How did you tell your parents / relatives?

[Caitie44]

I honestly think the scariest part of my pregnancy to me right now is telling my relatives. I don't even know what I'm going to say or how I'm going to say it! So I thought I'd ask all of you how you told your parents and other family members, and their reactions. I know everyone is different but it'll be interesting to read.

 

[motherearth23]

Well, I originally wanted to wait until I was done with my first trimester to tell my family. My mom actually guessed it on Christmas eve. I was so upset that she guessed my secret that I ran off and cried. She was actually very gentle about the whole thing. I thought she would be really mad and yelling but she just calmly and rationally told me that she thought I was making a mistake (too young, poor, in my first year of college). It was an upsetting night for sure, but the next morning she woke me up by apologizing for some of the things she had said (bringing up termination and whatnot), and told me she would support me no matter what. I was 11 weeks then, and by the time I was 16 weeks she was really excited to be a grandma. She tells everyone and is so excited to find out the gender on March 1st. It was a relief to have her know my secret, but I still got nervous and shaky when I had to tell my dad. I was so surprised his reaction was super calm too. My parents are divorced for 17 years now, yet they still remind me of each other a lot. I cried telling my grandma, because I thought she would be really disappointed, but she just told me that I would make a great mother. MY heart was beating so fast when she told me that, it was the first time anyone had said that and it made me feel so amazing. By the time I told my other family members, it was a walk in the park.
I think the hard part is getting comfortable with the idea yourself. Once you tell a few people, it gets wayy easier to tell other family members. I'd tell whoever you are closest to first, even if its an aunt or a cousin rather than your parents. I would have told my mom first even if she didn't find out. My advice is just to blurt it out after having a good day together, definitely dont break the news after a negative day.

good luck to you!! i know exactly how you feel! telling family was the hardest part for me. but now everyone knows and they are starting to help me get things for the baby and save up for my own education to continue. i hope it goes well!!!

 

[17pregnant]

I haven't told my family yet either! Super super nervous :/ But I plan on waiting til after my first trimester too

 

[ClairAye]

I text my mum and turned my phone off

WORST MISTAKE EVER!

Best thing you can do is tell them in person, or if you really can't, then write a letter for them, relatives I don't know, as my mum told all of my family.

I hope you get a good reaction
It took my mum a few weeks, but my dad until I was about 27 weeks, now he's absolutely in love with his grandson though

 

[MummyMana]

I told my Mum as soon as we found out. Me and OH went down and said "we've got a bit of news for you" to which she responded "your pregnant? Congratulations!"

 

[teenmommy15]

Me and my boyfriend told our parents together so that its less stress both families know at a time. as for telling the rest of my family? oh my mom handle that she told my grandma(why she would do that i have no idea) and as soon as she told my grandma word got around the family no one was mad, they were worried cause im so young and are trying their best to help and not be jugemental which they havent at all suprisingly(TRUST ME MY FAMILY IS THE MOST JUDGEMENTAL FAMILY OUT THEIR) the rumor mill in my family is worse than it is in high school but im happy things are going better than expected. i dont like when people are concerned about me but id rather they were concerned then pissed and judgemental. so heres my little saying you remember it and all should go fine.. Get it off you chest, expect the worst and you'll get your best... Sorry for the long post i hope all goes well when your telling your parents and family if you need anything pm me.

 

[binky94]

I found out early September and originally wanted to wait until mid October until I told my mum as I knew she'd be disappointed. However, I told her the very next day as I couldn't concentrate in uni and needed to get it off my chest.

I took the whole day off uni and sat with my boyfriend in my car as we had nowhere to go. We were just talking about plans etc. I dropped him off at his house and he told his parents first. I then went round to speak to him as I was so worried. He convinced me that my mum would be fine and that I should tell her sooner rather than later. So I went home, burst into tears and blurted it out to my mum and my sister. They were both supportive and I couldn't have asked for anything more.

I waited about another month until I told my gran. I went round with my mum and stepdad one evening and told my mum to say it because I was too nervous. My gran cried with happiness, gave us all a hug and made a brew.

I hope your experience is as positive as mine was. x

 

[teenmommy15]

Blinky94 when are you due?

 

[binky94]

May 29th but having a csection due to a heart condition on May 14th

 

[teenmommy15]

Lol thats my 1 year 8 month anniversery aw im sorry.

