how do you do it?

[sciencemum]

How do you do it?
How do you let your FOB be involved with LO, because it's tearing me up inside so much already and she is not here.

I know i should be greatful he wants to play daddy ect, and I know i am being selfish wishing he would dissapear, but I AM trying to fight them feelings... I just can't seem too.

We were only together for a few weeks if that and i dumped him long befor I found out i was pregnant.

I know its probably part hormones at the moment, but I dread calling him to tell him she is here ect. And also I went for a growth scan and little one is not growing well and it really doesnt help him stressing me out all the time

 

[Aidedhoney]

I dunno

Different for me cos we split when lo was 6months

I wish i could delete him out of our lives but i have lo to think of and least i can look lo in the eyes and say i did my best so "you could have a relationship with your dad"

You will know better when the time comes.
You need to focus on yourself and the baby you should perhaps explain to your ex that hes stressing you out and its causing complications with the pregnancy!
Ask him to back off and that you will keep him updated

Good luck

 

[gemabee]

i know its hard but i just try to think that i have to do whats best for my lo. as much as it will pain me to hand my baby over, i know it will be best in the long run nd i want to make my lo's life as smooth nd easy as possible.
i think because my parents got divorced it makes me more secure in the relationship i'll have with my baby. my baby (nd urs for that matter!) will only ever have one mum, nd they will always understand that no matter how big (or little) they are nd no-one can ever take that away from u =) xx

 

[bloodbinds]

Lucky for me Bella's Dad is a grade-A twat and has only ever seen her once for 4 hours, and in those hours he called her ugly and yelled at me about everything I did wrong in our relationship. Ass-wipe. And as far as i know he's not making any plans to come here to see her again so i dont have to worry about it for a while!

It is crap, but i'm sure as long as he's a good father then you have nothing to worry about. And you won't have to be without her for a good few years methinks! If FOB did show an interest in Bella then i would make him see her with me around for the first few years until she's old enough to reconise him and to tell me if he does anything wrong! Lol. And only when i feel comfortable with it i will let him take her on his own for a little while.

Remember, you are in control here. You are the one giving birth and you will be the main care giver. You will be the one to decide how much contact FOB has and if you are involved. You have the power, so take comfort in that, i know it's hard xxx

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I just have to think that, whatever he did to me and however much he hurt me, he didn't do it to the baby.

He's still his father and I want my baby to know his Dad. I put up with all kinds of shite because I was desperate to stay together for the sake of our son, but it wasn't to be. If he hadn't done what he did, (or I hadn't found out), he'd still be a part of the baby's life everyday. I can't use my son as punishment for that, who would that be fair on?