How has moving affected your kids?

[SarahBear]

I have been applying for jobs and have a current job offer that is somewhat low pay, but in a nice town with a good community. I don't know if I'll want to stay with the lower pay or the location (I'm not too familiar with the location). I'm leaning toward taking the job and applying elsewhere in a few years. What is your experience with how this sort of moving around impacts kids? My 6 year old is anxious and doesn't like change. My 4 year old is easy going.

 

[AngelUK]

My boys didn't bat an eyelid. They changed to their current school a year before we actually moved here cause we thought our house would be finished earlier but neither the school move nor the house move affected them. They miss our old area sometimes when they remember that the ice cream van used to always park in front of the park gates which were 200 yards from our house but that is about it. But then neither of my kids are anxious and while Sebastian hated change when he was little, he is super laid back now.
I hope your move goes ok if you decide to go for it.

 

[_Meep_]

Mine didn't care, but then they didn't have to change school or anything like that. My older daughter hardly remembers our last house and my younger was only a baby so will have no memories.

I was an anxious child. I vaguely remember being 5 and moving from one house to a different one, and initially being pretty sad about it. I also moved school around the same time but was relatively quickly happy about life again.

My mum still lives in the house we moved to and it has always felt like home. I loved my new school and have very few memories of the old house. Eventually my parents put me back in the old school (when they had the money again - it was independent) and I was happier there than I have probably ever been anywhere.

Kids are pretty adaptable and I think will get used to change in time.

 

[SarahBear]

Violet actually seems OK about the idea of moving to a small town with lots of nature around, which is what we're looking at. She was less thrilled with the idea of moving to a mid-sized city, despite the closer proximity to extended family. I'm going to be seeking out cognitive behavioral therapy to address anxiety issues she's been having, so support for anxiety around moving can be lumped into that and I suppose I won't worry beyond that until/unless I need to.

 

[zorak]

We moved internationally when my eldest was 2 , he was really very good about it. A bit clingy for the first couple of weeks but he was getting used to new accents and everything. We then moved towns when he was 5 and my youngest was 3, just before they were due to start school and nursery. It was honestly great, they were so excited about the new house. I don't think that move affected them at all.