How the hell do you cope with the lonliness?

[Fisherwoman]

Hi all,

FOB left me a couple of weeks ago for another woman. It is my first weekend entirely by myself as I was at my parents last weekend.

Trouble is I know he is with this other woman, whilst I am at home alone on a Saturday with a gorgeous little boy, but with no grown ups to talk to. Am finding it really hard.

x x x

 

[Zedfaca]

It sounds like you're better off now. Do you go to any baby groups? Or can you arrange a girly night with anyone?

 

[expecting09]

Glass of vino, bubble bath, trash on tv, good book. It will get easier

 

[jess_smurf]

will get easier i am sure in the next few mths he will annoy you so much you will be glad your free of him

big hugs its very hard on your own xx

 

[18singlemom2b]

i know how you feel, only i haven't had my baby yet.

 

[bobblebot]

I know its hard, myex was a serial cheat and ended up having a baby with another woman, he cheated on me with her the week before we got married...and we both got pregnant only i lost mine at 3 months.

I dumped himbut i still miss him, he'snot with someone in particular just lots of f****buddies, being pregnant and hormonal i've been really depressed about it and crying buckets. I get so lonely and find being pregnant and alone for the first time really hard, especially as looks like i'm going to have to move house alone too.

I think its more missing having someone around that makes me lonley, not really missing him and I worry i'll never find anyone else. I've been married twice, have 4 kids from 15 yearmarriage and 1 from 2nd marriage whose 3. I wonder who the hell will be interested in a 40 year old woman with 6 kids!!!!

My eldest teenage boys are making life so hard at moment, one's leaving school and shows me no respect, both cuss me out, won't do nothing around the house and eldest cam in at 5.45am last friday!!!! I'm at my wits end with them and even thinking of getting them to live withtheir dad and his new wife. Amazingly he's agreed to it, but i feel so awful like i'm just washing my hands of them, and it makes me feel like i've failed in some way. Especially as i'm pregnant i feel like they'll think that i'm just getting rid of them cos i'm having another baby. I just don't know what to do, but i feel like the house is a hotel and i'm justthe cleaner and cook.

 

[littlekitten8]

It gets easier. The first few weeks I dreaded the evenings cos I would just sit and watch TV and it would seem like all that was on was couples and weddings and pregnancy and all the jazz I had lost out on. However I started trying to think more positive and know what? Now I actually enjoy my peace and quiet in the evenings. Most of the time! I still have nights where I am lonely but I just call a friend or put on a favourite DVD.

 

[billy2mm]

it is difficult but it gets easier!

do what ever you want. get friends round, have a pamper night, run a bubble bath, do your nails, go to bed and read a book or call and have a catch up with your friends.

everyone has different ways they use to cope its just a case of trying to find the one that works for you.

 

[hereigoagaino]

I know its hard, myex was a serial cheat and ended up having a baby with another woman, he cheated on me with her the week before we got married...and we both got pregnant only i lost mine at 3 months.

I dumped himbut i still miss him, he'snot with someone in particular just lots of f****buddies, being pregnant and hormonal i've been really depressed about it and crying buckets. I get so lonely and find being pregnant and alone for the first time really hard, especially as looks like i'm going to have to move house alone too.

I think its more missing having someone around that makes me lonley, not really missing him and I worry i'll never find anyone else. I've been married twice, have 4 kids from 15 yearmarriage and 1 from 2nd marriage whose 3. I wonder who the hell will be interested in a 40 year old woman with 6 kids!!!!

My eldest teenage boys are making life so hard at moment, one's leaving school and shows me no respect, both cuss me out, won't do nothing around the house and eldest cam in at 5.45am last friday!!!! I'm at my wits end with them and even thinking of getting them to live withtheir dad and his new wife. Amazingly he's agreed to it, but i feel so awful like i'm just washing my hands of them, and it makes me feel like i've failed in some way. Especially as i'm pregnant i feel like they'll think that i'm just getting rid of them cos i'm having another baby. I just don't know what to do, but i feel like the house is a hotel and i'm justthe cleaner and cook.

hiya, ive tryed to send you a pm but cant work out how, your lost stood out to me as i see you have 5 kids and another on the way, im in a simerlar situation with 4 kids already and one on the way. mine are 16,13,8 and 5 and my eldest has severe behavour problems.
maybe we can stay in touch, support each other a bit?
ive made a post today if you want to read it and find out about my situation, sounds like we have alot in common