how long were you together before...

[comotion89]

you got engaged?? just wondering, you can see by my ticker how long me and the bf have been together...ive been constantly on about getting engaged I can't help it, it's what I really want, he says to wait...that's like impossible for me argh it also gets me so upset (cried last night) oh n the thing is we have set a date for the wedding, looked at venues ect he says he is guna but to wait , tbh I dunno what Were waiting for, part of me thinks he wants to wait till we've been together longer, hence my question
thanks in advanced ladies

 

[Perfect_pink]

We'd been together 17months and we are getting married 2 months before our 2 year anniversary !

 

[xpatchx]

We got together August 4th 2008, August 4th 2009 I told him I was pregnant, and August 12th 2009 he proposed (he wanted to do it on the 4th but the ring came in damaged) and the following April we had our daughter, (when we'd been together two years - ish) and this Friday, 3 years after we got together, and 2 years after being engaged, we're getting married.

I kept kind of hinting at my OH that I wanted to get engaged, and he knew when we first got together I wanted that, and babies.

He kept putting it off, but thats cause he had plans of when and where he wanted it done xx

 

[xpatchx]

Wait... are you saying you set a date? Surely that means technically you're engaged... just not been proposed to yet?

 

[comotion89]

Wait... are you saying you set a date? Surely that means technically you're engaged... just not been proposed to yet?

does it? lol it's far off 2015, tho to me it's not really official till your asked iykwim

 

[booflebump]

But if you have set a wedding date, then you are engaged to be married? I'm a bit confused there! We were together 15 months when we got engaged, although Mr Boofs told my mums his plans at 1 year together x

 

[xpatchx]

If you have set a date to be married, you're intending to get married on that day, so technically you are engaged to be married. You just haven't been proposed to.
SO, as you have set a date, he intends to marry you, therefore WILL likely propose. You just need to give him time, because he might have something planned, or he might not want to be a couple that is engaged for years. He might just wanna propose nearer the time so he can propose, then get married within a short time.

 

[Mynx]

I'm with Patch and Boofs, if you've set a date, the technically you're already engaged! You just need the ring and the proposal now which he may well have plans for

Jay and I got together in August 2007 and I found out I was pregnant in April 2009.. had Evie in the November and then got engaged Christmas last year (2010) so we'd been together just over 3 years when we got engaged. We set a date in March of this year, giving us only 6 months to get everything organised

I say give it time hun, he may well have big plans for a proper engagement/proposal but as said earlier, you are already technically engaged

 

[smelly07]

My OH proposed to me january 2010 and we had been together 8 and a half years we are getting Married THIS FRIDAY 12th august 2011 on our 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY xxxxx

 

[smelly07]

oh and yes i would say you are engaged!!! you just need a ring i guess so it seems more official not necceserily a proposal x

 

[Mynx]

oh and yes i would say you are engaged!!! you just need a ring i guess so it seems more official not necceserily a proposal x

That's very true! My OH didnt propose as such.. it was more of a suggestion Even when he presented me with my engagement ring on Christmas Day, he didnt get down on one knee and ask me properly

 

[smelly07]

oh and yes i would say you are engaged!!! you just need a ring i guess so it seems more official not necceserily a proposal x

That's very true! My OH didnt propose as such.. it was more of a suggestion Even when he presented me with my engagement ring on Christmas Day, he didnt get down on one knee and ask me properly

yes my OH text me to suggest that we get married he really isnt the romantic type

once we set a date and told family i felt it was official and buying the ring was the icing on the cake x

 

[comotion89]

I hear what you Guys are saying but the oh doesn't see it like that he has said that it's not set in stone( discussing this as I type) , also he won't be telling anyone of his intention or planning anything properly , so I am not engaged it's just been agreed really that we want to get married , it does frustrate me tho as he gets my hopes up when we talk about it such as venues ect, I mean this month we are stopping at scalford hall and that is a potential venue ... Erm yea so can you understand my problem? I mean I'm told one thing n then he says another

 

[Mynx]

Hmm I do see what you're saying hun. My ex was very much the same for a very long time.. he'd say yes, we'll get married, just not yet and we were engaged in that he bought me a ring but I dont think the intention to get married was ever there. We even said what year we'd get married and where we would do it lol! Dont get me wrong, we loved each other very much but after waiting 11 years for him to pull his finger out, I decided I'd had enough and ended the relationship. I've always wanted to settle down and get married so being with someone for that long and not seeing any sign of commitment (we didnt even live together lol!) during that time, my thoughts were that I was in my mid 30's, waiting around for someone who really didnt want to commit so I decided to go and find someone who wanted a committed relationship.
We're still mates now (he's actually driving me to our venue lol!) so it was an amicable break up.
I'm not saying that your BF is going to be the same, you guys are a long way off 11 years but I'm just saying that I can understand where you're coming from hun

 

[Shabutie]

Maybe your OH is waiting for a special occasion to propose, like your birthday, Christmas, Anniversary, Valentine's day?

Me and Oh had been together 2years and 5months when he proposed on Valentines day. We are now getting married on the 6th September this year, after being together exactly 5 years. We chose our date specifically because it was our anniversary, which meant it fell on a Tuesday.

I'd say your half way there, and just need to be patient. You dont want to be pushing your OH all the time, otherwise he may feel you are pressuring him into marrying you. You have a date set, so you know he does want to marry you.

 

[EstelSeren]

Ahh, so I guess that you're in the definition of what Sharon on 2 Guys and a Girl calls "engaged in theory" or engaged to be engaged!

I was with my husband for 1 year 2 weeks when he proposed. I have friends, however, who were together 3 years before getting engaged, others who were together 18 months, and still others who have been together for years and still aren't engaged. I know one girl from secondary school who has been with her OH since she was 17 and she's now going to be 24 next month- so 7 years or thereabouts- and as far as I know she's no closer to getting engaged now than she was when we were in school! I feel kind of sorry for her because she's seen a good 4 or 5 of her school friends meet their partners in uni, get engaged and get married whilst she's still in the situation she was in before! So I really do think it depends on your relationship!

Beca :wave:

 

[SarTheBear]

We got engaged after being together for 5 years and we'll be getting married 6 days after our 8th anniversary! These things can take time, try not to rush it! x

 

[mumandco]

We got engaged after we has been together for 2yrs and 4 months,it would have been sooner but my parents asked oh to wait until I was 18, wen we get married we'd have been together just shy of 10 years!

 

[mumandco]

Do you think you oh has any plans of proposing soon? As harsh as this sounds perhaps he not ready to be engaged and is just letting you look at weddings things so not to argue with you and safe in the knowledge that nothing will come of it? Iykwim

 

[honeybee2]

we were together a year and a half before we got engaged and we've been together nearly 5 years now.
Its not something you can rush into or make your oh feel he must do it- you must wait untill he is ready too hun but gl xx