How do single mums cope?

[ElizabethsDad]

I too had the same concerns but my "Health Visitor" who came to the house once a week was able to answer any questions I had.

I was also able to draw upon previous experience as I had my first daughter 13 years ago.

Bathing and feeding were things I had done before but I there was always someone else around to help if I needed it.

I have been raising my second daughter on my own and I have to admit that I also wait until she has had her feed and is asleep before I will have my bath/shower, I take the baby monitor in the bathroom and I leave the door open as her room is across from the bathroom. On the rare occasion that she wakes up all I need do is pop a towel on and step across the hall.

My little girl is now four months old and thriving.

Not all us men are useless

Daniel

 

[purpledahlia]

wow, daniel its so refreshing to see a male in the same position as us... no matter how we all got here were all single parents and it can be hard. But theres hope yet!

 

[Katieeeee]

Aww bless you Daniel x

 

[Gemma1981]

Hi everyone. I'm a single mum of 3.

TBH for me I think it's easier than when I was with my husband!

With regards to baths, when i first moved into my new home I had my baths when my girls were at school and just stuck my almost 2 yr old in a highchair with a biscuit. Now I just leave the three of them to it with the cartoons and something to eat - the best thing is though that my bathroom is on the ground floor and if I leave the door open I can see what theyre all doing anyway and my little one always comes in to investigate so I know theyre alright!

 

[jesse k + x]

I was a single mum when i had my DD (who is now 4yo) and moved out on my own when she was just 3mths old..... looking back i have noooo idea how i did it, but i did and i survived lol I think it's pretty much, one step and one breath at a time.... each day u find an easier way to do things. Organisation is the key i think!! Be prepared before u get baby into the bath etc. If u need a shower - maybe get it done when u have someone visiting u and bub at home. With time, u'll feel more at ease having a quick shower while bub sleeps.

 

[starbucks101]

Ive been a single parent since i found out i was pregnant, you just learn to cope, its daunting and you go through stages where you dont think your upto it, but you do it anyway.... i had a foam bath support for DD it was a god-send! with doing stuff round the house i just used to potter around doing bits and bobs when she was either asleep or happily babbling away with her toys

 

[saff1978]

I'm a single mum of 4, and i chose to be this way, its actually easier now my husband has gone. x

 

[itsmelou1984]

Hello ladies, I was a single mum to my son & tbh the things you mention are not that hard . Firstly bathing a baby does not take 2 pair of hands it takes a good positioning of one arm eg ... babys head up near your elbow with your hand running down the back to the bum OR you can buy a bath support which i also did then the baby can lie on it & you have 2 hands free.

When i wanted a bath or shower, If baby was awake then i'd happily take him upstairs with me into the bathroom on his bean bag or in his bouncer or car seat whichever he was either in or was most handy. If he was asleep as my bathroom was next door to my bedroom i put him inside his travel cot & had my shower, More oftem than not though i waited til he'd had a decent feed & drifted asleep then i could relax knowing he wouldn't be waking til say another hour or whatever. If you need the loo just go, Again i made sure he was strapped in a seat or bouncer etc or moses, then just went to the loo. A quick run upstairs ,pants down , pee & your off . All in what 90 seconds ? lol Trust me though when they are asleep you realise you can nip up to the loo, its only the same as being in the kitchen or next room I actually found it easier than what i was expecting but everyone is different.
Im preg with no2 & looks like me & the boyf wont make it through together so ill have a newborn & a 4yr old .. All im worrying about is making sure my then 4yr old doesnt feel pushed out

i was in exactly the sme position, and now the father of the twins has screwed up and looks like ill be facing these alone, and will also have a 4yr old to entertain...although i think she'll be loads more of a help (im hoping!!) heres to good luck!!!

 

[bethany90]

Have you got your mum to help? My mum would look after Abbie while i had a quick shower, if not then you could always have a shower while the baby is asleep. Or you could take the bouncer in the bath room with you so you can still keep an eye on them

 

[dreams]

So far i've just been having a bath/shower when she's been fed and changed and put down to sleep. I take the baby monitor into the bathroom with me.

The worst thing that's happened so far is i was just about to go the toilet and she wanted feeding so i had to feed her and i was bursting to go lol.

I still live with my parents but they haven't done anything with her, i do it all myself. I think once you get to know your baby you'll get into a bit of a routine and know when you can do things x

 

[MummyCarly]

I am a single mum with 2 kids who are now aged 7 and 4, I had my 7yr old when I was only 16 and my 4yr old when I was 19 (Same father) He just liked to come in and out of my life lol, as far as being able to shower and stuff, Id usually take a bouncer in the bathroom with me cause I wanted to make sure nothing went wrong while I was in there, Baby monitors are fantastic too.

Im now pregnant again, And yes still single atleast this time my 7yr old (who will be 8 by the time bubs comes) can help me out Single mums do just fine and sometimes better when not in a stressful relationship, Good Luck and if you need someone to talk to or any advice pm me