how do we stop being obsessed ttc

[dizzyshell]

hi everyone , i got a few threads flying around so some might already know me.

Im on month 16 ttc number 1 - my story a bit strange i was with someone else for 13months ttc , then i went back to a old flame who never really left me .In 2006 i fell preg by accident in 4-6weeks with same partner im with now again.I sadly didnt want kids i was 22 and o/h 19 at time .Soi had a abortion,something that i deeply regrett now.

so ive been ttc 4months this is my 4th cycle with my current o/h .
Ive a cbfm and use opks .Also had tests and all fine got tubes test in may however .

I just cant turn myself off from ttc , its all i think about , everytimei see a child everytime , it hurts and i just long to have my own.And to think i never wanted my own 6yrs ago , is so punishing and i live with pain everyday of my life.I just wanna chill out and sling opks and just bd old fashion way , but i cantstop thinking....cd 10 ovulate 2days etc its always there.I evenmake excusesto go to my o/hs when opks startgetting darker , i try not to tell o/h when im fertile cuz men can be funny and think were using them for baby wich is partlytrue lol but least the o/h's know the better.

Has anyone else here be able to chillout and have any tipsfor us who cant , ???

thanks for reading xxx

 

[Damita]

I can't turn it off either and it's been over 8 months, DH keeps saying to me don't stress but it's hard and to you

 

[clairebear26]

I feel just the same hun. I am on cycle 10 of TTC number 1. Its all i think about and its doing my head in. People keep telling me not to try so hard but it is even harder to not obsess about it!!
Everytime I look on Facebook someone is going on about their pregnancy, or posting pics of their new born of going on about how great their kids are etc and it hurts big time. They arnt doing it on purpose I know, but I think I am taking things to heart alot more recently.

I hope you get your BFP soon and can somehow try and take your mind off if this TTC lark. I try losing myself in movies or a good book, but the the TTC thoughts still manage to creep back in!

C x

 

[waiting2be]

TTC for 2 yrs 7 months and i also can not stop thinking about it.
Everyone tells me stop thinking about it and it will happen but how do you not think about it when this is all you want????

 

[fieraentara]

I was the same way, still is bad at work cause of seeing all the babies, but at home I've taken up making hair clips, doll clothes, etc to keep my mind off it. But how to make it ever go away... I don't think it ever does... just gets easier to manage.

 

[SKP]

The only reason I think about so much is that Im cycle day 90 no AF

 

[ponyparade]

i think it ebbs and flows. You will have months of obsessing and just wear yourself out, then a few months of being less obsessed... then it goes round again. Ive been TTC 18 months. I think theres no way to be relaxed about it- how can you not focus on something that requires so much focus in order to happen? x

 

[Babydance]

Try thinking "in 3 months im going to start opk's etc again" and then try and confuse yourself.. i know it sounds rediculous. Write in your calendar or diary 3 or 4 random days "period due" and then you wont know when youre actually due. When you go to the loo dont look at your knickers or the loo paper. I know its so hard but confusing myself seems to be the easiest way i take my mind off things! Everytime you start thinking when will i ovulate think of something completely random and try not to focus your thoughts on it. All the best hun xxx