How to get through the break up?

[tasha41]

OH and I are generally happy together, but the problem is, he is a good boyfriend and an "alright" dad. He is kinda lazy about things and doesn't take things as seriously as I do.. I always grab iron-fortified formula with Omega 3 & 6, she's had it for months, and somehow he always forgets and gets regular iron fortified if I leave him to it himself.. and we don't live together so I find myself doing basically everything for Elyse.. like 90% of her baths, diaper changes, meals and maybe 75% of her bedtimes I am completely on my own.. it just feels unfair. He is stubborn about things, and IDK.. if it came to it..

How do you get through your break up? I really do LOVE OH, and I don't want to break up. I am capable of being a single mom clearly and I want him as a boyfriend, but because he is her dad, I will not be with him if he doesn't make a lot of improvements..

I just worry I will want to lay in bed all day and feel like dying, but I'll have Elyse to take care of on my own, and how do you take care of your baby when you are bawling and just feeling like shit really? I've never been REALLY upset since having Elyse.. (okay, my dog died, but OH watched Elyse for 30 minutes while I did the bulk of my sobbing).. and I was sad and not as enthusiastic with her as I am other days for a day or two

We talk about things but because he isn't here with us, I am finding it hard for things to stick, but he refuses to move into an apartment.. IF we move into an apartment it will be no earlier than summer 2010 and out of necessity because we haven't found a house to buy (we have a down payment saved, working on establishing credit and we kinda have to save for other things that will come up.. paint.. light fixtures.. furniture.. etc). We plan to start looking in the spring.

Sorry I went off on a couple of tangents there but my main question was how you cope, take care of baby & you when you feel like just laying down and dying after your break up?

 

[purpledahlia]

sorry to hear how things are just now, I think you have to just let yourself ''grieve'' over the relationship, give yourself time. Once you get over someone thats the hardest part, you will find the strength.. it comes from nowhere, babys need strong mummys so it just takes over as natural instinct i guess.. just dont be afraid to ask for help from someone, family member, friend etc.. will take a few weeks but eventually ur happier than before and see everything in a new light xx

 

[xxannxx]

I think you just cope because you have to. Your LO needs taken care of, and you just don't have a choice but to get on with it.

 

[Ash_P]

i agree, u do it cause u have to, and its amazing how much strength u get when u have kids to think off. But keep urself calm, and do wot is best for u and LO. good luck hun x

 

[Vickie]

no advice really but I'm sorry that it's come to this, I hope he smartens up and realizes what he's missing out on