 

[Otis]

I didn't really have to tell anyone. OH had already left the night we found out and I came in the house crying and scared to death. I went down to talk to my mom after somewhat gaining my composure and she asked me if I was okay. Of course that made me lose it, and she guessed it. Apparently she had a feeling for awhile. As for my dad, my mom was a bit worried with how he would react, so she called him down and we told him together. Both took it way better than expected. When my OH and I told his dad, it was a completely different reaction though, but one that we expected. He was completely negative and trying to convince OH that adoption was the only route. He's gotten better, but we find it best to just stay away from him. He has no problem smoking around me and is always commenting about how big I am (I get it for every once in a while, I kind of am all belly, but still ).

I don't have helpful advice, but just know that there is the possibility of someone surprising you with their reaction. And don't wait too long, it'll make it worse and hurt feelings.

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

My first, 17 (gave birth at 18) - I told my mum face to face, a few days after I found out myself. She reacted very badly, calling me names and telling me I needed to get rid etc etc. I had already moved out so I told her I was sorry she felt that way but I had made my decision and she could either be a part of our lives, or not, her choice. My mum told my dad, we didn't speak for a little while but he was supportive. Both came around as my pregnancy advanced and love their granddaughter now. OHs family we told in the car, just blurted it out, they were sort of okay with it.

Second, 19 - I waited a good few weeks after finding out before telling family. I ended up writing a letter and leaving it on their kitchen table. Mum text me that evening thanking me for telling her. Again, she wasnt happy for us, when I finally saw her she told m "you already have one so I guess it won't change much" my dad, on the other hand, was very supportive and congratulated us. They love their grandson now.

Third, 21 - I ended up telling my dad in a mid argument while my mum had stormed off, in the middle or a shop. I blurted it out and he gave me a hug and said he supported us and I was an amazing mum so would be fantastic. He told mum. We never really spoke about it, gradually she's been supportive. 6 weeks to go and everyone is excited.

 

[x__amour]

I told my mom first and then my dad. After that told FOB's parents. All were face to face and very to the point.

 

[cammy]

With my first I told my sister the day I found out because I was having really bad pains and was worried. She didn't talk to me for a few days but then ende up being the biggest help and support. She helped me get to doctors appointment and get my vitamins and scans, so that I didn't have to tell my parents. My dad just knew somehow, he never told me but, he talked to my sister about it. the 3 of us told my mum together when I was about 10 weeks I think, because I was starting to get calls from my midwife and I didn't want her to find out that way. She reacted horribley and was the biggest bitch towards me. So I went and stayed with OH and his mum and sister until we found a place of our own to live.

This time around, someone leaked it to my mum and she went psycho and told my whole family. So now everyone is angry at me, but for stupid reasons. They have all made it about themselves.

OH's family on the other hand reacted really well both times.

It is definitely best to tell people in person.

 

[jozylynn896]

Glad I'm not the only one who's mom has a big mouth! Lol!
I told my mom I thought I was pregnant so she took me to get a pregnancy test then I took them they came out positive and she was super supportive. And by that I mean jumping and screaming I'm gonna be a grandma. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do so the only way she would have been upset would be if I terminates her first grandchild. But knowing my mom she would not be disappointed in me no matter what I chose to do.
She then ran around telling everyone and their mothers.
"Guess what? I'm gonna be a grandma! Kristina! Yeah!". -__-
My family congratulated me and never ever judged me as some of them had kids young too. My whole family is extremely supportive and excited for my little boy to come in a few weeks!
My dad found out threw my sister Facebook I think, I have no idea but he Congratulated me and whatnot. I don't talk to him and he lives in indiana. I'm in Chicago.
But everything worked out.
I agree by the way that once you tell a few people it gets more and more easy to tell more people. Like such a weigh off your shoulders. An once that weight starts coming off you're not gonna want to stop shedding it!

 

[thecurlymama]

My mom was really awesome about it. I told her the day after I found out. My OH was at my house with me, but my mom wanted to speak to me alone. She was really supportive, despite having some grief around my "childhood." I was 15 at the time and turned 16 mid-pregnancy. My dad cried, but was really nice about it (step dad actually, but he's raised me since age 5). OH told his mom and family immediately. Him being 19-they were all really happy for us and haven't had one negative thing to say.

I'm almost six months along now, and we've told our close family that lives in town (cousins, my aunt who lives with us, some close friends etc..) but as for the grandparents and other family members who live elsewhere, I'm yet to tell them. My mom doesn't want to because she's nervous about the way her mother will react about it. I'm terrified to tell them and don't even want to until the baby is here! I've been writing in a blog about my feelings on telling everybody, my pregnancy, what kind of parents my OH and I will be, etc... and I've decided that when I'm ready for my family to know I will send them all the link to the blog. I honestly have no idea how they will all react but I'm nervous that it won't be good.