how do you stop the fear

[Kiki09]

Hi, I just want to know how you all stop yourself freaking out, I am now 5 weeks and I am so so scared, having lost 2 babies in the past. I am trying to stop myself as I know its bad but it hit me yesterday that now is the time my baby should be growing its heart etc and what if its not? I have an early scan in 2 weeks time but I need to somehow get a grip with myself before then!

Any help/advice greatly appreciated.

 

[hb1]

Just to take it one day at a time - one milestone at a time and enjoy the moments that you're not feeling so scared.

Good luck for your scan and congratulations

hx

 

[Serendipity40]

Hi..it may sound a bit strange but i recently went to a friend who works with EFT..emotional freedom technique & we did some work on me accepting this baby has its own mind & it will decide what he/she wants & if they feel its right time they will come & if not then will make the choice & maybe try again later...she gave me points to tap on my face,hands & body & i do feel more relaxed than i did last time....

On a more normal note..i tend to keep as busy as poss & when i am not busy i have a long novel that am working my way thru so pick it up every chance i get to take mind off things...

i am of course completely afraid but all we can do is get through each day & try our best not to get too down about what may happen...

 

[acetoact]

This is what I asked a week or so ago. I have no idea how to just let go and not worry. I have been trying to stay very busy, and that seems to help. I only have told a few people, so when I am having a very bad day, I call one of them and just talk about it. They have all been there, so that helps. Congrats, and hoping you have a H&H 9 months!

 

[cowboys angel]

I was 'lucky' when I got pregnant after my 2 losses because I didn't know I was pregnant til I was 8 weeks along. Both my losses were at 5/6 weeks and at 6/7 weeks.

So I was already past my 'scare point,' if that make sense. But I am now 29 weeks and some, and still worried about losing this one. I'm not sure if you can ever get rid of the fear completely.

All you can do is cling to the people that support you, and keep looking forward, not back.

 

[Serendipity40]

yes and i keep telling myself the very same thing...even when or if i pass the 12wk mark..many things can go wrong still & same for rest of babys life..so there is no end to the worry so really have to think that we must try & enjoy time we have with our babies however long or short it may be....its not easy & i find it hard..but the worry will always be there.....

 

[Kiki09]

Thanx, I think its because I have lost the few symptoms I had, I know its early days yet but I need some symptoms I thnk to make me feel more secure, but nature has her own way I guess.
I will try and not let the fear creep into my thoughts, there is nothing I can do at the end of the day and as you all say, enjoy the time I have being pregnant and not worry about what might be!

Happy and Healthy 9 months to all of you

 

[cowboys angel]

And to you!