How do i tell him? etc

[JJ44KK]

How do i tell the father? He's so difficult to talk to Sometimes he will be ever so friendly, sometimes he ignores me, sometimes he's evil to me

How do i tell my mum?

How do we tell our families and friends?

Please help

 

[Suz]

Well... as hard as it may be, I would just come out and just say it. Maybe if you are scared to tell the father, tell your mom first and then she can be with you when you tell him...

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

You just need to pluck up the courage and tell the babies dad + your family the best way you can. theres really no right or wrong way because its not going away so they HAVE to deal with it sooner or later.
Prepare yourself for them not bein so supportive at first but they will almost defintly come around to the idea. but you need to tell them as soon as, because one thing you do need is support through this journey because you do have bad times but you just got to keep tellin yourself that at the end of it you will have a little baby in your arms.

good luck xxxx

 

[susiewusie]

I know telling people can be hard but it's best to just be honest, I fell pregnant when i was 16 and was dreading telling my mum but after the shock of it she was my rock, couldn't have got to where i am now without her.

Just be open and honest thats all you can do

gud luck and hope it goes well xxx

 

[JJ44KK]

Why do teen boys do a runner when you tell them?
What do i do if that happens to me?

 

[Serene123]

What's your mum like? Can you talk to her? Has she ever said she'll always stick by you? I ask because I knew my mum would NEVER go against me no matter what I had to tell her. I found it quite easy. She was extremely upset and disappointed (mainly because her expectations for me were as high as they were for myself) but she got over it in a few days. She's so excited now. I can't even go into a shop without her pointing to my bump and telling someone about her grandaughter-to-be.

As for the dad, that part was easy for me too. He knew my period dates and knew I was late. If you're going to find it hard to tell him, maybe give him a text first saying you need to talk to him. Give him some kind of idea that something is going on?

Telling family is hard. They're always going to have their opinions but the main thing is to sort your own mind frame out first. Make sure you're happy. If you're happy they have no choice but to be happy for you.

Good luck.

 

[JJ44KK]

My mum said she'll always stick by me but she's like your mum, thinking that my exceptations are higher, she usually goes on about teen mums and stuff, saying that their too young etc

I don't know what to do

 

[Serene123]

They find it different when it's their own child though. It's easy to judge something that isn't happening to you directly. I think you should tell her as soon as possible. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be. I told my mum the day after I found out because I knew if I left it, I would never do it!

 

[JJ44KK]

I know i need to tell her soon as i wont be able to hide it forever.
Same for the guy, i don't want to make him uncomfortable though

 

[Serene123]

Have you seen a doctor? Are you taking Folic Acid? Sorry if they've been asked already. I'd tell your mum first. Get her support. Then you won't care about his reaction so much!

 

[JJ44KK]

I havn't seen a doctor yet, someone else told me i should soon.

 

[Serene123]

How far are you? Sorry, havn't been on much.

 

[Fern.x]

Tell your mum 1st! Then Get to the doctors to arrange your 1st scan then i would show him the scan then he should realize that use created a life together and should go through this together!

Gd Luck

 

[Serene123]

Or ask him to go to the scan with you

 

[foxyroxie]

my dads soooo protective casue im a only child and i no he wasnted me to have kids when im 40 or never haha!!

i rang him and said daaaaaaad ive got something to tell you im pregnant!! that was it he then waffled onto say he was dissapointed and he wanted me to see the world etc etc!!

But when i was overdue guess who was ringing me everyday to see if i was okay and wether he was here yet and guess who came to see me straight after i had my son yup my dad and a couple of weeks after...after one of his visits he text me and told me how proud he was of me

i cant really help with telling your mum cause me and my mum wasnt on talking point then but my nans like my mum and i was scared about telling her so i text her instead lol!! but she was really happy for me!

 

[BeckyBoo]

Not all teen boys run. My OH was 16 when I told him, we'd been going out about 9mths when I accidently fell pregnant. I gave him the option to leave me. As it was my choice to have the baby, I didn't want to force him into anything he might not want to do. But he's still here, hes 20 now and we're expecting number 2.

Good luck hun, there is no easy time to tell family, but that's life. You just need to do it x

 

[codiontour]

i am just admiring all these good answers... no one in here sounds like a teen to me : ) i like torias idea of giving OH the option of going to the scan as it will make it real for him and he will form some emotional attachment probably.

 

[Scuba]

I think however you plan to tell people it comes out different when you're actually saying it.
I'm not a teenage Mum but hadn't been with my OH long when we found out we were having a baby, I'd been on the pill and baby wasn't planned but was very much wanted - there was never any question of not going through with pregnancy, but we were still worried about telling our parents as we both lived at home still and had only been together for about 3 months, plus my family are quite old fashioned and moral in their attitudes so was really nervous of telling them.
OH told his parents first then I went round to his to pick him up and go back to tell my parents together.. I went in to see his mum and she just gave me the biggest hug ever and said that a baby is such a blessing and that we'd be fine and we had their support every step of the way, and they really have been wonderful throughout.
As for telling my parents we kind of walked into lounge and I just said 'we're having a baby...' it just came out like that lol - I had a whole speech planned but it never happened! My parents were great too, a little more suprised than OHs parents perhaps but only for a few minutes - then everything was absolutely fine and we sat playing the brain game on wii together!!!

I'm sure you'll have the same sort of support from your mum.. yes I don't say she won't be shocked but you're HER baby and that means she'll love you and support you no matter what..

Lots of luck hun x