How do you deal with the fear?

[Storked]

It is just one of those days. I try to stay positive but some days I can't even fake it. I hate being afraid that something is wrong. I wish it wasn't out of my hands.

 

[lxb]

i need that advice too~ and it's completely normal to worry/fear~

one of the fellow bnb buddies mentioned that we just need to trust our body.

 

[Storked]

Thank you so much
I think I quit trusting my body after my MMC but I try.

 

[lxb]

I keep telling myself that it's not within my control. Being worry won't contribute any positivity to this pregnancy~ Try to enjoy it~ (it worked half the time~ haha...)

How are you feeling other than that?

 

[LoraLoo]

I'm not sure if you can overcome it tbh, i just keep telling myself that statistically, i have a higher chance of a healthy baby than losing it xx

 

[Storked]

lxb, I have moments where I really believe that it will be okay. And then days like today full of negativity. How about you?

Loraloo, does that help? Maybe I need to adopt that.

 

[LoraLoo]

lxb, I have moments where I really believe that it will be okay. And then days like today full of negativity. How about you?

Loraloo, does that help? Maybe I need to adopt that.

I think its helping a little, i just keep telling myself that each passing day, im a day closer to holding that little baby. Its hard, really hard, but just have to try and stay positive xx

 

[kelly4]

Hi ladies, I am exactly the same, I found out I was pregnant in November and it was scary as I have three beautiful girls and never had any problems till I miscarried our surprise baby last March. I did worry but I have took every day as it comes and every little mile stone, I bought the baby a little something. Last year when I found out I was pregnant the first time, I made plans all around the baby and planned all my bits and pieces, this time I havent, until she is here, I am kind of carrying on as normal. It is hard, but everyday and every week that passes, is another milestone. Take care and I hope we all get to meet our rainbow babies soon.

 

[Amsan]

I've been in the same boat. However, my miscarriage occurred at 6 weeks, and I'm already into my 9th week. And the way my dr explained it to me, was that most MC's happen due to abnormalities, and most abnormalities form within the first few weeks, sometimes before women even know they're pregnant. I've already seen the baby and baby is measuring exactly where it should be, and baby has a very strong heart beat. That has taken a lot of the stress off of me. I still worry, of course. I'm still paranoid with every little pain or when something happens. But baby has made it this far, and whether or not I have hope/faith, I'll be heartbroken either way if I lose baby, so why not put a little bit of hope and give baby something more to fight for?

Its definitely not easy and I still have my days, but for the most part its starting to get easier.

Good luck

 

[natashaek]

I had an ectopic a few years ago and I lost a tube- It's very hard as i am now 5 +2 pregnant and so worried that every twinge is a bad sign. I am feeling more positive and see every day as a big milestone

I cant remember exactly how far along i was when i lost the little one as it's all a bit hazy but I like to believe i am now further along than i was last time which is a big boost psychologically!

Wish you all the best

 

[Niks]

Hi Ladies

I am on the same boat as you all. I had two losses last year one in July and another one in December both before 6 weeks. I found on 27th Feb that I am pregnant again. I am so scared about everything... Though this time we had a early scan at 6 weeks and saw the heartbeat which was reassuring but still I am not able to enjoy this pregnancy as I should.
On top of that I dont have much of pregnancy symptoms.

I have a scan again next week Wednesday at 8 weeks and I am just praying that everything stays fine.
May be after next week I would be able to relax.

 

[Storked]

May there be rainbows for us all