How Long Have You Been TTC?

[stuckinoki]

^^^ Ugh I feel you completely about the birthday month thing!!!
My birthday is July 16th and our TTC anniversary is July 26th....so it's like a double whammy. This July was our two year mark. AF showed up right on time so I celebrated with a huge bottle of champagne.

 

[cazi77]

We have been trying 19 months and have had 4 m/c's. I know its not a very long time in the grand scheme of things but the experience has changed me forever! I try not to think about it too much and try to pick myself up and get on with things. I have a great ability to pretend i'm happy when I'm not

Certain things really bring it home to me like my friend started trying the same time as me has got pregnant had her baby, had 6 months mat leave and had been back at work for 3 months!!! And here I am not pregnant

To understand what it is like to have fertility problems I think you have to go through it yourself! I really hope it happens for us all one day. No-one deserves to go through this. Best wishes to you all xxxx

 

[phoenixrose]

We have been trying 19 months and have had 4 m/c's. I know its not a very long time in the grand scheme of things but the experience has changed me forever! I try not to think about it too much and try to pick myself up and get on with things. I have a great ability to pretend i'm happy when I'm not

Certain things really bring it home to me like my friend started trying the same time as me has got pregnant had her baby, had 6 months mat leave and had been back at work for 3 months!!! And here I am not pregnant

To understand what it is like to have fertility problems I think you have to go through it yourself! I really hope it happens for us all one day. No-one deserves to go through this. Best wishes to you all xxxx

I'm so sorry about your losses! Have you looked into reproductive immunology? That's the type of multiple loss specialist a FS would send you to after 2 or 3 miscarriages. You can obviously get pregnant but your own immune system could be keeping you from staying pregnant. I read an excellent book by Dr. Beers called "is your body baby friendly." It makes a lot of sense, you should check it out.

 

[cazi77]

Thank you. I have had loads of tests done at my local hospital which are all normal and I am now waiting for a referral to the regional specialist centre for more tests an opinions from a specialist recurrent m/c consultant. Hoping they can help!

 

[phoenixrose]

Thank you. I have had loads of tests done at my local hospital which are all normal and I am now waiting for a referral to the regional specialist centre for more tests an opinions from a specialist recurrent m/c consultant. Hoping they can help!

Well I hope you get the best recurrent m/c specialist and they find all the answers you need to get your sticky bean

 

[dinky]

I was ltttc for 7 years with dd, been ttc 5 months since coming off the pill in july, beggining to think if I hadn't gone on the pill straight after the birth of dd I 'could' of been pregnant by now bracing myself for another long and painful wait x

 

[skyler28]

me and my hubby been ttc for 9 years now its been a long road lol one day we will get to the end of it i suppose

 

[whitewolf79]

Maybe I can offer a ray of hope for some of you. I was 22 when I had my DD. She was a "missed a pill or two and then was on antibiotics" kind of occurrance. Best thing ever!!! When she was six weeks, I went on the Depo shot. I was on this for roughly a year and a half, before deciding to try for baby number 2. While on the shot, I had no period. Still did not for an entire year after stopping it! Finally, about five years later, I finally did get pregnant, only to have a miscarriage at about 5 or 6 weeks. That was about three years ago. My husband and I never got tested to see what was wrong. I did have some general testing done, but nothing came back abnormal. So a few months ago, my husband and I decided that I would go on BC again as soon as his new insurance kicked in, just to avoid any "surprises". Then my December period was late...so I tested,,,and SURPRISE! But, this journey has been not so smooth either. I had some spotting at about five weeks. I was scared that this was a repeat of the last time. I got scanned, which they did see a yolk sac, which was more than was seen in my last pregnancy. The doc put me on Prometrium. I am currently at 7 weeks, with a recent scan showing a strong heart beat and baby! So here I am again, almost ten years after my first child. I hope that gives some of you some encouragement.

 

[uwa_amanda]

What do I think is meant by my infertility?

I think it is so my husband and I grow closer, become stronger, love deeper. I think we are meant to find the fortitude within ourselves to get up every time infertility knocks us down. I think it is meant for our medical community to discover medicines, invent medical equipment, create procedures and protocols. I think it is meant for us to find a cure for infertility.

No, it is not that we are never meant for to not have children. That's not my destiny; that's just a fork in the road I'm on. I've been placed on the road less traveled, and, like it or not, I'm a better person for it. Clearly, I am meant to develop more compassion, deeper courage, and greater inner strength on this journey to resolution, and I haven't let myself down.

