How to explain a MC to a 4 yrs old?

[OmarsMum]

Kiddo was obsessed about his "brother"

I told him he went to the stars & he's watching us from there, he cried his eyes out bless him, but he's still in denial I guess. He still talks to my tummy , when I try to carry him he refuses & he tells me I will hurt the baby.

I'm trying to distract him everytime he mentions his "brother", he even gave his brother a name & he told his teachers & friends about him

It is heart breaking

 

[wantabean2]

I don't know what to say except I am so sorry for you and your lil dude xxx

 

[TTCabundle]

I'm so sorry for your loss

Theres a bit on the miscsrriage association website about explaining miscarriabe to children, I hope theres something that could help you.

im so sorry you and your family are dealing with this xx

 

[Septie]

Oh poor Omar! My 4 year old was very excited about the baby...But given my age, I had prepared him in advance - we always told him cells were forming, multiplying and growing, which may or may not turn into a baby (we had even looked at pictures online). That sometimes the cells are broken and need to come out early, because they can't grow into a baby. He is now asking if we are going to have cells growing again later...

 

[curlykate]

My LO was pretty excited as well. He would tickle my belly, and tell me the baby was laughing.
I think he knew something we up though, because a few weeks before my MMc, he started asking if the baby was still in my tummy, and if the baby was "not feeling well.". I chalked them up to normal questions, but then once I got the news, he seemed to stop asking about the baby at all. It's like he just knew it wasn't there anymore. He's asked a couple of times since then if I'm having a baby, and I just tell him "no, not now.". I also remind him that his aunt is going to have a baby soon (in march) and that satisfies him.

 

[lhancock90]

Oh hun, luckily for us Evelyn sort of forgot

I think the best you can do is to keep gently explaining that his brothers in the stars not Mummys tummy now,

 

[dairymomma]

I didn't tell my kids until I was further along with this baby for that reason but with my 14 week loss, I had told them we were going to have a baby about a month before I found out about the miscarriage. They didn't really think anything of it though and pretty much forgot which I was glad for. I couldn't think of how to explain it either.