How old is too old?

We have been blessed with there beautiful daughters and would love to TTC again. I am 37yo, my husband is 42 yo. Is this too old?

I am a little scared because there is so much talk about elevated risks.

I would love to hear your stories.

Definitely not! I had my DS at 34 and am TTC#2 at 39. My dr had no concerns and did the risk calculator and I was surprised that my risk didn't go up any percentage than when I was 34. Am not classified as high risk or AMA. Go for it!
 
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I'm 39 and TTC my first. Women in my family have had good luck conceiving at older ages. My sister had her first at 40, and wasn't even trying. My grandmother had my mom at 42. A lot of the stats around fertility over 35 being an issue are from the early 1900s. I kid you not. It's completely outdated and unreliable. Your first step is really to have your egg reservoir checked by a simple blood test.
 
My mom was 39 when she had me, and I'm about to turn 41 and am still wide open to another baby :) Go for it, mama! :)
 
I had my daughter at 33 (husband was 41), and my son at age 38, when my husband was 46. I was a bit worried about age too, especially with my 2nd, but both pregnancies were smooth - no issues-- thankfully! I did take longer to ge pregnant, with my 2nd. Sometimes I think fondly of a 3rd, but I'm 40 now and my husband 48....I wouldn't want to risk it at this age, although I'm sure we could have another with no problems, as well.
 
I had my daughter at 33 (husband was 41), and my son at age 38, when my husband was 46. I was a bit worried about age too, especially with my 2nd, but both pregnancies were smooth - no issues-- thankfully! I did take longer to ge pregnant, with my 2nd. Sometimes I think fondly of a 3rd, but I'm 40 now and my husband 48....I wouldn't want to risk it at this age, although I'm sure we could have another with no problems, as well.

Zeri, 33 and 38 are so young!!!! I delivered DS at 41. I didn't have trouble getting pregnant and had a great pregnancy (I had a 28 year old coming to me for reassurance that her's would get better as she'd had a miserable time throughout). Compared to his friends my son and I do far more and have far more energy than many with far younger parents. The big thing I'd say about starting older is that deciding to add to your family can be more difficult. by the time my cycle was back on track after breast feeding for nearly 2 years I was 43 when I tried for a second. If I'd had a partner it may have been ok but as I was using donor insemination I had limited opportunity to try and didn't manage.
 
We have been blessed with there beautiful daughters and would love to TTC again. I am 37yo, my husband is 42 yo. Is this too old?

I am a little scared because there is so much talk about elevated risks.

I would love to hear your stories.

I had my first baby at 42 ! A healthy baby girl. You are not too old!
 
I love this forum. I'm 39 and thinking of having my first. I am definitely encouraged by ready all of the posts.
 
I had my twin boys at 42 (via IUI cause of OH's sperm antibodies, not cause I was older!). 37 is young!
 
You are not too old! I just posted 'don't give up'. Very healthy lifestyle definitely helps.
 
Hi! I was 36 when started TTC. Unfortunately we had to take some of the assisted conception routes. Unfortunately 1 round clomid, 2 fresh cycles ivf with own eggs didn't bring success. Though time flew we had to take a long 1 year break to heal mentally, physically and emotionally. Then finally we were told we needed donor egg for the procedure. Fortunately our overseas clinic didn't have age limits only age limits.
So I'm driving to the point that as far as you have your eggs healthy and you feel strength and have great desire to have another baby -- just do it!
 
I'm 42 and expecting a rainbow baby girl in February. I have two grown DDs. So, I was terrified of the increased risks. After a ton of testing, though, it looks like our baby girl will be as healthy as can be (fingers crossed!). We did struggle to conceive for 2.5 years with two losses, but it was worth it in the end. Good luck to you!
 
i think it depends on the individuals. i was 23 when i fell pregnant with my 1st and currently ttc my 2nd. was ntnp/ttc for 2 years with my first and been ttc over 1 year for my second. ( soooo glad i started ttc sooner rather than later due to this reason)

reasons for me ttc so young is because i have endo. which can cause fertility issues. i also didnt want to wait because my mum and grandma went through menopause early ( pretty much over and done with at 40) which is another reason for me not to leave it late as in my head my fertility could peak sooner than most.

but if you are healthy enough and loving the idea of a baby then go for it!!
 
In my opinion, all over 40 is too old because the older you get, the higher risk that your baby will get ill or some kind of syndrome (ex. Down)
 
In my opinion, all over 40 is too old because the older you get, the higher risk that your baby will get ill or some kind of syndrome (ex. Down)

The risk does increase with age but there is a risk of birth defects with all ages.
I have seen very young women have very ill babies, some with down syndrome or other birth defects and I have seen women aged 40+ some even 45+ have perfectly healthy babies some with donor eggs and some with their own eggs. it all comes down to genetics and how well you take care of yourself , age is just a number, taking 3mg of folate every day helps prevent birth defects in all ages.
I dont think a woman should stop trying do to risks there are risks in everything, there are risks in even young women TTC. So if you think 40 is too old then you don't try over 40 ,
other women are free to do as their heart desires and many blessings to all women trying.
 
In my opinion, all over 40 is too old because the older you get, the higher risk that your baby will get ill or some kind of syndrome (ex. Down)

The risk does increase with age but there is a risk of birth defects with all ages.
I have seen very young women have very ill babies, some with down syndrome or other birth defects and I have seen women aged 40+ some even 45+ have perfectly healthy babies some with donor eggs and some with their own eggs. it all comes down to genetics and how well you take care of yourself , age is just a number, taking 3mg of folate every day helps prevent birth defects in all ages.
I dont think a woman should stop trying do to risks there are risks in everything, there are risks in even young women TTC. So if you think 40 is too old then you don't try over 40 ,
other women are free to do as their heart desires and many blessings to all women trying.

I totally agree.

Also it should be mentioned that even though the risks increase with age, overall they still remain very low. And with anything, a woman's individual circumstances are going to trump age every time.
 
Agreed^.
Sarahh89 it is easy to judge women of over 40 to be too old when you are fertile and in your 20s (which I assume the 89 indicates) but reality is different when you actually reach that age. Thank goodness, or I would be childless.
 
I think its something each couple have to decide for themselves taking the risks into account. I used to think I wouldnt have children over 35 when I was younger. Like you say its different when you get to that age. I think one of the biggest factors is that at some point you actually won't be able to get pregnant anymore so for those who are younger and thinking of waiting I would say dont wait too long but if you are already that age and want to try go for it.
 
I'm staring at a beautiful, healthy baby girl born 3 days ago to her very grateful 42 year old mum (yours truly). I have two grown daughters who have grown into wonderful young women, but IMO, this little girl will have an even better upbringing thanks to the patience I have learned over the past two decades.
 
Awwww, congratulations TTC74!! Was she a Valentine's baby?? My daughter was also born on Valentine's Day! :cloud9::cloud9::cloud9:
 

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