how your partners fell about TTC ????

[booboo19]

Just wondered how your DH/partners are coping with TTC???? I know for myself somedays the waiting is unbearable & im at the point (now 13 months TTC) where i think its not going to happen I can be a nightmare for my partner at times, He seems to take it all in his stride and tells me it will happen, im not finding that much help. I dont think he really knows how devistated i am each month when my comes ? I know he want a as much as me but it his " laid back ' approach about it annoys me !!! Perhaps its a woman thing ????? All i think about is getting pregnant

 

[booboo19]

Sorry folks should say, how your partners feel about TTC !!!

 

[zehava]

hiya (newb here).

my partner seems to be the same as yours. he's very "don't stress, it'll happen!" while i'm doing all i can to force myself to stop thinking about getting knocked up!!

this is our 9th cycle. i can see how he'd be so easy going for the first 3-6. but, gah, NINE! and he's still "it'll happen when it happens".

i do have to admit that i do appreciate his easy going ways. i can't imagine what it would be like if we were both stressing about it. he keeps me calm. that's not an easy job lately.

 

[Shelley71]

Mine wants to have babies, for sure. That is not the problem. The problem is that he doesn't want to get into fertility specialists right now, and that is where we are headed. We are coming up on 6 months TTC, but I stopped tracking everything about a month or so ago because of his lack of interest in fertility.

So, I am waiting for AF, so I can see, for sure, if I am Oing or not. If not, I'm getting tested no matter what.

 

[dachsundmom]

Mine has his good day and bad; well, not really bad, but indifferent. He supports, for the most part, whatever I decide to do, but he would much prefer to take the easy road and just have a lot of sex! Lol.

He has figured out that it doesn't work like that, but whenever I get too medical about it, I can see him drifting off.

 

[Shelley71]

Mine has his good day and bad; well, not really bad, but indifferent. He supports, for the most part, whatever I decide to do, but he would much prefer to take the easy road and just have a lot of sex! Lol.

He has figured out that it doesn't work like that, but whenever I get too medical about it, I can see him drifting off.

Your DH sounds like my OH. LOL

 

[readyformore]

Well, my DH is going along with the whole "Let's have another baby now" idea because it's what I want. I'm ok with that. He will bd on demand (thank god because last night I actually had to wake him up and he was more than willing to perform, lol).

He is actually very supportive (even though he'd be fine if we never had another), but he HATES to see me so upset. And let me tell you. . . I've been upset. It's to the point where I might want more children, but I don't think I could ever ttc again, frankly, it just hurts too much.

Honestly, I think it just boils down to how men and women are different. We feel an urgency and men don't. They don't have that drive that we do.

 

[Indigo77]

Mine is 100% onboard and can't wait to be a dad...
He pretty much just follows my lead and likes to call me BossLady...

to those with less than enthusiastic hubbies...

 

[Macwooly]

I'm fortunate in that mine is 100% on board as well.

Good luck to all and hope you all get your BFP soon

 

[dachsundmom]

Mine has his good day and bad; well, not really bad, but indifferent. He supports, for the most part, whatever I decide to do, but he would much prefer to take the easy road and just have a lot of sex! Lol.

He has figured out that it doesn't work like that, but whenever I get too medical about it, I can see him drifting off.

Your DH sounds like my OH. LOL

I have learned it is better to tell mine how things are working vs. how I would like them to work, lol. Note being demanding, but offering less options per se, lol.

 

[cebethel]

Mine is 100% onboard and can't wait to be a dad...
He pretty much just follows my lead and likes to call me BossLady...

to those with less than enthusiastic hubbies...

My DH is all for it! Especially when it involves He tried to convince me that we needed a quickie in the bathroom at my inlaws place ummm no! All I need is to be caught in a compromising position by my MIL

If I tell him I need ttc supplies he just says "yes dear"

 

[booboo19]

hiya (newb here).

my partner seems to be the same as yours. he's very "don't stress, it'll happen!" while i'm doing all i can to force myself to stop thinking about getting knocked up!!

this is our 9th cycle. i can see how he'd be so easy going for the first 3-6. but, gah, NINE! and he's still "it'll happen when it happens".

i do have to admit that i do appreciate his easy going ways. i can't imagine what it would be like if we were both stressing about it. he keeps me calm. that's not an easy job lately.

Yes your right about the fact that it would be a nightmare if your partner was stressing too, thats the same for me !! I just suppose i want him to show me more its as important to him as it is to me. We have been trying for 13 months now and it really feels like its never going to happen

Anyway welcome, i hope being on here helps your path to TTC easier

 

[FionaJames24]

I just stumbled across this and felt I had to tell you my hubby's response - he is keen for a child and - thankfully - he performs on demand..but he's definitely more laid back than me. He's 44 and doesn't have any children, and I think he felt that he wasn't going to until I came along. When I first men him, he said he wasn't too worried about having chidlren, it wasn't a big deal for him, so I worried that I was forcing the issue a bit even though he said I wasn't. But when I fell pregnant and m/c, we were both so upset, as awful as it was, it really cemented the fact that we both wanted children as much as each other. My poor hubby has a lower drive than me, if you know what I mean, but he has excelled himself every month I must say (he goes for it hammer and tong and then takes a week to recover bless 'him - we'll have to wait and see if it works!) x