How do I get there?

[Csunshine013]

Well today I'm 15wks and the last time I was able to carry my baby this far I found out at 15w+5d that she didn't have a HB anymore and I've found myself very snappy and very weepy this past week.

Does anyone have any words of wisdom on how to get past this feeling. I go to the Dr on Wednesday and am terrified they are going to tell me the same thing all over again. Any suggestions to help me from freakin out and being a total Biotch to my family?

 

[meldmac]

Oh sweetie I feel the same thing every time I go to the doc...expecting to not hear a heartbeat. I just try and keep myself occupied and think as positive as I can. It's really hard but try and take one day at a time (I know it's so cliche to say but can't think of anything better right now). You'll get through it, I never thought I could or would get this far without having a breakdown tbh but I did. If I can you can, we're both strong women and I'm here if you need to talk at any time on here or on facebook.

 

[bky]

I don't know if it will work for you but from 12-20 weeks I measured around my middle at belly button level to make sure I was still growing. No scientific reason or logic, but since I did gain a cm or two each week it comforted me. (Only once a week, same time of day. Not much help really...but it's a crazy time)
After 20 weeks I think my fundal height must have progressed above my belly button as I'm getting larger, but not necessarily across the belly button. (I totally freaked out as at 21 weeks there was no change from 20, and still no change at 22).
Best of luck

 

[mordino]

I know how you feel. I am nearly 17 weeks and it was around this time when I had my MMC last year (due to genetic abnormality). Found out at 17 weeks. I had a 16 week scan last week and the baby is doing fine but I just caught a cold and I am anxious about being so sick!

I felt the baby moving last few days but less yesterday and today I need to feel the baby moving to reassure me!

I don't have a doppler.... I have over a week before my consultant appointment - it feels so far off.

It is so hard, I know.

 

[Mrs Doddy]

Im at that point to atm = my last baby lived to 9 weeks inside and I am 9 weeks at the moment - I did loose all my symptoms... which at the moment are very strong so I am holding onto that hope (although it doesn't neccassirly mean anything) how do I cope ??? by not thinking about it, the more I think about it the more worried I get so I try to keep my mind off it - though its easier said than done.

 

[eckarta]

Thats why we are the ones to carry the babies.. men would NEVER be able to handle all the stress that we have when pregnant... always wondering whats going on down below... Its really hard to be positive when you have had something like a miscarriage.. but i keep thinking that each pregnancy is different... each baby deserves someone to be excited about it... thats whats getting me thru this one... small steps and one day at a time!!! you ladies are super strong ladies.. never forget that!!

 

[Sparklestar]

hey, i lost my baby at 12+4 but didn't find out until i was 14+6 and i too am going to be in the same boat as you in 2 weeks time. Huge hugs xxxxx

 

[Csunshine013]

Thanks so much ladies and you all deserve the biggest !

I'm one day away from my appt and kept myself supper busy with painting my rental house last night and I will be doing that again this evening! I have felt the flutters today and last night so kind of breathing a little easier but still scared.

Again thank you and so sorry for your losses so very glad I have somewhere to go and express my concerns as well as mile stones.

 

[Csunshine013]

I'm off for my Dr's appt will update when I get back! FXD I hear that magical sound of the HB