How is your partner reacting to TTC??

[Louise81]

Hi everyone! I was just wondering how everyone's partners were acting about the whole TTC thing? My hubby is being very cool about it all. He is very supportive and I know he is as excited as I am about having a baby but he gets all funny when I want to discuss my 'possible symptoms'! I think he thinks I'm crazy and wants me to just chill out about it all. He doesn't like to wonder about things - he is very 'when it happens, it happens'! But I just can't be like that.

I wanted to be relaxed about it, since there isn't really anything you can do other than BD and wait and see... but I just can't get it out of my head. I'm fine before ovulation... I was even fine last time when I got my AF. I just thought 'oh well, at least I know now and can get on with my life' but the 2WW is just unbearable!

That's why I've joined this forum, so that I can chat about it with people who understand and are just as mad as me!

 

[HAYS]

ditto,mines exactly the same, so i dont really talk to him about symptoms etc,, id prefer to come on here!!
He said he will be excited when it happens, he doesnt get excited about the possible chance of it being that month, basically he wont believe it till he see's it!
x

 

[Spartacus]

Hey Louise

My hubby is exactly the same they don't like to talk about the symptons too much probably because they want it as much as we do but try and keep us grounded too! I know when I came on last month he was really good and has the same attitute as yours that it will happen when it happens and not to worry too much about it!

 

[codiontour]

ditto,mines exactly the same, so i dont really talk to him about symptoms etc,, id prefer to come on here!!
He said he will be excited when it happens, he doesnt get excited about the possible chance of it being that month, basically he wont believe it till he see's it!
x

Mine is exactly the same it drives me crazy sometimes but probably just b/c i wish i could be that relaxed about it!!!

they are troopers to deal with thorough ladies like us though ; )

 

[codiontour]

Hey Louise

My hubby is exactly the same they don't like to talk about the symptons too much probably because they want it as much as we do but try and keep us grounded too! I know when I came on last month he was really good and has the same attitute as yours that it will happen when it happens and not to worry too much about it!

Yep!

 

[codiontour]

Hi everyone! I was just wondering how everyone's partners were acting about the whole TTC thing? My hubby is being very cool about it all. He is very supportive and I know he is as excited as I am about having a baby but he gets all funny when I want to discuss my 'possible symptoms'! I think he thinks I'm crazy and wants me to just chill out about it all. He doesn't like to wonder about things - he is very 'when it happens, it happens'! But I just can't be like that.

I wanted to be relaxed about it, since there isn't really anything you can do other than BD and wait and see... but I just can't get it out of my head. I'm fine before ovulation... I was even fine last time when I got my AF. I just thought 'oh well, at least I know now and can get on with my life' but the 2WW is just unbearable!

That's why I've joined this forum, so that I can chat about it with people who understand and are just as mad as me!

Believe me we are all just as mad (if not worse) than you!! ; )

 

[Arcanegirl]

Mine will happily listen and will tell me if i need to not obsess so much. I love how supportive he is.

 

[CherryBlossom]

my hubby is brill he has acctully sat on the bathroom floor with us both in tears coz i came on but he is alot more chilled out than me although he helps me chat and looks at messages on here lol xx

 

[codiontour]

my hubby is brill he has acctully sat on the bathroom floor with us both in tears coz i came on but he is alot more chilled out than me although he helps me chat and looks at messages on here lol xx

aww thats sweet : )

 

[justme00]

At first he didn't want to try anything other than regular bding when we felt the urge -"whatever happens, happens" but once we did that for a couple years and realized it wasn't so easy to get pg I started charting. He kind of ignores my obsessive comments and stays relaxed. I usually come on here to vent so he won't have to listen to me.

 

[polo_princess]

Miines really good too, although we dont talk about ttc very often and in too much detail, he knows the score and he more than happily goes along with it.

Im happier that way and then coming on here to chat with others about it, keeps me from stressing him out and pestering him every 5 mins!!

 

[Sinead]

Mine knows the score and keeps quiet about things. He thinks it will just happen and we don't need to plan any sexy nights!!!!! He won't discuss it, but whenever the witch turns up I get big hugs

 

[faith_may]

Mine is really cool about it, he's really happy and wainting just like me for the this month.
He asks me eveyday, how long until you have to test? Do you want to BD just little bit more...just in case?

 

[loopylew]

my hubby is really good actually even when im obsessing, last month he said i was "preasuring" him when i thought i was ovulating so gonna TRY be more relaxed. hes happy for me to come on her and stress with all you girls

 

[jo27]

Mine knows i'm a complete hypochondriac whenever i've got a headache i'll say it could be brain tumour so he pays no attention whatsoever think like others have said when he sees a bfp then he will prob get excited

 

[Samo]

I never really talk to DH about symptoms and such, but i do mention them occasionally like "gosh my boobs hurt " and he'll just laugh and be like "maybe it's a baby?!" and i punch him lightly on the arm and tell him to not get my hopes up haha (even though i've always got my hopes up). I am trying to trick him so when i do get my BFP i can surprise him and he wont know it's coming!

I know he is excited about having a baby, he loves kids (maybe even more than me!), so i really want it to be special when the time comes to tell him he's gonna be a daddy!

 

[chefamy1122]

Mine has been really supportive, but he also tries to keep me grounded. Just last night I was reading different posts on the forum (my new favorite website by the way) and he walked by and asked me if I was getting myself depressed again and I told him no, that finding this website has been a blessing and I have already learned alot in the couple of days that I have been on it. He just hates to see me get all worked up and obsessing about TTC. There have been alot of feelings that I have kept bottled up, just b/c he gets upset when he sees me upset, so I try to only let him see the "crazy" side of me on occasion... lol.

 

[Louise81]

Mine knows i'm a complete hypochondriac whenever i've got a headache i'll say it could be brain tumour so he pays no attention whatsoever think like others have said when he sees a bfp then he will prob get excited

Same here! I try to shut up about it but sometimes I just blurt out rubbish about this pain and that twinge. I embarrass myself even.

 

[avistar]

My DH is kinda off and on about the whole ttc...one minute he is asking "where is our baby?" and the other he says stuff like, "we don't need kids, our life is great how it is". But I know he wants a baby...I don't really talk to him about when I think I might O but he knows...of course with all the Bding and doesn't complain. I think deep down he is starting to realize that it isn't as easy for some just to bd and be preg right away, and understands my consistency in ttc.

 

[NeyNey]

My DH is very smooth sailing. I mean he's great for support, but he doesn't fuss like I do (fuss? I meant obsess) - but he listens, and he holds me when I cry - I can't ask for more than that.