How does your OH 'take care of themselves'?

[kimberleyrobx]

I am almost 31 weeks pregnant and sex is really out of the question for me, not only is it very uncomfortable nowadays but I'm just not feeling it
If OH is looking for something and I can't be bothered or are too sore and tired, I'll give him a flash and he can take care of himself or if I really can't be bothered I'll tell him to watch porn
What does everyone else do when they're just not feeling it? I feel sorry for my OH but pregnancy has totally taken over me

 

[BeccaxBump]

Haha, funny. My OH's sex life isn't as high as mine so...I wait for him - great eh?
xoxox

 

[LynseyPynsey]

My sex life has been extra high in pregnancy, having had OH even say no to me once or twice

 

[kimberleyrobx]

My sex life has been extra high in pregnancy, having had OH even say no to me once or twice

haha thats hilarious! my OH and i were dtd almost every night before i was pregnant, and once pregnant, i totally lost it until i was about 15 weeks, then my sex drive went crazy! i was demanding it two or three times a day, i think he even got to the point where he was saying 'what the hell is wrong with you?!' LOL! but now at 30 weeks im back to not feeling it it all, im too sore and aching all the time, so he's just going to have to entertain himself until our little boy is here! (and no doubt for a few months after he is here )

 

[I Love Lucy]

If I'm not in the mood to do anything at all, DH will usually just ignore the "issue" rather then take care of it himself. Ever since we moved in together almost 3 years ago we've both kind of had the attitude that if one of us isn't in the mood then we just won't do anything. We have similar sex drives so that's probably part of the reason that works for us.

 

[amjon]

DH just waits until I'm ready. I did make him take care of it himself a few times before he flew in to see me when we were TTC as I wanted all the oldies out of there.

 

[fionar]

Eh, I know he watches porn so if I'm not up for it and he is, I send him to his computer for ssome "quality time," which bugs him a bit, but whatever.

 

[zombiedaisy]

dh works so much he honestly doesn't have the time to entertain himself. I think part of him is afraid to anyways as when I was pregnant with our daughter there was an incidence lol.

I know he's antsy for our sex life to go back to normal. he's getting a vasectomy soon and his consult next Friday and he won't stop bragging about how sex will be after he has it done and I'm healed lol.

I'm so sore and have to be really careful as it is, so we might do it once a week. I feel sorry for him so I planned on shaving (it's so hard at this point lol) and doing my nails and looking as sexy as possible at 35 weeks pregnant and having my way with him tonight

 

[fides]

DH never "takes care of" it on his own - he waits until we're both ready to go all the way, or it doesn't happen...

 

[Beccaboop]

I think my husband sorts himself out in the shower or bath as we havent had sex since i was about 20 weeks cos hes freaked out by sex with pregnant woman apparently!! We dont really talk about it!

 

[Amy89]

I haven't felt up to it much since we got PG, I always assumed he just got his jollies in the shower...until I woke up to a VERY suspicious movement next to me one morning! I thought it was hilarious, so now he's too embarrassed to try that again!

 

[JessyG]

The title of this thread made me laugh so had to come and read! I assume he just 'takes care of business' whenever he feels the need. I haven't asked him but since sex hasnt been a big part of our lives the last few months I figure he must. I couldn't care less if it means he doesnt bug me for it or go elsewhere (which i am sure he wouldn't)

 

[The Alchemist]

We were rabbits before I lost energy by 11 weeks to current. We've had sex just once, that was a few days ago, and that hurt. It was so uncomfortable. He didn't even get to finish. Anyway, since my vagina is on vacation, OH's been doing manual labor. I'm pretty sure he does it in the shower. Poor guy is horny and I'm just so turned off by sex. Ugh...Hope it comes back, though. Maybe I'll feel normal lol. Feel bad for OH too.

 

[Louise88]

I know my oh takes care of himself lol I go to bed before he does do he's got plenty alone time with himself, I do make the effort to give him sex or something else at least once a week as I feel mean just saying no full stop, I know come 37 weeks il be making him have sex every day to help get baby out! Men must feel so usedlol

 

[JessyG]

^^yes! I have already warned him that come week 37 he will be required! cant imagine it being very sexy though as I am like a whale already so may crush him!

 

[heyluu]

Good question....trying to figure that one out cause it sure isnt with me!

 

[atalanta85]

I wouldn't be surprised if he does, and don't really mind if he does either. I just haven't been feeling it since falling pregnant and I think we've done it maybe 3 or 4 times. I do if he's not around and I need to, so I don't believe that he shouldn't.

 

[eew1471]

Luckily I am 26 weeks and still in the mood when ever he is! So far so good, although I did get worried we put to much pressure on the baby the last time so maybe we will calm down a bit :-/

I personally like the idea of him taking care of himself, I think it's a healthy part of life... as long as he still wants to be with me too!

 

[Kittycat155]

My husband has always been very low, he can go few times a month. We conceived having sex only 3 times and 2 was same day! He does not masturbate at all(raised that penis is dirty/evil to think those types of thought). I have always preferred solo sex for myself due to the more intense feeling(....) so it works out not to bad for us.

 

[PitaPrincess]

Watch the start of American reunion.

All I need to say really