How do i tell them?

[Xrosex]

I know this has probably been asked before but im going to ask anyway. Im 18 and just found out im about 5 weeks pregnant, i have no idea how to tell my family im pregnant and that im keeping it. Im worried they will try and convince me to get rid of it, my babys a blessing and i dont want them to make me feel bad abour it how did you tell your family? Any replies will be very appriciated

 

[MeaganMackenz]

If it were me, and it was some 7 years ago, I'd go at it as maturely as you can. Don't tell them and let your emotions get away from you, as I'm sure you'll get enough of that from them. Make a plan, make it the best plan you can and have it ready for when you tell them. I.e plan for money and or job, school if it still applies, fob status, living arrangements hopes etc. Come to them like you've logically thought it all over the best you can and have decided to keep the baby. It didn't go well for me when all I had was "I want to keep the baby" was all I had to offer in that conversation with my parents.
Present a united front if you can with fob, if it's not it may not go well trying to sell your ability to do it solo as parents may think you'll depend solely on them. Be honest though, as open as you can full disclosure. Rip the bandage sort of speak, don't have details come up later that might interfere with any peace that may come in the days weeks or months to follow.

This is all just my opinion if it were me and I had a do over. There is the chance your parents won't flip out like mine. Be strong, you can do it and it may suck but in the end you'd rather have them on your side then not. Good luck hun xox.

 

[heatherr]

^ I completely agree with MeaganMackenz. I couldn't think of a good way to tell my parents because I honestly don't think it would have made much of a difference in my case. They were going to be upset no matter what. I had no idea what I wanted to do with the baby, so I really didn't have anything else to tell them except that I was pregnant. I just blurted it out when I wasn't exactly planning to.
But I think you might be able to make the news go over a little bit better since you know what you want to do and hopefully already have a plan in your head of what you'll do to support your baby, etc. Anything to just make it sound like you are taking responsibility. I know some people suggested to me that I write a letter or even text them if I couldn't tell them face to face. Face to face is probably the most mature way to do it instead of leaving a letter for them to find when you are out.

Unfortunately, they might be upset no matter how you tell them. But most parents seem to get over it eventually. I think if you are really happy about your baby then try to ignore their initial reactions. Think about when you first found out - maybe you weren't 100% happy about it. Give them time to adjust to the idea. My parents are still upset, but they have got over their initial reactions and they aren't completely negative about it all the time. Other girls here said their parents got over it in literally a few minutes or weren't even upset at all, so you never know until you tell them.

I will say that regardless of their reaction, it will probably be a relief just to have told them and to get it out in the open. It's one less thing you'll have to worry about.

 

[aphrodite90]

I'm 18 also and I understand how you feel. I still haven't have the guts to tell my parents yet

 

[Pens]

I just rang my mum told her straight as soon as I found out. Although, I live with my OH and we both have jobs, I do think she appreciated that I didn't keep it from her and got it out in the open straight away. Both of my parents were disappointed, but they got over it after a few days x