How hard is it to call him daddy?

[suzanne108]

just wondered how difficult you find it to call fob "daddy"?

Lola is never gonna know he's her dad unless I start saying things like "daddy is coming today" etc....

Am I the only one that finds it hard?

 

[lou_w34]

Very hard!!
But as you no he's only seen her once, i dont even think he has earnt the right to be called daddy.

If i ever mention him to a friend, i just call him by his name, i never say 'scarletts dad'

xxxxxx

 

[tinkabells]

Very hard, so called him his name, and then when he heard me saying it he winced but hey you aint been there, why get the full name? xxx

 

[teal]

I think I'd find it hard. My ex still wants nothing to do with the baby so I worry all the time about explaining it to LO.

 

[MissEfendi]

I find it so hard. I especially hate it also when he says 'My son' and I get so angry and want to shout out ' your son? do you change his bum? feed him? sing him to sleep? take him for his appointments? endure the sleepless nights? know what makes him laugh? play with him? rub his gums when it is sore? share your bed with him?" and so on. Just because he produces the sperm and is making sure he throws his weight around since it was his sperm, does not mean he is a DADDY or that he has the right to say "MY son" it takes much more than that.
I carried him, I gave birth to him, I have been there every single second of his 6 months of life. He is MY son until one day he becomes an adult and will be a person in his own right but definitely, I hate saying Daddy or father because he is just not a nice person and C is just too good to have a father like that.

 

[bloodbinds]

My family and I call him 'The Sperm Donor' - Because so far that's all he is. He has to earn the name 'Daddy'

 

[nievesmama]

I dont refer to my youngests fob as dad, he has seen her once for 10 mins (if that) at a day old. Shes 15 mths now.
He harrassed me, threatened me all the way through my pregnancy and hounded me into having to flee my home. What decent ` dad` does that?? x

 

[suzanne108]

MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!!

I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!!

Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

 

[suzanne108]

MissEfendi - I know exactly what you mean. He sometimes calls her "our little girl" which pisses me off because she is MY little girl. He even commented on my FB profile pic which was a pic of her saying lots of love daddy....I deleted it on the advice of the girls here!!!

I do in my head think of him as the sperm donor....dad is something he definitely hasnt earned yet. But I cant say things like that to Lola....what happens when she's 5 or 6 and asking questions. Which is why I wish I could call him daddy to her but the words just wont come out of my mouth!!!!

Also....if mummy isnt her first word she's gonna be in trouble lol so that is being drilled into her head already

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah i agree with what everyone has said, I just use his name tbh, he hasnt even asked to come see her so i dont think i have to worry about it yet

 

[MissEfendi]

Suzanne

It is annoying isn't it? we do all the hard work and these 'daddies' take the glory by staking their claim to their kids by referring them as 'My Son/daughter' I remember getting annoyed also when he said to C that he was proud of him!! Proud?! Only I can be proud of him as I am shaping him to be the person he is, he sees him every fortnight for one hour in a public place, he does not know anything about him, he might be the father but he is not a daddy and he never will be since we live so far, we have never lived together, C has never been bought up with him etc. So it is always going to have some kind of distance between them both.

 

[DizzyMoo]

Well josh knew his daddy but as i stopped contact when he was 2 he had since forgotten who the hell he was, After a few wks stopped asking for him & had then forgotten him full stop until recently when we bumped into him & he had the nerve to say " daddy misses you " i was full on fuming! How dare he confuse MY son like that.
During this time when we'd bumped into eachother joshs kickboxing coach walked by & happened to stop to speak to josh & ask whether he'd been practising to which his dad butted in saying " yes he's always doing it & loves it " ...Erm ang the f**k on how the hell do you know? You dont see him anymore!
He spoke to him like he was the ever proud daddy who knew everything, I was actually rather upset that i felt like he stole my glory, its me who does everything & he just stole that little moment from me GRR.
If im talking about him though i either say " dave " or if josh is there i spell dave out, i call him sperm donor but not infront of josh.

Jaxons " sperm donor " wants nothing to do with him & asked for a dna test which is fine by me, but he well & truly hasn't earned the right to be called daddy , he denied jax & called him a spakka!! So hmm yeh he gets called quite a few unpleasant names.