How do you feel about name sharing?

[dontworry]

As in, you sharing a name that you adore for a future child?

It makes me nervous because I think people will steal my names lol. I know they aren't my property and I know that there are other people in the world named these names, and I feel pretty silly about being so protective about them... but I feel like it's necessary! Am I silly? Lol

I have these books filled with names I've come across over the years (I used to be really into writing short stories) and most of them are names that are still really unique and I don't see/hear used frequently and that makes them special to me.

Does anyone feel like this or am I just crazy? (I swear I won't be offended if you say I am, indeed, a nut!)

 

[Medzi]

You are not crazy There are a couple names I love that I have never shared, but other names I have. Mostly because one of my sisters (her and I are less than 2 years apart) has 3 kids and we always talked about names and didn't want each other taking them. Although, I did mention the name Gavin, which she ended up loving so much she used it. Thats ok though

It is crazy that I have kept a baby name list for the past 2 years that I continually add to? My husband doesn't know about it.

 

[dontworry]

That's so not crazy. I share most of the names I have with my OH, but I have to be careful and give them out slowly or he just says HECK NO to every single one after he hears one he doesn't like. I have given him about ten off of my list(s) so far and he likes about 3/4 of them, sometimes 5 on days where he doesn't remember that he dislikes that particular name. Haha.

 

[girl friday]

No, it's not crazy! It's an important decision and part of yours and the baby's identity.

I think there's a certain etiquette about not using names that close friends & family have picked.
When I was pregnant, DH's B&SIL were too, I was due 3 months before she was and we knew the gender but they didn't. We didn't discuss our choices for names around DH's family and his B&SIL only discussed girls names around us.

 

[Medzi]

My OH says 'no' to 99% of the names I love. But I am sure after he sees what I have to go through, he will let me have more say lol!

 

[iow_bird]

I had all these names I'd thought of before I had DD and ended up using something completely different. I decided on Matilda after my 20week scan and Matilda she is

 

[mrsswaffer]

I don't mind sharing on here, but I am keeping the names I like from family and friends. Not really because they'll steal them, but mainly so that we can change our minds when the time comes, if we want to.

 

[LockandKey]

name sharing with strangers I don't mind, and when I was pregnant with DD I told everyone her name, but afterwards I heard horror stories about how people others knew had their names stolen, so I think with our next child I will keep the name to myself until he or she is born

 

[Reyba]

I've shared names with certain people like OH's mother so that if OH's brother had a baby before us she could possibly steer them away from our names that we love. I am terrified that they choose the same name as us but use it anyway. I'm not too worried about friends etc because I have told them that i'll use the names as well.

 

[tuesday_]

You're not crazy! I don't want people to use any names I like (and I wouldn't use them if they did before me)... but I don't think I will have that problem because the names I like no one else does... my OH doesn't even like them.

 

[dontworry]

I really think as moms, being the ones who push the children out/get them cut out of our bodies lol, we should get the final say in the naming. We already have boy's names picked out - it's the girl's names that we fight over. Sometimes I feel like sharing them with people and other times I just am too afraid they will get taken lol.

 

[MrsAttard]

Sometimes I feel like people have 'stolen' the names I like, even though I haven't discussed it with anyone but DH. I just quietly cross the name off my mental list so that person doesn't think I've stolen their child's name! Alas, the names Lucy, Patrick, Adelhide, and so many others are no longer 'available' to me.

Sharing names is difficult, even if you aren't concerned about someone stealing your idea. I don't plan to talk to friends and family about names bc people can be so judgmental. Not that I would allow anyone to make my decision for me, but their opinions are not needed. Once the child is born everyone says 'I love that name!" regardless of what they truly think, and it's too late to be swayed from it. Not to mention my mother knows I like 'unusual' names and picks on me about them regularly, even though I'm not pg and change my name preferences all the time.

 

[AngelofTroy]

I wouldn't tell people our favourite names, too afraid they'd be used. But two of my favourite names I can't use because they're already in the family. They weren't stolen, one of them is older than me lol! But sadly they're close enough relatives to seem weird to use them but not close enough to name our kids after. Those names are Lucy and Alice.(don't mind sharing on here)

I told my best friend my favourite boy's name as my OH doesn't like it anyway I LOVE the name Lucas but OH says all he thinks of is George Lucas so he can't see the appeal... he just says 'star wars boy' grr.

 

[pinkribbon]

I wouldn't tell people our favourite names, too afraid they'd be used. But two of my favourite names I can't use because they're already in the family. They weren't stolen, one of them is older than me lol! But sadly they're close enough relatives to seem weird to use them but not close enough to name our kids after. Those names are Lucy and Alice.(don't mind sharing on here)

I told my best friend my favourite boy's name as my OH doesn't like it anyway I LOVE the name Lucas but OH says all he thinks of is George Lucas so he can't see the appeal... he just says 'star wars boy' grr.

I love Lucas too but my OH doesn't like it as I'm a One Tree Hill fan and he sees it as being a copy of that But we have a son called Jake and there is a Jake on OTH! Contrary mary he is!!