how is it to be single mum?

[glamgirl]

hello everyone,

Just wanted to know, how is it to be a single mum? Coz i think i will be one soon, OH can`t seem to be getting along with me. Saying im a bad mum coz i left my LO with him and went home as i was pissed off...

He hardly spend time with us, he always work and if he is not wrking he got sumfin else to do. Today he came hme with my LO very late, where my LO should have been hme by 6pm, he was 2hours late. And he was fighting with me as i was trying to hold the baby. He said i can look after him, i was like WTF? Who looks after him every night when he cries, OH never wakes up.

He is not home now and left dunno where he went, he called and said if i dnt care then there is smeone else that will care for him. WTF!!! Im so pissed off. Instead of spending time with us nwadays he just argues with me and like now he is not home, he is with mates or whoever probably, he doesnt care at all. And he is talking about care with me, he doesnt give a shit!!!

So girls how is it to be single? is it hard? do you think you can cope?

 

[Irishmum]

Heya hun! Well first off I just wanna say Im really sorry to hear about the situation your in atm

As far as being a single mum goes my LO isnt here yet but I havent heard from the sperm donar since I was 2 months pregnant, so im sure I will be doing this alone. Truth be told I know it's not going to be easy but I also know I can do it. There has been days where I've wondered if I will be able to cope but I know I can, I know I will. I've made sure to surround myself with positive people. And I've also identified the negative influences in my life and have gotten rid of many of them.And I really think that these things wil make a difference once bubs gets here.

Just remember you may be single, but single isn't alone. And you don't have to do it alone. In short do I think I can cope- Deffo!

 

[Rayven]

Hey hun, Firstly i'm really sorry that things are so bad at home. It sounds like you may be better off on your own anyway, at least then you'll know where you stand.
I'm no longer a single mum but was for over two years. When i was preggers with my second baby, my OH started going out more, not coming home, not seeming bothered about me or the baby and when baby was 3 months old we split up. I'm not going to lie to you, being a single mum isn't a picnic, but you DO cope. I found it hard to begin with but you do find ways to cope and at least you won't have the arguments etc in front of your little one. I hope you get to sort things out one way or another. *hugs*

 

[cuddles314]

Just wanted to send you some and say sorry you're going through this. My bubs is not here yet, but I will be on my own (although I am sort of amicable but complicated terms with bubs' Daddy) so can't yet offer any advice on what it's like. But I do know that you sound like a strong woman, and I'm sure we'll all cope, with the support from friends and family, and with the love we have for our children.
Really hope things get brighter for you soon hun.
xxx

 

[Younglutonmum]

Hiya hun

Me & Mayas sperm doner split when I was about 10 weeks pregnant. I gave birth to her 2 weeks ago & despite being given a chance he's defo not involved.

So far it hasn't been bad at all. I had one day where I was really upset that he was depriving Maya of a dad but that's it. Aslong as you surround yourself with family & friends you'll be just fine.

I quite like the fact that I get all of them magic moments to myself. I especially love it first thing in the morning when she's all snuggly & alert & just wants cuddles. Them moments are just for mummy

 

[AppleBlossom]

hello everyone,

Just wanted to know, how is it to be a single mum? Coz i think i will be one soon, OH can`t seem to be getting along with me. Saying im a bad mum coz i left my LO with him and went home as i was pissed off...

He hardly spend time with us, he always work and if he is not wrking he got sumfin else to do. Today he came hme with my LO very late, where my LO should have been hme by 6pm, he was 2hours late. And he was fighting with me as i was trying to hold the baby. He said i can look after him, i was like WTF? Who looks after him every night when he cries, OH never wakes up.

Sounds a bit like my OH! To be honest hun it sounds like you've been doing it all pretty much on your own anyway. I know it would be hard for you to split up now but in the long run it might be for the best. And being a single mum isn't the worst thing in the world. Good luck

 

[glamgirl]

thank u girls for your support, im trying to get my mind busy so that dnt involve in arguments.

 

[leeanne]

Glamgirl, did you not just get married recently?

Can you not try marriage counseling and see if that works for both of you?

 

[mBLACK]

I love being a single mom. Granted, it's difficult @ night & when baby cries sometimes but it gets easier as you get used to it.

 

[Rachiebaby24]

Sorry to hear that things aren’t great with your OH….maybe you need to address that first….it may just be really stressful for the both of you….its your first baby…not long been married…you two don’t have space of your own…maybe he feels a bit pushed out…speak to him….try a neutral place like a walk in the park…I usually talk to my OH when we are out as a couple having a meal/walk etc as I know that way he is relaxed and wont cause a scene in public and then we talk more rather than argue…
If it is the case that things cant be worked out, being a single parent is not the end of the world. I am not one so don’t know first hand but I was brought up my mum only and though it was hard for her there are pros….for example….you get all the nice bits, you get to have more control over your child (not having to compromise or have your OH in your earhole)…im sure it is hard but there is lots of women who do it and cope well…I certainly am not scared of being a single parent if it does not work out with OH….obviously everyone wants two parents for their child but it doesn’t always work out that way…you will cope and you sound strong enough to even be thinking about Jayden’s surroundings and environment so I think you will be fine…
Hope all works out. xx