how much baby stuff do you own?

[chocolatecat]

Oh dear, I have a few bits, some bought before TTC - a very cute towel/apron thing, some books - all bargains, because I can't resist.
I've bought toys and things for my friends babies and just liked them too much to give away. I also got some paper for the nursery because it was only a pound a roll.

I got some lovely, lovely ducky babygrows and matching blanket in the states earlier this year, saying it was for my neighbour's baby if I hadn't conceived by the time it was born. She's going to be induced on Monday and AF has just arrived. I'm tempted to keep them...

I'm also tempted to give everything away in the hope that 'fate' then gives me a BFP! I'm completely practical and a scientist, so why does a small part of me think that all this stuff and our years of talking about 'when we have kids' and picking baby names years ago is what's Jinxed me from not getting PG??
I'm just a little bit nuts aren't I?

 

[Mynxie]

I gave it all away. Currently trying to get rid of the maternity trousers though TBH.

I had a couple of bags worth of clothes. mam and Dad had alsorts, I hope they've got rid of it all TBH.

I wanted to keep it on a "one day" theory, but TBH it ws cluttering the place up and not so much as upsetting me, though I suppose it was, more like a sigh and a tear than crying and being devistated every time I saw them.

I bought alsorts when I was pregnant the second time.

TBH IF I get PG again and IF my stupid body does keep ahold of it, I don't think I'd buy anything til really late in PG - cause I'd be too scared.

I think if I was to get pregnant now, I'd be scared and sometimes almost pretend it wasn't happening for fear of losing another baby, of being a failiure once again, of getting attached to a baby that I can't keep....and I feel terrible about that. I really don't think that I would enjoy PG as much as I could or would like to, for fear of losing another LO. Sad but true

Ironic though isn't it? The things that I've always dreamed of, the things you take for granted will happen, only one of them ever happened and I cherish DH and love him so much it hurts, but maybe fate has it that I could only have one thing I really wanted and that was DH, and if so, I wouldn't change that. I love DH with all that I am.

 

[subaru555]

We have everything except a pram, car seat and crib. Clothes, shoes, nappies, bottles, sterilisers, maternity stuff, bath toys, bath set, towels etc..

Well it has been over 5 years...
It is in the house as we don't really believe in all that jinxing stuff. We both agreed it would be good to have everything ready from a money and stress point of view.

I run my own company so taking time off will be stressful too!

We are also decorating the whole house before january to ensure it's ready for the IVF starting so everything is stress free with the babies room ready.

I think it depends on your religion and personal thoughts. We are atheists sp don't believe in god and believe it will happen when it does because no-one's deciding that for us, my body's deciding. If it never does then it doesn't but we will always have each other and as you only live once, we really want to make the most of it! We still buy something if we see it and quite like it. I don't really see any problem with it if it makes you happy. I won't have much time for shopping when I'm pregnant as I'll have so much to arrange at work for when I'm off.

 

[TrixieLox]

Wowsers, I would never even dream of buying anything before I got preggo (hell, before I hit the 12 weeks mark if ever I do get preggo). Just doesn't feel right! It's less about jinxing, more about not wanting to take away from the fun of buying it all when I finally am pregnant... it just seems such a shame to buy stuff now and miss out on all the joy of buying stuff when you happily pregnant.

But each to their own ;-)

 

[Steph63]

We started TTC in May 2007 and went on hols in June 2007 and in our excitement bought 3 lovely little wooden toys because I had never seen anything like them at home, but that's it. I can't bear to look at them now.

 

[Angie33]

i dont have anything at all, i keep geting offered things like cot, clothes, ect but i have to refuse as i could not cope with baby items around. window shopping is bad enough.

 

[honeycat]

Tons of clothes, blankets, baby bath, and toys.
Not buying anymore until I get close to giving birth - having a m/c changes you, so even if I get another bfp I won't be able to buy stuff.

 

[Mynxie]

When I was pregnant the second time, it was so easy to but bits and pieces. I sort of felt guilty if I bought something for me and not something for LO, so within a few weeks we had 2 bags full of baby clothes. Sadly they weren't needed and went to friends and family.

 

[Nathyrra]

Haven't bought anything at all.

I don't believe in God, Fate, Jinxes or anything of the sort other than the fact that my body is calling the shots. Practically, we have just decided against it because it's too painful.

Saying that though, early on in our TTC journey, my husband and I went to a villiage fair and he won me 7 cuddly toys, we put them away in a box in the hope of giving them to our baby complete with a cute story about how daddy won them. That is all though. Even that story makes me sad now =(

 

[moxie08]

I respect what other people do to deal with their grief, but I have no problem myself buying anything baby or child related. Life may at any moment change, and that includes someday finally having a baby. I bought my first baby outfit when I was 20 and still in school: not because I was set on having kids, but because I liked it.

In older times, women spent years making clothes for their babies before actually having one. To me, I see preparing the physical space for a child as no different than preparing the heart and womb for one. Raising hope is not always a bad thing for those who know they have the support to get through the grief of disappointment when and if it comes.