how do u cope with being lonely?

[baby_mama87]

Hi everyone

I'm new in this section just split with fob after a hellish couple of months. We have been together 7 years and tbh although I know we have to do this for theos sake and to keep my sanity I feel so sad about my future.im staying in the home we rented and oh is moving to a friends. Im so scared about being lonely. All my friends work full time so.does my mum and I don't return to work until Feb. I'm always skint because my car payments are ridiculous and I can't get out of it until next Xmas I worry that il be stuck all day and night with no one to talk to even.though me and oh fought a lot I looked forward to him coming home so I could chat to someone and talk about what Theo had done that day. Il still see him as he's a good dad and wants to be involved but for the most il be on my own...I'm dreading Xmas too I've said oh can come stay so that he spends Xmas morning with Theo but I.know il be in.alone on my bday(boxing day) and new years eve. I know that sounds selfish but i'll feel so depressed! I feel pathetic whinging about all this think I just needed to let it all out if anyone has any advice on how to cope it would be great

Xxx

 

[Dezireey]

Hi there and welcome, this is a great forum and a good place to get advice, see how others cope and compare experiences and to have a good rant!

I'm on my own a lot at the moment ( moved back in with my folks but they are retired and go abroad for 6 months every year) it is difficult in the beginning, I wont sugar coat it, it's lonely and tough. But.... get yourself out of the hous if you can, at least once or twice a week, even if it's only popping to the shops with LO, it will break up your week and take your mind off things. Join a baby group and you can have other mums to talk to. I have made two new friends at my group and I look forward to our extra coffee mornings where I pop over there place with LO or they come to mine. I also recommend getting yourself into a project or something that interests you like a hobby ( sewing, craft anything you like) and when LO is asleep in evenings or having a nap, don't just do housework all the time or chores, do something relaxing for yourself and something that takes concentration and gets your mind off things.

So really, in a nutshell, yes it's lonely and you just have babba to talk to most of the time but break your time up and plan stuff so that it takes your mind off it all and soon time will whiz by and you'll be back in work and LO will be in nursery/ school etc.

 

[Jade--x]

Sorry you're going through this.

I agree with Dezirrey. To be honest I don't get lonely. I've always been ok in my own company, and I have 2 children with me all the time - The quiet when they're in bed and time to myself is soooo welcome! But I also know my friends are a text message away if I was to feel lonely, and my family are down the road. I just don't take them up on it very often x

 

[teal]

Hello and welcome

I'm another one who doesn't get lonely. Between my lovely son and working I'm kept busy xx

 

[Dream.dream]

when i wasnt dating, i was on here alot and other forums, I also went out alot with my son to do little things like go to the grocery store or to the mall just to get out.

try joining a mom and me class or a gym just to meet people

 

[Jennifurball]

I went through a very short phase of wanting a new man but I enjoy my own company, and Scarlett's of course! It is hard sometimes when she is unwell/teething, or I need to get on with things. I don't have what most women take for granted but it makes you stronger.

Apply for tax credits, I am entitled to so much now I am single https://www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx

Definitely join baby groups, I hid in the house for ages but feel so much better since I got out, always plan something for every day, even if it is a walk to the park, and take lots of pics of LO having fun. Makes me feel good!!

Men =

 

[Lemonflower]

Hello and welcome!

Yes, same as what Dezireey said.

Go to mummy and baby groups, walks, even going to the shops, cleaning (not overly exciting but sometimes therapeutic! Lol).
Arts and crafts.... I've been making things for Xmas and really enjoy it.

Or come on here for a good moan or cry!!

xxx

 

[baby_mama87]

Thank.you ladies. I've been sobusy at the minute with college and been doing my kit days at work I haven't had time to think about things! I'm feeling ok on a night which I thought would be the worst time. Just need to keep myself busy and its amazing I.could feel so upset and even looking at los face makes me happy again! Xxx