How do you deal with questions from family/friends ?

[Miaw]

I only told my parents and siblings that we where trying, and 2 friends.

Since my brother and his girlfriend now announced that they are pregnant, my mother and sisters have been asking me if we are still working on it, and things like that. It's not meant in a bad way, everyone is just so happy for my brother, and he would love (and me too) for us to have kids close in age so they can grow up more like siblings than cousins.

They never asked an update on us before, they just would let us be, I feel like I am handling this all wrong. I snapped at my mother when she asked me and I just said ''Yeah we are still trying, it's just not working''...

What do you guys say? Should I even say anything? It's making me so sad

 

[Emmi]

I only told my parents and siblings that we where trying, and 2 friends.

Since my brother and his girlfriend now announced that they are pregnant, my mother and sisters have been asking me if we are still working on it, and things like that. It's not meant in a bad way, everyone is just so happy for my brother, and he would love (and me too) for us to have kids close in age so they can grow up more like siblings than cousins.

They never asked an update on us before, they just would let us be, I feel like I am handling this all wrong. I snapped at my mother when she asked me and I just said ''Yeah we are still trying, it's just not working''...

What do you guys say? Should I even say anything? It's making me so sad

I totally understand - I just said to people, it's not going to be as easy as we thought and I will let you know if there is any news......Just made people realise that itsmaybe a topic that I don't want to talk about and to just leave me alone.

 

[pbl_ge]

I've started rolling my eyes and saying, "I hate that question." Probably a bit rude, but so is the question!

 

[LoveCakes]

I also just say I'll tell you if there is any news, then they should realise I don't want tot talk about it if there isn't any news.

 

[Miaw]

That's a good idea, I'll just tell them that I will tell them if there is any news. It's not rude and you're right they will understand.

 

[Myshelsong]

Honestly it depends on how comfortable you are with your family.

Once we hit the two year mark and people started asking I told my family straight out we were trying and it just wasn't happening. I didnt get into to much detail about what we were doing procedure wise but I said "It isn't happening naturally, we are going to a Dr see what our options are". When they then said, "Well just relax, or it will happen in time" I said, "No, it is not happening. There is something wrong. We are going to see a Dr about it. I will let you know if there is any change but this is really hard so please don't bring it up."

That pretty much shut most of them up, I let them know if there are any updates like procedures if it is my parents or siblings and I need to talk. but honestly they all understand this is an awful thing and is very very hard on us and they should not bring it up if they can avoid it. After a certain point I had to just get over it and let them know we were trying, really hard but nature doesnt want to play that way.

 

[Pinkie3]

I have been very honest with my closest friends and family about the problems we've had trying to conceive. Its a personal thing but I found it good to speak to them and they've all been very sensitive to the situation. As for other people i started getting fed up with them asking when it was my turn so i started saying we dont want any and we're just going to enjoy other peoples and since then no one has bothered asking me again, its been great.

Good luck.

 

[Teach2]

I say we are trying but nothing has happened yet. Pray for us.