Hubby just not into the in-utero part...

[cookette]

Anyone else's husband like this? He humors me and will watch my bump move, and finally felt her for the first time, but is not like a lot of husbands who apparently talk to the baby or rub their wife's belly.

Im fine with this and understand, even if it is slightly disapointing. He comes to every Dr appt and loves the ultrasounds, he's the one who picked her name, etc. But as he said "Im just ready to play with her when she's HERE!"

Am I alone?

 

[Leliana]

Nope, this is my experience exactly! I talk about bubs all the time with DH but he is mostly just doing it to humour me. He never does anything at all without prompting and is only really interested in the 'scientific' part (ultrasounds, doppler appointments etc). He does like feeling the baby move but I have to ask him to try.

However, having seen how amazing he was with my DD when she was born I know it is simply because he can't connect to LO in the same way as I can during pregnancy. I do get envious of other women whose husbands treat them so tenderly during pregnancy but I also remember that he will be fantastic at the time when I need it the very most. I fell in love with him all over again when DD was born and I know it will be the same this time too

 

[Spiffynoodles]

My DH is the same way. Men are visual creatures, and a lot of them just can't bond with someone they can't see yet. My DH will feel baby move if I say, "Here, put your hand on my belly," but will never do it on his own, and never talks to the baby, except when he's saying something sarcastic that's really for my benefit.

Honestly, I think he mostly sees baby as another potential crying/pooping/puking machine until he actually meets him/her.

 

[Kier721]

I'm right there with yah!

 

[Gnomer]

My OH isn't interested in my belly, but in all honesty, neither am I haha. If I'm lay in bed and she happens to move, I'll shove my hand on belly or watch her for a jiff. OH will occasionally put his hand on my belly, but not often.
Although we love her and cannot wait to see her, we just don't mention her very much haha. We can go a few days before a topic pops up about her. It sounds terrible, but it's just the way we are.

 

[Bmama]

My DH is like this now and was like this with my first. He does occasionally put his hand on my belly and will try and feel baby move, but as he says he is in a different position than I am in with the baby 'inside me'. But, he is THE BEST father to our ds so even though he wasn't into the belly rubbing/talking as much as me, he is a great father nonetheless

 

[Anaconda]

My OH is exactly like that. He LOVES ultrasounds, his face just lights up when he sees his little one on the screen and when he hears the heart beat. But when it comes to talking to my belly or anything like that he doesn't have much interest in it. I kind of have to force him to touch my belly to try and feel baby boy's movements. FINALLY on Sunday he felt a little twitch from a kick but I think I was more excited about it then him -.-

But it's fine. I've accepted it. He was like this with our daughter and he is an amazing father and absolutely loves her. He cried at her birth and fell so in love with her then so I know it will be that way again this time

 

[minties]

Mine was never interested in my bump at all. I think he felt one kick when I was 20 weeks with my first, that was it. Plenty interested in the resulting offspring though

 

[maddog37]

My DH isn't interested at all either. This is my second pregnancy and he chose not to come to any ultrasound (even when I had to get an additional one done because they couldn't see the heart properly) or midwife appointment. I rented a doppler for a couple of months and he didn't even bother to hear the heartbeat.

t got pretty upset about the last ultrasound because it seems like he's giving up on this beautiful opportunity to see his child but he's just not interested in utero stuff. I think he's a bit skeeved out about all things pregnancy, tbh.

The other night I felt the baby kicking and quickly forced his hand on my belly. I think all he said was, "ok". That has been his only interaction. Sigh!