'm digging for little shit even in a fight). I then went home and left him at his brothers house. I ended up giving him my last $10 for gas so he could come watch our baby. He used that to come home and ask why more and ask me to keep working on it with him. I said I couldn't and he left trying to guilt me into giving him more money. Bumm literally my last 10 went to him already. He said he wasn't are when he could come watch her but to know he is going to fight me for her. So hard but so necessary

 

[darsilver1]

Well I told him last night. He asked why (he always asks why and why until I'm digging for little shit even in a fight). I then went home and left him at his brothers house. I ended up giving him my last $10 for gas so he could come watch our baby. He used that to come home and ask why more and ask me to keep working on it with him. I said I couldn't and he left trying to guilt me into giving him more money. Bumm literally my last 10 went to him already. He said he wasn't are when he could come watch her but to know he is going to fight me for her. So hard but so necessary

Hold on, so I understand right? Does he not work a job or something? Why are you having to give up your money to him for gas? Shouldnt he be responsible enough to have enough for gas? Especially when he know he has to drive around...I mean I understand sometimes we need to ask for help but why couldnt his brother front him the money...Why is he taking money from you when you need it for the baby? Does he pay child support? Do you have an order against him? If he bumming money off of you, I really doubt the judge will allow him to have sole custody of your LO...you may have to allow visits but that is usually a given...If you have told him millions of times before why you are unhappy and he doesnt get the picture than why explain anymore...you are just wasting your breath...he wants you to keep hanging on...he wants you to feel sorry for him...dont fall for the trap chica...you deserve so much more!!! you deserve a man who will provide for you and LO, a man who wont bum money off of you so he can watch his child....you deserve a man that will make you happy...I really hope things get better...sorry if I seem irritated but I am not...I just want to save you from being used any further...I have been where you have been...I had to finally say enough is enough and kick LO father out of my home...I didnt sit and worry where he will stay, how he would get around, how he would eat....he needed to understand that you cant be a baby and irresponsible when you have a baby yourself