How do i get over it*UPDATE THEY WOULDNT DO THE D&C*

[JemmaD]

I had a m/c in sept 08 and only just about got over that by getting my BFP in dec 08 after one month of ttc,i found out yeaterday that its happened again and have been booked in for a d&c tomorrow i dont know how im going to deal with this i didnt get any answers last time i dont know why my body's not working how it should, they told me its nothing ive done wrong but why do my baby's keep dieing i feel like ive got no one to talk to all my mates have babys or are pregs so i dont want to talk to them i dont want to seem bitter lifes so unfair.

I work with kids that have been kicked out school and i dont feel i can do my job any more there's a young girl i work with that has already got rid of one baby, had a m/c now is 7 weeks pregs smoking getting drunk going on sun beds ect ans now is thinking about getting rid of it and the only person she can talk to is me in the only female member of staff.

i didnt have the D&C we went this morning at 7.30 got me all ready for it done bloods ect then told me id be going down very soon then the surgeon can in to see and said ''have you read the scan report'' he said that he didnt want to do the opp because hes not sure on the report and if theres even a 1% change hes not going to do it so ive been sent home and have a scan booked for wednesday. When they done the scan they only done a belly one and i was in and out within 5 mins.

Its mad last night we were talk and it didnt feel right i still feel pregs, i feel sick my boobs hurt ive have no pains no bleed just a bit of very light brown spotting which has gone now I dont want to get my hopes up at all

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh darling, I am so very sorry to hear that it has happened again for you. Life can be so very cruel sometimes.

I too have miscarried twice and was absolutely devastated that it happened again. I have been told by many that I have more of a chance of carrying full term than to have another miscarriage. This is what I am clinging onto.

I will be thinking of you and know that you will get through this. It may take some time to get your spring back but it does happen.

Dont give up the dream xxxx

 

[BunMum]

Hi there,
So sorry to hear that its happened to you again. Its such a terrible thing to have to go through and I, like you have the feeling that my body didn't work properly and want to know why. I'm not sure the doctors are able to even give answers on why it happens, as there quite often isn't an actual cause. In my case, I suffered a molar pregnancy but even though I know theres a name, I still don't know why.

I hope everything goes well tomorrow, stay strong and you'll get through it. Just take one day at a time and each day will hopefully get better for you bit by bit. There is a great support network of people on here, so talk away.

Take care,
Gemma

 

[katb]

So sorry to hear that it's happened again - I have been there and I know that you will be feeling so sad right now and convinced that something is wrong but you have to understand how common it is to miscarry and since having my 2nd m/c in a row (which may or may not turn out ok but loong story) I've been amazed by how many people have been through the same or similar.

It's very early for you, but rest assured you will start to feel happy again even though it doesn't feel like it now. I truly hope you have support although I internalise everything and very rarely talk about my problems (apart from on the net). Sometimes it helps to talk to people you don't know.

Sending you hugs xxxxxxx

 

[JemmaD]

Thanks everyone so sorry for all your losses xx

 

[Omi]

Just wanted to echo everybody's elses posts..

Ive had 2 mc's as well and can very well understand how you're feeling, however, as already said, you can and will get over it.

It could be nothing wrong with you and just horribly bad luck and both times there was chromosomal probs etc, or there could be a medical explanation.

Im probably a thousand years older than you so i was offered testing, which i am now waiting results from. I have been told it looks likely i have a clotting problem, which would explain a lot. Or all the tests could come back negative and i'll be left to keep ttc on my own.

In either case, you and us are statistically more likely to go on to have a healthy pg next time..so even in this dark and sad time for you..there is hope!

Take good care, chicken!

Hugs, Omi xxx

 

[gnomette]

in my opininon you never get over it you just learn to get on with life and live again! you never forget and you never stop missing them or loving them i find it helps me to know that they are being looked after by loved ones lost
and your body will work eventually you just need to have a little hope i know thats hard right now but you will find it! and you will hold your baba in your arms one day!
sorry for your losses!

 

[bklove]

This is not your fault. As much as it is our bodies and we can do everything in our power to be good to it there are things that are out of our control. I know that is hard to hear because we want to know so we can fix it and make it better...i've m/c 3x's so I know. You may not realize it now but you do have the strength to work through this, and if anything you have the support here to help you. Keep being good yourself. You naturally do compare yourself to other ppl, especially those who are pregnant or with kids (like at your job), but everyone's story is different; sometimes even when it looks good its not that great as i'm sure the kids at our job can tell you. Your story is different, just like mines is different, but i'm hoping and praying we both get our happy endings. Peace Love and Strength to you.

 

[Widger]

I'm really sorry you have to go through this again and hope that being on here will help you as we are all here to support one another.

I know it won't make you feel any better at the moment but I've just had my 2nd mc 3 week ago and I must admit that I am starting to feel slightly better about things - finally. I know I will never forget it, but I have decided to try to remain positive and not be swamped by the thoughts that are obviously still in my head.... will I ever be able to carry a baby? I just have to believe that I will.

This would be my first child too so I'd be lying if I said it didn't scare me that it might not happen.... I just need to try to move on from this feeling and just get on with it again.

Give yourself time... it is very hard at times but you will feel stronger in the end (especially when you eventually lose your pregnancy symptoms). You can PM if you want/need x

 

[JemmaD]

sorry for the rant

 

[tootsy1987]

Ohh hun.... glimmer of hope there babes... done want to build up your hopes but i got my fingers crossed for you!! how far are you hunny?? fingers crossed hunny!!!! XxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxX

 

[JemmaD]

i dont want to get my hopes up aswell but if it has gone by the time they come to do the opp i might not feel pregs and thats alot better i felt like i was going to get rid of my baby today not going to remove a baby that has died so if i have a bleed or and pains it would help but im holding on to that 1%

 

[lola]

Your in my thoughts Jemma, I pray that 1% is on your side xxxx

 

[eswift]

My thoughts are with you..

 

[jen1604]

Thinking of you honey!xxxxx

 

[vickielm]

What did the report actually say hun? there must be a chance for him to send you away

X

 

[gnomette]

i am sorry this has bee dragged out even longer take care my love xx

 

[JemmaD]

What did the report actually say hun? there must be a chance for him to send you away

X

imthink is was that there was a 2mm fetal pole and a 4mm baby no hb