how to tell son about birth father

[moshpitmakeou]

I just posted my story as to how i'm a single mom here:
https://www.babyandbump.com/single-parents/35717-start-6.html

As Ted and I didn't really 'end things on peaceful terms' I don't exactly know what made him change his mind as to why he doesn't want to be part of his son's life. I want to be as honest with Landon when the time comes so he feels he can talk to me about his birth father, and we can both respect Ted's wishes to remain uninvolved.

I'm not sure if I should give Ted one last go on asking him why, but truth be told, I don't think he even has figured out for himself why exactly. All I know right now is that Ted wanted to pursue a music career and his out of state college education. Ted's parents grounded him from dating his senior year as punishment for getting his girlfriend pregnant (crazy, right ?) so we'd have to sneak around, and I think that finally just got the better of him. I'm sure it was REALLY hard for him to continually do that.

How have you single parents out there talked to your kids about their birth parent's not being there?

Again, I won't have to worry about this for quite some time, but I don't know if I should try to speak with Ted before Landon is born about the matter. (I don't think he'll actually have an answer though anyways).

 

[Jkelmum]

Maybe wait and see how baby,s dad is once baby is here he may well change again ....then i would speak with baby dad askin if he would maybe write a letter for your baby to read when he is older and a pic of him that may help your son when he is older ...Jakes dad only just got on touch after 13 yrs and my sons responce why do i want to know him when he asnt wanted to know me ? So therefore still they have no contact xxx

 

[moshpitmakeou]

that's a good idea. i'll remember that i don't forsee ted changing the second landon is born, but its possible when ted goes away to college & is away from his parents his views may change. thanks