Frankly, if the truth be known, I think I have been singled out for a special treatment. I think I am meant to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.

While I would never choose infertility, I can not deny that a fertile woman could never know the joy that awaits me. Yes, one way or another, I will have a baby of my own. And the next time someone wants to offer me unsolicited advice I'll say, "Don't tell me why I have been handed infertility. I already know.

This is probably one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. You said exactly what I have been thinking for almost six years (never a ). Crying my eyeballs out now. Thank you for this inspiring post.

 

[RainAngel]

been trying for 6 years and 2 months. BFP in oct 2010 only to lose it

 

[rosebud_01_99]

i have been trying since april 1995 so coming up on 17yrs, it has consumed my married life and drained us emotionally , financialy and physicaly. i am coming near the stage of giving up even tho im 34 (married at 18) but dh wants to keep going, not sure when this hell is going to end for me .

 

[Amber3]

Hi there
For us it has been almost 5 years of ttc. I have had one ectopic and 2 chemicals. I have endo and hormonal issues.
I am starting to look into immunology and am trying NOT to get my hopes up. But anyways I can't help it. This whole journey has taught me that I am a hopeless optimist.
We have also started the adoption proces. I will do anything to have that family of my dreams.
Best wishes to all of you
Amber

 

[cndymndy716]

This month marks mine and DH five year mark. I have to say a few years ago my birthday and thanksgiving and christmas were all ruined as on each of those we found out others were pregnant. When I was going through fertility treatments it was a lot more stressful and devestating for me. As of April 2011 we decided to do everything naturally and things are going really well. I am ovulating on my own and believed I conceived in October but lost the pregnancy a couple days before I would have tested. I am in a better place now. It doesn't always make things easier but I just keep my head up and just keep plugging away...lol

 

[PoasCrazy]

3 years in feb

 

[StorkStalker]

4+ years.. 1 mc 3 years ago.. Nothing since.. Trying for 1st child..

 

[phoenixrose]

This month marks mine and DH five year mark. I have to say a few years ago my birthday and thanksgiving and christmas were all ruined as on each of those we found out others were pregnant. When I was going through fertility treatments it was a lot more stressful and devestating for me. As of April 2011 we decided to do everything naturally and things are going really well. I am ovulating on my own and believed I conceived in October but lost the pregnancy a couple days before I would have tested. I am in a better place now. It doesn't always make things easier but I just keep my head up and just keep plugging away...lol

Were you not ovulating on your own before? What did you do to change that?

 

[heavenly]

4 years.

Will be looking at IVF or ICSI if Clomid doesn't work.

Trying to stay positive, not much time left for me though!!

 

[MrsPete]

i have been trying since april 1995 so coming up on 17yrs, it has consumed my married life and drained us emotionally , financialy and physicaly. i am coming near the stage of giving up even tho im 34 (married at 18) but dh wants to keep going, not sure when this hell is going to end for me .

What a long and difficult path. I can't imagine how you feel but it must be torturous. I just wanted to send you some support and hugs!!!

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

I had DD2 Dec 22, 2007 and we started TTC in 2008. I got BFP June 2009 and the babys HB stopped at 6w3d. That was the last time i was pregnant.

I have tried Soy, Femara, "taking a break", SMEP, timed BD. Nothing has worked.

Finally last year I said enough! Enough! We stopped TTC. We BD w/e we wanted, i noted AF on the calendar and that was it. Until this month when DH got hired on and has GOOD insurance (TBh we had the medical card before) and so we decided to TTC 1 cycle and then go to RE. What the RE will do I dont know because we wont do IUI/IVF,etc.
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It was hard to take this break. It was hard to say im done. It came when i got bitter towards everyone. Every time someone would talk about TTC or Preg, i was bitter. I got angry at DH and started blaming him for us not getting BFP.

Im not sure what will happen. I have been told to be thankful i have the 3 children i have and that this "is a sign youre done". I dont want a "sign". i dont want someone else to decide when im done.

 

[Twinkie210]

I am not sure I belong here yet, because we have only been TTC 1 year, with a MC in August, but I feel like I am in limbo and don't really belong anywhere. I have been diagnosed with low progesterone and I am hoping to see my OB/GYN again if this cycle is another BFN. I think the hardest part is knowing in my heart that there is a problem, but having to wait to see a Dr. I hate the waiting, it just feels pointless and makes the whole TTC process even more disheartening.