how do you get over so fast!!

[stevon111]

Well hello all!

just basically on here for a rant tonight! fed up and just cannot understand!

me and my x have been split nearly 6 months now i was there all the way through her 1st pregnancy (we lost our 1st at 17 weeks) and the 2nd pregnancy where we were together and i thought we were doing well over the 9 months...as soon as my daughter was born 13th feb she was sat on my laptop at early hours in the morning talking dirty to people and telling them what to do on a webcam and i found out this was a person i work in the other building at work next to...couldnt belive it...i just caught her in the act doing it and have saved conversations of her doing it then found out she was talking to another 4 lads! all when my daughter was in moses basket next to her asleep...anyways i confronted her and looking back i just never seemed to know she was really sorry for what she did (maybe its becouse of the way i found all of this out)
since then things were just terrible and she just seems to move on so well and so fast not thinking of our daughter and how she would feel in this situation not being with her dad and mum

6 months have passed now and i got sick of trying to patch things up when none of this has been my fault i still wanted to try and make things work but my x now just seemed to be interested in still persisting to talk to these lads still...and to this day i still feel she is...

just so sad and i cannot begin to understand how she is really feeling towards me or anything...we now spend time just texting about when to pick faye up and when to drop her off etc....

i feel inside that my love for my x is still strongly stongly there and would do anything to make it work and be a family but i just cannot see any effort from the other side even though in the past when we have tryed to make things better the next day things are just back to normal etc....i just dont know where to go from now...i just dont understand what her thoughts are becouse all she seems to do is drop me like a stone and then when things are bad she will be alright with me like nothing is wrong at all....

grrrr....i just read on here all the time about lads disowning their kids and here im typing out that i have a rant becouse i just want to be a family and have my child with my x gf but i will always be looking over my shoulder if we did get back together....sad isnt it

 

[sienarose]

It's not sad, It's just about breaking the cycle. If she doesn't appreciate you and what you have to offer then she doesn't deserve you. I know what it's like to want things to work out and be a family because I went through it will the father of my bub, but at the end of the day sometimes you need to know when to cut your losses. You have the best part of her in your little girl and she won't be going anywhere so as much as it hurts now, it wont last forever. Just take it a day at a time, that's all any of us can do

 

[v2007]

What siena wrote is good advice.

You have to know when to stop.



V xxx

 

[littlekitten8]

I agree with the girls. You sound like an amazing dad and need to be there for your daughter but I think you need to let go of her cos she obviously doesn't feel the same way for you. You will find someone who will respect and love you for who you are.

 

[Rhio92]

I(t's hard but you have to let go
She doesn't deserve you babe. Try and move on, I know it'll be hard. One day you'll meet a lovely girl who will appreciate you.
From now on, just be the best dad possible to your daughter and try to forget your ex x

 

[Kacie]

I agree with the others.. It sounds like a really difficult situation you are in but the x just doesn't seem to want what you want. You will always be your daughter's dad and noone can take that away from you so just stick by her and be the best Dad you can be. I think, as hard as it is, that is all you can do right now. You will always have to be in contact with the x so who knows, maybe 2/5/10 years down the line things may change.. but you can't rely on that happening and just need to look out for you and your daughter right now.

Hugs xxxx